Tell me EVERYTHING you would have to do to change your behavior if you were a member of a different gender (man or woman) NOT a member of a different sex- in our U.S. Culture.
Basically if you were biologically a woman and wanted to be perceived as a man... what changes would need to be made? Same with for men, if you wanted to be perceived by others as a woman, what changes would need to be made?
Keep in mind APPEARANCE, ATTITUDE, or BEHAVIOR (feel free to add other categories) those are just some to get you thinking.
One example: a man that wants to be perceived as a woman would try to lose weight to fit the %26quot;thin%26quot; idea of being a woman.
A woman that wants to be perceived as a man would act tough (no emotion, strong willed and such).
**Think of how you would help an alien (who has no gender identity) appear to be a man or woman in the United States.
Back up your tips with reasoning as to why you included them
:o) Thank you so much, i'm completing a project!!!Sociology Project: Please answer, I need a certain amount of people's answers :o)?As a women I see us being nurturing and gentle so to become a man I would have to retrain myself to be selfish (not selfish but put myself first) and to think directly and definitely. Women can often get side tracked with 'what if...' or things that 'could be' where as I see men only deal with substance that they can see. I would have to let go of inconsecurities, romance, and putting others concerns first. Men tend to be self sured, self reliant, self concerned, self trained and self maintained. Socially I would have to loosen up and be able to joke like a man, put downs, bathroom hummor and all. The hardest would to be to clear my mind and think of nothing like when a man is asked 'what are you thinking?' they truthfully answer 'nothing'.
In college I tried to look like a man for a short while. I don't think I was fooling anyone but I would have to change my hair, baseball caps, maybe hide behind masculine glasses, mens baggy clothes in layers and slouch, strut and be aloft. It would be funny to try to be a metrosexual male, that might be more convincing.
hope this helps and good luck (see female response!)Sociology Project: Please answer, I need a certain amount of people's answers :o)?i would be a girl, that was hot. healthy. took care of herself. but i wouldnt be a *****.Sociology Project: Please answer, I need a certain amount of people's answers :o)?i don't know what to tell yalol i had to do this last semester too so i think i can contribute
wow i so coulda made my class 100 times easier if i thought of using Y!A
I would need to tone up meaning I'd probably have an extra payment for gym membership because realistically girls always try to achieve the perfect body portrayed by the media. I'd need to be more opinionated and express my feelings more because girls are sassy and like to talk about things and you would need your own strong opinions on stuff. I'd probably be more needy and asking my parents for a lot more without being so considerate because girls always get what they want or try the best they can to. I'd have to get used to spending money without knowing how to save living check by check for clothes, make-up, accessories, and whatever else that makes a girl feel better about themselves. I'd need to learn how to cry more often in difficult situations and to get myself out of a jam (getting a ticket, getting in trouble by the parents, etc).
That about does it for me. GL on your hw.I would advise an alien to take on the persona of a female.
Because they wouldn't know anything.
A male is expected to know something about everything, at least enough that someone doesn't call, 'b@ll$hyt'.
A female is expected or can easily defer any questions by giggling and saying,'I don't know'. And if they are pressured they can just ask a male to explain it to them. Nothing out of line there...Well, if I wanted to be perceived as a man I guess I would have to start by the obvious of changing my appearance, ie. cutting my hair short, trying to grow facial hair, donning on menswear, etc. I would probably start eating a lot of protein to bulk and have heavy muscle definition as men are suppose to be bulky and strong. But I think the most essential key to becoming a man would be to change my behaviour. I think one would have to be more confident, straightforward, and take more risk. I think I wouldn't have any more inhibitions about sex because the social stimulus that is connected with women and sexuality would be gone as it is socially acceptable for a man to sleep with as many women as they like.
Wednesday 26 October 2011
I need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?
Tell me EVERYTHING you would have to do to change your behavior if you were a member of a different gender (man or woman) NOT a member of a different sex- in our U.S. Culture.
Basically if you were biologically a woman and wanted to be perceived as a man... what changes would need to be made? Same with for men, if you wanted to be perceived by others as a woman, what changes would need to be made?
Keep in mind APPEARANCE, ATTITUDE, or BEHAVIOR (feel free to add other categories) those are just some to get you thinking.
One example: a man that wants to be perceived as a woman would try to lose weight to fit the %26quot;thin%26quot; idea of being a woman.
A woman that wants to be perceived as a man would act tough (no emotion, strong willed and such).
**Think of how you would help an alien (who has no gender identity) appear to be a man or woman in the United States.
Back up your tips with reasoning as to why you included them
:o) Thank you so much, i'm completing a project!!!I need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?well 1st i would become more into my strongness and not care bout much cause guys r just way laid backI need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?First i would make sure that i ended my life.
Second I wouldI need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?Generally, women tend to be more sensitive than men, and they are also quick to over react a lot more often.
So, I think that the biggest change that a female would have to make when changing her perception is personality traits.
She'd need to become more laid back and care-free.om yah in my eyes thats against god changing gender but please go answer mine
Basically if you were biologically a woman and wanted to be perceived as a man... what changes would need to be made? Same with for men, if you wanted to be perceived by others as a woman, what changes would need to be made?
Keep in mind APPEARANCE, ATTITUDE, or BEHAVIOR (feel free to add other categories) those are just some to get you thinking.
One example: a man that wants to be perceived as a woman would try to lose weight to fit the %26quot;thin%26quot; idea of being a woman.
A woman that wants to be perceived as a man would act tough (no emotion, strong willed and such).
**Think of how you would help an alien (who has no gender identity) appear to be a man or woman in the United States.
Back up your tips with reasoning as to why you included them
:o) Thank you so much, i'm completing a project!!!I need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?well 1st i would become more into my strongness and not care bout much cause guys r just way laid backI need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?First i would make sure that i ended my life.
Second I wouldI need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?Generally, women tend to be more sensitive than men, and they are also quick to over react a lot more often.
So, I think that the biggest change that a female would have to make when changing her perception is personality traits.
She'd need to become more laid back and care-free.om yah in my eyes thats against god changing gender but please go answer mine
Please answer logically, its for a sociology project people!?
Tell me EVERYTHING you would have to do to change your behavior if you were a member of a different gender (man or woman) NOT a member of a different sex- in our U.S. Culture.
Basically if you were biologically a woman and wanted to be perceived as a man... what changes would need to be made? Same with for men, if you wanted to be perceived by others as a woman, what changes would need to be made?
Keep in mind APPEARANCE, ATTITUDE, or BEHAVIOR (feel free to add other categories) those are just some to get you thinking.
One example: a man that wants to be perceived as a woman would try to lose weight to fit the %26quot;thin%26quot; idea of being a woman.
A woman that wants to be perceived as a man would act tough (no emotion, strong willed and such).
**Think of how you would help an alien (who has no gender identity) appear to be a man or woman in the United States.
Back up your tips with reasoning as to why you included them
:o) Thank you so much, i'm completing a project!!!Please answer logically, its for a sociology project people!?i am a male and this is what i would do to try and be a women
APPEARANCE:
1.because i have short hair i would grow it out to a girlish length because women typically have long hair.
2.i would be women's clothes because if your going to be a women you definately need to look the part.
3.cosmetically i would get everything waxed or at least shaven to preven me from looking like a hairy old transexual prostitute.
4.wear makeup to give me that girlish %26quot;tent%26quot; i guess
5.never wear shorts so that my manly legs will be covered up
ATTITUDE/BEHAVIOR
1.i would probably start to be more helpful and kind (not that im not now) and in a sense kind of motherly in a way to put of like feminie like feel i guess you could say
2.i would try not to do manly things like sitting with my legs spread apart or lean on a wall or desk or possibly even burt or fart
3.to be more girly i guess i would have to be a little bit more %26quot;flaky%26quot; (not to be sexest) but less to the point and more comforting in deliverence of information or other like things
4.always a positive attitutude because only fat ugly obeses women have bad attitudes.
5.some how make my voice more girly i guess through use of testosterone.
good luck with your projectget rid of beauty marks Where I can find nice modern comforters
Basically if you were biologically a woman and wanted to be perceived as a man... what changes would need to be made? Same with for men, if you wanted to be perceived by others as a woman, what changes would need to be made?
Keep in mind APPEARANCE, ATTITUDE, or BEHAVIOR (feel free to add other categories) those are just some to get you thinking.
One example: a man that wants to be perceived as a woman would try to lose weight to fit the %26quot;thin%26quot; idea of being a woman.
A woman that wants to be perceived as a man would act tough (no emotion, strong willed and such).
**Think of how you would help an alien (who has no gender identity) appear to be a man or woman in the United States.
Back up your tips with reasoning as to why you included them
:o) Thank you so much, i'm completing a project!!!Please answer logically, its for a sociology project people!?i am a male and this is what i would do to try and be a women
APPEARANCE:
1.because i have short hair i would grow it out to a girlish length because women typically have long hair.
2.i would be women's clothes because if your going to be a women you definately need to look the part.
3.cosmetically i would get everything waxed or at least shaven to preven me from looking like a hairy old transexual prostitute.
4.wear makeup to give me that girlish %26quot;tent%26quot; i guess
5.never wear shorts so that my manly legs will be covered up
ATTITUDE/BEHAVIOR
1.i would probably start to be more helpful and kind (not that im not now) and in a sense kind of motherly in a way to put of like feminie like feel i guess you could say
2.i would try not to do manly things like sitting with my legs spread apart or lean on a wall or desk or possibly even burt or fart
3.to be more girly i guess i would have to be a little bit more %26quot;flaky%26quot; (not to be sexest) but less to the point and more comforting in deliverence of information or other like things
4.always a positive attitutude because only fat ugly obeses women have bad attitudes.
5.some how make my voice more girly i guess through use of testosterone.
good luck with your project
How do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?
i have problems with my self - esteem and i always listen to others. I also have problems with changing my attitude. im very negative %26amp; i don't like that about me so help me try to change please.How do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?If you remember this one important rule in life, it will go a long way to helping you.
%26quot; People will only like of love you as much as you like or love yourself%26quot;
To expand on this, you will not grow as a person until you can be yourself.
Good luck. Life is hard but it is also beautiful. Take careHow do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?Change happens when you listen to enough people and realize that they are just as clueless and uncertain as you are about the real nature of things.
The difference is that you are open to admitting it, whereas they tend to think that they will believe their own garbage if they yell it a little louder, or tell more people.
Try telling yourself that your views are just as valid, if not more than other people's viewpoints. Realize that being yourself, you have a unique perspective on the situation that no other advice giver has. They are not you, you are not them. They will not take responsibility for you if you fall, and that's really the biggest reason to be your own person.
As for negativity, it's not that different either. If you observe closely enough, you will notice that your negativity is not 100% consistent. There are times when hope seeps through, when happiness gets in. Find out why this happens, and what you can do to expand its influence. Also realize that negative things might have happened to you at some stage that cause you to follow a downward spiral of self-damaging thoughts. Draw a good balance between optimism and realism. A lot of people take %26quot;think positive%26quot; to the limit, and end up more depressed than ever, because now from being negative, they are now trying to control reality. This can only lead to more frustration and lack of faith. You can either attempt to completely control your environment, or adapt yourself to its challenges. Doing the latter will make you much more sure of yourself. There won't be any room for negativity then.
Upon realizing and accepting your right to exist, and the right of your brain to have powerful and intelligent opinions, you will stop listening to people and start listening more to yourself. All of this will be dust off your shoulder when you get there.How do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?What's wrong with listening to others?
The best thing is that you can judge what is accurate or helpful.
Ie, not like people tell you to disobey your parents cuz its a low thing to do.. and you disobey them.. this is bad.
So, you need to also put a judgment in your head when you listen to their views.
Noone can help you change. You have to make your own decision yourself. Learn the positive patterns or make good and useful friends etc.Low self esteem means that you give too much attention to what others think of you. You're just going to have to learn to not do this - to believe in yourself, instead.
How?
By taking the first step, and by responding differently, more confidently, the very next time this happens.
Good luckjust accept your self for who you are now. if you can do that, in time, the change will come on its own
%26quot; People will only like of love you as much as you like or love yourself%26quot;
To expand on this, you will not grow as a person until you can be yourself.
Good luck. Life is hard but it is also beautiful. Take careHow do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?Change happens when you listen to enough people and realize that they are just as clueless and uncertain as you are about the real nature of things.
The difference is that you are open to admitting it, whereas they tend to think that they will believe their own garbage if they yell it a little louder, or tell more people.
Try telling yourself that your views are just as valid, if not more than other people's viewpoints. Realize that being yourself, you have a unique perspective on the situation that no other advice giver has. They are not you, you are not them. They will not take responsibility for you if you fall, and that's really the biggest reason to be your own person.
As for negativity, it's not that different either. If you observe closely enough, you will notice that your negativity is not 100% consistent. There are times when hope seeps through, when happiness gets in. Find out why this happens, and what you can do to expand its influence. Also realize that negative things might have happened to you at some stage that cause you to follow a downward spiral of self-damaging thoughts. Draw a good balance between optimism and realism. A lot of people take %26quot;think positive%26quot; to the limit, and end up more depressed than ever, because now from being negative, they are now trying to control reality. This can only lead to more frustration and lack of faith. You can either attempt to completely control your environment, or adapt yourself to its challenges. Doing the latter will make you much more sure of yourself. There won't be any room for negativity then.
Upon realizing and accepting your right to exist, and the right of your brain to have powerful and intelligent opinions, you will stop listening to people and start listening more to yourself. All of this will be dust off your shoulder when you get there.How do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?What's wrong with listening to others?
The best thing is that you can judge what is accurate or helpful.
Ie, not like people tell you to disobey your parents cuz its a low thing to do.. and you disobey them.. this is bad.
So, you need to also put a judgment in your head when you listen to their views.
Noone can help you change. You have to make your own decision yourself. Learn the positive patterns or make good and useful friends etc.Low self esteem means that you give too much attention to what others think of you. You're just going to have to learn to not do this - to believe in yourself, instead.
How?
By taking the first step, and by responding differently, more confidently, the very next time this happens.
Good luckjust accept your self for who you are now. if you can do that, in time, the change will come on its own
My grandma is CRAZY!! Don't you think she crossed the line JUST A BIT?!
so about a week ago, me and my grandma got in a HUUUGE fight. it's a REALLY long story...feel free not to answer this if you dont wanna read it, lol. but its kinda interesting.
she's moving into a new house, so i came over to help her. i needed to call home for a minute to see when i had to be home, and when i was on the phone i was STILL helping put things away. my grandma was in the house...keep that in mind.
for some reason it was taking forever to get an answer out of my mom, so i was on the phone longer than expected. i walked a little bit away from the car (we were getting stuff from there and putting them inside), and my grandma comes back out. she went up to me and yelled %26quot;jess, you need to get off the damn phone and help us, all you're doing is walking around!!%26quot; and i had 2 people talking to me on the phone by now (don't ask me how, lol) and her yelling at me...i might have raised my voice a LITTLE bit (no i'm not being sarcastic) when i said %26quot;grandma, i was just putting stuff away.%26quot; and she said %26quot;no you weren't! you were walking around on the phone, just letting everyone else do the work!%26quot; i kept telling her that no offense, but she wouldn't know this because she was in the house..so that got her mad and she told me not to get an %26quot;attitude%26quot; with her. i just said sorry but i'm not. then she told me to get my stuff, i'm going home. so i went and got all my crap and went back downstairs. i called my mom back to tell her i was coming home because apparently i did something wrong..now i didn't know she could hear me say that. so she comes in and she said %26quot;oh you didn't do anything wrong?! BULLSHIT!!%26quot; and my mom could hear her..so i just said this is going nowhere and i know i didn't do anything. haha THEN....this is definitely where she crossed the line. she said %26quot;you need an attitude change, you AND your mother%26quot;. OHH BOYY. that is when i flipped out on her. NO ONE talks about my mom, cause she's been through a lot with my dad and everything (this is my dad's mom i'm arguing with btw), but she doesn't know the whole story so she thinks my mom is the spawn of the devil or something. anyway, i told her she wouldn't dare say ONE more word against my mom, and reminded her of when she called her cold-hearted..and then she said it's true. so i got REALLY mad and started yelling at her because she had NO RIGHT to say that to me. she kept saying things like %26quot;when you're 21, i'm telling you the truth about this mess with your parents%26quot; and i said i already knew the truth and GUESS WHAT. she kept telling me the same thing over again. so we got in the car...unfortunately for me, EVERYONE was in the car. my cousins and my little brother, too. we were basically screaming at each other now because she kept provoking me %26amp; trying to make me feel guilty. she just wouldn't SHUT THE HELL UP. at least i eventually became the bigger, more mature person and shut my mouth. but she kept on going and eventually i just told her to shut up because it's still going nowhere and she keeps going and going and going.
okay sorry that was so long...but i really need to know if you blame me. she's always stomping all over me..well mentally, anyway. i have to tiptoe around her so she doesn't blow up like that. i had been holding that in for years and i had to let it out..i don't regret it one bit because she had it coming, talking about my mom like that. she's known to be completely over dramatic and throw little temper tantrums like a 3 year old...this isn't because of old age because she's still in her late 50s. she was just born that way. i shouldn't have to deal with that crap.
so first of all, i want to know if you wouldve done the same thing.
and second, how do i just ignore comments she makes? i can't get away from her because my dad lives at her house temporarily.
ugh she drives me crazy 24/7, what am i supposed to do?!My grandma is CRAZY!! Don't you think she crossed the line JUST A BIT?!First off I think you probably was on the phone longer then you thought.
However why was it your responsiblity to help your grandma move??? My child is 17 years old and the only way I would expect him to help some one else move even a family member (other then us of course) is if you wanted to or he was getting paid. If you through the entire families responsiblities on our kids they would never get a free moment for any fun...
Furthermore you need to stay the hell away from your grandma. I am not saying you was right in the way the arguement started maybe you wasn't maybe you was, I really don't know. However you grandmother should have NEVER brought your parents problems into your arguement. That was way out of line...
It sounds to me like she is angry with your mother and taking it out on you. that is a sick thing to do..My grandma is CRAZY!! Don't you think she crossed the line JUST A BIT?!I guarantee you were on the phone longer than you thought.You could have left a voice mail message or waited til you got a break to make those calls hon.To stop helping when there is work to do to make phone calls aggravates all others who are working their tails off.I see this where I work ALL the time.My grandma is CRAZY!! Don't you think she crossed the line JUST A BIT?!You can choose your friends but not your family! Talk things over with your grandma, she did cross the line a bit...blimey! wot a problem!
ur gandma was out of order and she made it luk like u had lied. If she doesnt understamnd, i would talk to ur dad and explain and just say until she talks to you with respect, that you will not be goin round her house to visit her or your dad. That will encourage ur dad to speak to her aswell. She should apologise. You were also doing her a favour by helpin her move and if shes not grateful... i would wait 4 an apologyYour Grandma did cross the line. She should not have said those things that is for sure. However, I do think that perhaps you should have a waited for a break in the action to make your phone call. She probably felt that it was unfair that you were on the phone while she was working and being on the phone can be a distracting thing and it is possible that you were on it longer than what you thought.
she's moving into a new house, so i came over to help her. i needed to call home for a minute to see when i had to be home, and when i was on the phone i was STILL helping put things away. my grandma was in the house...keep that in mind.
for some reason it was taking forever to get an answer out of my mom, so i was on the phone longer than expected. i walked a little bit away from the car (we were getting stuff from there and putting them inside), and my grandma comes back out. she went up to me and yelled %26quot;jess, you need to get off the damn phone and help us, all you're doing is walking around!!%26quot; and i had 2 people talking to me on the phone by now (don't ask me how, lol) and her yelling at me...i might have raised my voice a LITTLE bit (no i'm not being sarcastic) when i said %26quot;grandma, i was just putting stuff away.%26quot; and she said %26quot;no you weren't! you were walking around on the phone, just letting everyone else do the work!%26quot; i kept telling her that no offense, but she wouldn't know this because she was in the house..so that got her mad and she told me not to get an %26quot;attitude%26quot; with her. i just said sorry but i'm not. then she told me to get my stuff, i'm going home. so i went and got all my crap and went back downstairs. i called my mom back to tell her i was coming home because apparently i did something wrong..now i didn't know she could hear me say that. so she comes in and she said %26quot;oh you didn't do anything wrong?! BULLSHIT!!%26quot; and my mom could hear her..so i just said this is going nowhere and i know i didn't do anything. haha THEN....this is definitely where she crossed the line. she said %26quot;you need an attitude change, you AND your mother%26quot;. OHH BOYY. that is when i flipped out on her. NO ONE talks about my mom, cause she's been through a lot with my dad and everything (this is my dad's mom i'm arguing with btw), but she doesn't know the whole story so she thinks my mom is the spawn of the devil or something. anyway, i told her she wouldn't dare say ONE more word against my mom, and reminded her of when she called her cold-hearted..and then she said it's true. so i got REALLY mad and started yelling at her because she had NO RIGHT to say that to me. she kept saying things like %26quot;when you're 21, i'm telling you the truth about this mess with your parents%26quot; and i said i already knew the truth and GUESS WHAT. she kept telling me the same thing over again. so we got in the car...unfortunately for me, EVERYONE was in the car. my cousins and my little brother, too. we were basically screaming at each other now because she kept provoking me %26amp; trying to make me feel guilty. she just wouldn't SHUT THE HELL UP. at least i eventually became the bigger, more mature person and shut my mouth. but she kept on going and eventually i just told her to shut up because it's still going nowhere and she keeps going and going and going.
okay sorry that was so long...but i really need to know if you blame me. she's always stomping all over me..well mentally, anyway. i have to tiptoe around her so she doesn't blow up like that. i had been holding that in for years and i had to let it out..i don't regret it one bit because she had it coming, talking about my mom like that. she's known to be completely over dramatic and throw little temper tantrums like a 3 year old...this isn't because of old age because she's still in her late 50s. she was just born that way. i shouldn't have to deal with that crap.
so first of all, i want to know if you wouldve done the same thing.
and second, how do i just ignore comments she makes? i can't get away from her because my dad lives at her house temporarily.
ugh she drives me crazy 24/7, what am i supposed to do?!My grandma is CRAZY!! Don't you think she crossed the line JUST A BIT?!First off I think you probably was on the phone longer then you thought.
However why was it your responsiblity to help your grandma move??? My child is 17 years old and the only way I would expect him to help some one else move even a family member (other then us of course) is if you wanted to or he was getting paid. If you through the entire families responsiblities on our kids they would never get a free moment for any fun...
Furthermore you need to stay the hell away from your grandma. I am not saying you was right in the way the arguement started maybe you wasn't maybe you was, I really don't know. However you grandmother should have NEVER brought your parents problems into your arguement. That was way out of line...
It sounds to me like she is angry with your mother and taking it out on you. that is a sick thing to do..My grandma is CRAZY!! Don't you think she crossed the line JUST A BIT?!I guarantee you were on the phone longer than you thought.You could have left a voice mail message or waited til you got a break to make those calls hon.To stop helping when there is work to do to make phone calls aggravates all others who are working their tails off.I see this where I work ALL the time.My grandma is CRAZY!! Don't you think she crossed the line JUST A BIT?!You can choose your friends but not your family! Talk things over with your grandma, she did cross the line a bit...blimey! wot a problem!
ur gandma was out of order and she made it luk like u had lied. If she doesnt understamnd, i would talk to ur dad and explain and just say until she talks to you with respect, that you will not be goin round her house to visit her or your dad. That will encourage ur dad to speak to her aswell. She should apologise. You were also doing her a favour by helpin her move and if shes not grateful... i would wait 4 an apologyYour Grandma did cross the line. She should not have said those things that is for sure. However, I do think that perhaps you should have a waited for a break in the action to make your phone call. She probably felt that it was unfair that you were on the phone while she was working and being on the phone can be a distracting thing and it is possible that you were on it longer than what you thought.
HELP ME?? how do i act?? what should i do?? how do i change?
alright this was a yahoo answer which explains everything about me!
EVERYTHING
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1- your attitude seems like its ready to burst. i've got a feeling (because i was like you till i started getting popular a year ago, i'm now 16) that when you do go to a party, you wouldn't know how to act, you'll probably just sit in a corner looking at other people, sweating on how to react to other people OR you might go to the party and act like a fool and then no one will still invite you to any more parties.
Only you know the answer to this one, as only you know how you will act. you must feel confident that you will neither be too quiet, or too excited.
(THAT IS ALL TRUEEE! HELP)
2- The reason you might not be invited:
- looks - but i doubt thats the problem, ive got a friend who doesn't have the best looks in the world, but she gets invited.
(IM NOT PRETTY)
- attitude- perhaps your attitude seems ignorant, arrogant, scary, annoying, meany, too happy, too excited etc. Work this out yourself.
(TRUE AS WELL)
- Something Happened- Perhaps you was with a friend and then you made a fool out of yourself and hurt the one person that would cause all this
(I CALLED A POPULAR GIRL, %26quot;NOT HOT%26quot; BECAUSE FOR 3 YEARS SHE USE TO SAY STUFF ABOUT ME, ANYWAY SHE FOUND ON AN SHE WENT ON FACEBOOK AN EMBARRASSED ME IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE SCHOOL, HELP)
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all of that is true.. the caps stuff is me.. how do i get rid of all of this??HELP ME?? how do i act?? what should i do?? how do i change?Have you ever notice why almost of the comedian have no pretty face? Because they are not good for it Comedian have no pretty face but they are popular. Why because they are good.Very good. They make people laugh.Pretty woman has also many insecurities in life. Almost all of us has Ifs in us. Why have you do of what you can. Surely you have and strong asset with you. Everyone has. Discover your potential and come into an open. Accept yourself. It is you. Even if you were go into a plastic surgery it is you. You must be happy of who you are.HELP ME?? how do i act?? what should i do?? how do i change?this is really confusing?HELP ME?? how do i act?? what should i do?? how do i change?please wait...... ill have some energy booster to read ur question later i will reply..................you know what girl be real and let your true feeings come out and just act how you feel is right, don't do stuff to be popular and don't do stuff because you know thats how people want you to be. make sure you have a think before you do and say things,
BE TRUE TO YOURSELF AND MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY xxWhat i would tell you is be yourself find friends who like you because you are you. Kids in school can be really mean but things really change once you get out of school. In the real world bullies and preppy people find we can do without them. Your time will come just hang in there.just act like nothing bothers you talk to some ppl at the party but don't hang on their every word and most importantly if all else fails try to witty or any type of funny except at others expense the you'll just be know as the b**** who makes fun of ppl hope this works best of luckthat's really weird, do you know the person who wrote that Yahoo answer?? if so, report them, and if it's just a coincidence, then that's just a really weird coincidence!!
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1- your attitude seems like its ready to burst. i've got a feeling (because i was like you till i started getting popular a year ago, i'm now 16) that when you do go to a party, you wouldn't know how to act, you'll probably just sit in a corner looking at other people, sweating on how to react to other people OR you might go to the party and act like a fool and then no one will still invite you to any more parties.
Only you know the answer to this one, as only you know how you will act. you must feel confident that you will neither be too quiet, or too excited.
(THAT IS ALL TRUEEE! HELP)
2- The reason you might not be invited:
- looks - but i doubt thats the problem, ive got a friend who doesn't have the best looks in the world, but she gets invited.
(IM NOT PRETTY)
- attitude- perhaps your attitude seems ignorant, arrogant, scary, annoying, meany, too happy, too excited etc. Work this out yourself.
(TRUE AS WELL)
- Something Happened- Perhaps you was with a friend and then you made a fool out of yourself and hurt the one person that would cause all this
(I CALLED A POPULAR GIRL, %26quot;NOT HOT%26quot; BECAUSE FOR 3 YEARS SHE USE TO SAY STUFF ABOUT ME, ANYWAY SHE FOUND ON AN SHE WENT ON FACEBOOK AN EMBARRASSED ME IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE SCHOOL, HELP)
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all of that is true.. the caps stuff is me.. how do i get rid of all of this??HELP ME?? how do i act?? what should i do?? how do i change?Have you ever notice why almost of the comedian have no pretty face? Because they are not good for it Comedian have no pretty face but they are popular. Why because they are good.Very good. They make people laugh.Pretty woman has also many insecurities in life. Almost all of us has Ifs in us. Why have you do of what you can. Surely you have and strong asset with you. Everyone has. Discover your potential and come into an open. Accept yourself. It is you. Even if you were go into a plastic surgery it is you. You must be happy of who you are.HELP ME?? how do i act?? what should i do?? how do i change?this is really confusing?HELP ME?? how do i act?? what should i do?? how do i change?please wait...... ill have some energy booster to read ur question later i will reply..................you know what girl be real and let your true feeings come out and just act how you feel is right, don't do stuff to be popular and don't do stuff because you know thats how people want you to be. make sure you have a think before you do and say things,
BE TRUE TO YOURSELF AND MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY xxWhat i would tell you is be yourself find friends who like you because you are you. Kids in school can be really mean but things really change once you get out of school. In the real world bullies and preppy people find we can do without them. Your time will come just hang in there.just act like nothing bothers you talk to some ppl at the party but don't hang on their every word and most importantly if all else fails try to witty or any type of funny except at others expense the you'll just be know as the b**** who makes fun of ppl hope this works best of luckthat's really weird, do you know the person who wrote that Yahoo answer?? if so, report them, and if it's just a coincidence, then that's just a really weird coincidence!!
Am I racist and if I am how do I change my attitude?
I want to give you a bit of personal history. I moved from Europe to US about 3 years ago, and as you might know, Europe is less biased by racism than US is. As a matter of fact, having a black friend back in Europe was pretty cool.
So, I came to the states with a positive and open attitude. But living here made me change my vision. 99% of the black people I work with or know are literally worthless. They cheat and steal and avoid to do work at all cost. They are loud and inconsiderate towards other people%26#039;s feelings. If they borrow money from you, don%26#039;t expect to ever get your money back. They would do anything to dig themselves out of trouble at work and I can%26#039;t tell you how many times I got in trouble because of them. And I work in a hospital, and you%26#039;d expect people there would be more educated. They cut corners and are dishonest so many times that it%26#039;s not even funny. I have tried to keep a positive attitude, because Caucasians do the wrong stuff too, but not as much. But lately, I feel like I am becoming increasingly bitter towards them and I know that%26#039;s not fair but I can%26#039;t help associating trouble with the race.
So, what is there to do?
Am I becoming racist???
Am I racist and if I am how do I change my attitude?So, what is there to do?
nothing.Better leave it unsaid.
Am I becoming racist???
yes,but most of whites and asians think the same thing.
Am I racist and if I am how do I change my attitude?Well you%26#039;re right. Some things are better left unsaid, especially if you have no intention of changing your dirty ways. See some blacks answered you very nicely and you chose not to listen to them, but you point out the ones who rightfully attack you.
and i agree they are loud and im in the eighth grade and all they do is act all crazy in class and distract me, i dont know how to do freakin slope in math class because of them... ahhh y=mx+b ah
good luck
-----jakeYou seem to understand that the sloth of your fellow employees has nothing to do with their race since your black friend in Europe was not lazy.You don%26#039;t like the people you work with. It has nothing to do with their race. Perhaps you should seek employment elsewhere.Kudos to you for examining these feelings honestly.
You have become disillusioned with some recent experiences... just realise it is probably more a cultural and class system than a race issue. POOR Americans, UNDEREDUCATED or UNDEREMPLOYED Americans, with generations of various issues behind them, come off looking bad, many of them deservedly so.
Just cause many of those people are also BLACK Americans does not make it automatically so that their colour or origins, itself, is to blame. I think you know that.jake why is it black peoples fault you are to stupid to do a simple slope equation?I understand what you mean.
Most African Americans are this way and unfortunately its something we can%26#039;t change
This is coming from an Ethiopian, So I%26#039;m no racist
But I promise you there are some educated brothas and sistas that have self respect and are well-mannered
You can find them
Its a beautiful thing if you do
Good Luck! Hello,
Unfortunately Europe has some very bad racist attitudes which eclipse the ones in the US at times. Everyone from Turks, Gypsies, Albanians, Sicilians etc have a rough time of it. At a party last year I had some Romanians and a Hungarian describe the Gypsies exactly as you have described the blacks in America. What about ethnic cleansing in former Yugoslavia?
I guess no one has a monopoly on racism and it looks contagious don%26#039;t you think? Anyway try mixing with positive people, date some of the girls and try having a better time with them. Treat them as you like to be treated and go from there.
Cheers,
Michael KellyYou are already racist. Do you want me to tell you what a white man did to me last night? It%26#039;s ok, I won%26#039;t bother. You don%26#039;t know many black people. And how do you know that Caucasians aren%26#039;t just as bad as the black people you know? Do you know all Caucasians? I am a racialist so let me tell you what I think is the difference between black people and white people. When most black people choose to do wrong, they are more honest about it so that in the future you know better than to let such people cross you. White people on the other hand, pretend that they are perfect and pretend that they don%26#039;t think and do evil deeds, especially towards people of other races. They are ruthlessly hypocritical back-stabbers who are quick to smile at you when they can%26#039;t even stand the fact that you are alive. I find that black people are more honest and in your face with their bad attitude and rude behaviour but with white people you never know what you are going to get and most of the time it%26#039;s a very shocking surprise. No one is perfect but you need to realize that although black people are seen to have certain vices, people of other races see white people as having other vices which, in my opinion, being on the receiving end, is worse than anything you%26#039;ve described. And just so you know most of the black people that I%26#039;ve met in America have been really nice. By the way, what makes you think that Europe is less biased by racism than the US? Where in Europe are you from?
What you need to do is realize that you are imperfect. Do not lend the same person your money twice if they didn%26#039;t return it the first time. Realize that all the white people that my sister works with (some of whom are European) cheat and steal and refuse to work as they know they ought while my sister and another black co-worker do their job properly. Realize that my Mom%26#039;s white co-worker repeatedly steals money from her company. Realize that you are a hypocrite. Realize that many white people cut corners and are dishonest. Why do you think the G8 has so much money and power? Check yourself.
Miss Ethiopian Rebecca don%26#039;t pretend as if you don%26#039;t know that many Ethiopians (and probably yourself) don%26#039;t even consider themselves to be black. A lot of Ethiopians are prejudiced and racist against blacks!!! Moreover, most Africans (including Ethiopians) that I%26#039;ve met have a very strange perception of what it means to be black, which is why when they get to America they can%26#039;t get along with other black people. By the way, I%26#039;m neither American nor African but I am black.yes you are, im a black women and i have a bother who act nothing like that a lot of blacks act like it and i hate it it makes other blacks seem bad and i know what you mean i have two bothers one borrow some money from i never got it back my other bother borrow some money from me i got it back i guss people are not the same but yea i bet they were black guys not black women. Somewhat, but not as much as you are stereotyping, find another circle of black people to associate with-groups, organizations you will find that all black people are not all of the things you just mentioned not even 99%. I would have to say that it %26#039;s just that environment you work in. By the way other people should not get you in trouble unless you are making poor choices. Food for thought you are what you eat-well you are also what you associate with!Yes, you are. Your experiences with a group of people who happen to be the same race, doesn%26#039;t mean that everyone belonging to that race behaves the same way. You know this because you%26#039;ve met black people in Europe. Your problem is in making generalizations. There are good and bad people everywhere. Perhaps you only focus on how bad the black people are because you are white and they%26#039;re not. Try to change that. Don%26#039;t make excuses for white people who do wrong. Forget about their appearance and look at their character. Wrong is wrong, no matter what color you are.uh yea ur a very racist *** bum well umm i am black and i am just as hard working as the next girl...I get straight A%26#039;s in school i am in AP classes and it just depends on ur location where i live there are alot of ghetto racist white people..any race can be ghetto and mean
and ive been to europe u should just try and remeber in every race there are bad and good people...
yes you are being racist catorgarizing a whole race as lazy and worthless is racist
ummm and if u want to talk to me u can..i am always open..if u want 鈾?here is my email maybeboston@ymail.comYou don%26#039;t sound like you%26#039;re being racist to me. You%26#039;re just observing what%26#039;s around you and coming to conclusions. It%26#039;s true that not all black people are like that. There%26#039;s not much you can really do but deal with it. Every race and ethnicity has flaws (those flaws being different in each opinion).You%26#039;ve probably encountered the %26#039;bad%26#039; ones. There%26#039;s cool black people around. Just try and think of it as the nature of those individuals rather than race.
It could probably make you racist if you begin to think all the blacks here act that way. It would seem so. GO listen to Wake up call... good song.
Maybe the people you ran into suck, but you can%26#039;t make judgements on people like that.
My best friends of years and years are white and asian...they became really shady. But that doesn%26#039;t make me turn around and think of all bad people as being white or asian.
The worst thing to do is shield your eyes to people because you think someone is worse...that is a good way to get taken for a very bad ride.
And if those people are horrible find other black people. They rock. I rock. Whoo hooo. And I dont cheat scam or push fault on anyone. So meet new people and retain your open mindness otherwise...I don%26#039;t know your going to miss out on a lot of people. The truth must out sooner or later, I found the same thing happening in my life so I just keep away from them. But I have met some great great great black women who work hard bring up their families alone and try to teach their children right from wrong and worry about keeping them on the straight and narrow. without them I don%26#039;t know what would happen, I say to all the black women out there God love you all and God bless you.Yes, you do have racist tendencies. Unfortunately, it seems like a lot of people in America do. I don%26#039;t know if I should answer the %26#039;politically correct%26#039; way or the realistic and harsh way. Honestly, it%26#039;s probably more of an illusion when you see black people behaving badly. You notice more when black people are acting inconsiderate, moreso when white people act rude and inconsiderate. You are expecting all black people to act this way, so subconsciously you are trying to observe any sort of rudeness out of black people, just so you can continue to have the same thoughts about black people.
Now, maybe there are a lot of black people who act like this at your work. There are definately black people there who don%26#039;t act like that at all. Try to find people like that. I%26#039;ve seen plenty of white people who are friends with black people. They just share similar interests.
I hate to say this, but I almost know where you are coming from. It%26#039;s basically just people raised in different enviroments. Maybe the majority of black people were raised in a different type of enviroment you were raised in. What you think is right might not be what they consider right and vise-versa. I%26#039;d just ignore it and get over it. I doubt they are intentionally trying to be rude.I know what you mean.
So, I came to the states with a positive and open attitude. But living here made me change my vision. 99% of the black people I work with or know are literally worthless. They cheat and steal and avoid to do work at all cost. They are loud and inconsiderate towards other people%26#039;s feelings. If they borrow money from you, don%26#039;t expect to ever get your money back. They would do anything to dig themselves out of trouble at work and I can%26#039;t tell you how many times I got in trouble because of them. And I work in a hospital, and you%26#039;d expect people there would be more educated. They cut corners and are dishonest so many times that it%26#039;s not even funny. I have tried to keep a positive attitude, because Caucasians do the wrong stuff too, but not as much. But lately, I feel like I am becoming increasingly bitter towards them and I know that%26#039;s not fair but I can%26#039;t help associating trouble with the race.
So, what is there to do?
Am I becoming racist???
Am I racist and if I am how do I change my attitude?So, what is there to do?
nothing.Better leave it unsaid.
Am I becoming racist???
yes,but most of whites and asians think the same thing.
Am I racist and if I am how do I change my attitude?Well you%26#039;re right. Some things are better left unsaid, especially if you have no intention of changing your dirty ways. See some blacks answered you very nicely and you chose not to listen to them, but you point out the ones who rightfully attack you.
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Am I racist and if I am how do I change my attitude?You must%26#039;ve known that you would be attacked, and this is how you respond? That just goes to show where your mind truly is. But guess what? Blacks already think that most whites, including Europeans are racists, so you really didn%26#039;t need to say it. Idiot.Report Abuse
I think u areI think you%26#039;ve been jaded by the people that you%26#039;ve hung around with. Notice that before you came here, you didn%26#039;t have these feelings. It%26#039;s very possible that you have a prejudice against blacks that live in the U.S. i feel the same way just try to ignore them at most and dont let them get to ya.and i agree they are loud and im in the eighth grade and all they do is act all crazy in class and distract me, i dont know how to do freakin slope in math class because of them... ahhh y=mx+b ah
good luck
-----jakeYou seem to understand that the sloth of your fellow employees has nothing to do with their race since your black friend in Europe was not lazy.You don%26#039;t like the people you work with. It has nothing to do with their race. Perhaps you should seek employment elsewhere.Kudos to you for examining these feelings honestly.
You have become disillusioned with some recent experiences... just realise it is probably more a cultural and class system than a race issue. POOR Americans, UNDEREDUCATED or UNDEREMPLOYED Americans, with generations of various issues behind them, come off looking bad, many of them deservedly so.
Just cause many of those people are also BLACK Americans does not make it automatically so that their colour or origins, itself, is to blame. I think you know that.jake why is it black peoples fault you are to stupid to do a simple slope equation?I understand what you mean.
Most African Americans are this way and unfortunately its something we can%26#039;t change
This is coming from an Ethiopian, So I%26#039;m no racist
But I promise you there are some educated brothas and sistas that have self respect and are well-mannered
You can find them
Its a beautiful thing if you do
Good Luck! Hello,
Unfortunately Europe has some very bad racist attitudes which eclipse the ones in the US at times. Everyone from Turks, Gypsies, Albanians, Sicilians etc have a rough time of it. At a party last year I had some Romanians and a Hungarian describe the Gypsies exactly as you have described the blacks in America. What about ethnic cleansing in former Yugoslavia?
I guess no one has a monopoly on racism and it looks contagious don%26#039;t you think? Anyway try mixing with positive people, date some of the girls and try having a better time with them. Treat them as you like to be treated and go from there.
Cheers,
Michael KellyYou are already racist. Do you want me to tell you what a white man did to me last night? It%26#039;s ok, I won%26#039;t bother. You don%26#039;t know many black people. And how do you know that Caucasians aren%26#039;t just as bad as the black people you know? Do you know all Caucasians? I am a racialist so let me tell you what I think is the difference between black people and white people. When most black people choose to do wrong, they are more honest about it so that in the future you know better than to let such people cross you. White people on the other hand, pretend that they are perfect and pretend that they don%26#039;t think and do evil deeds, especially towards people of other races. They are ruthlessly hypocritical back-stabbers who are quick to smile at you when they can%26#039;t even stand the fact that you are alive. I find that black people are more honest and in your face with their bad attitude and rude behaviour but with white people you never know what you are going to get and most of the time it%26#039;s a very shocking surprise. No one is perfect but you need to realize that although black people are seen to have certain vices, people of other races see white people as having other vices which, in my opinion, being on the receiving end, is worse than anything you%26#039;ve described. And just so you know most of the black people that I%26#039;ve met in America have been really nice. By the way, what makes you think that Europe is less biased by racism than the US? Where in Europe are you from?
What you need to do is realize that you are imperfect. Do not lend the same person your money twice if they didn%26#039;t return it the first time. Realize that all the white people that my sister works with (some of whom are European) cheat and steal and refuse to work as they know they ought while my sister and another black co-worker do their job properly. Realize that my Mom%26#039;s white co-worker repeatedly steals money from her company. Realize that you are a hypocrite. Realize that many white people cut corners and are dishonest. Why do you think the G8 has so much money and power? Check yourself.
Miss Ethiopian Rebecca don%26#039;t pretend as if you don%26#039;t know that many Ethiopians (and probably yourself) don%26#039;t even consider themselves to be black. A lot of Ethiopians are prejudiced and racist against blacks!!! Moreover, most Africans (including Ethiopians) that I%26#039;ve met have a very strange perception of what it means to be black, which is why when they get to America they can%26#039;t get along with other black people. By the way, I%26#039;m neither American nor African but I am black.yes you are, im a black women and i have a bother who act nothing like that a lot of blacks act like it and i hate it it makes other blacks seem bad and i know what you mean i have two bothers one borrow some money from i never got it back my other bother borrow some money from me i got it back i guss people are not the same but yea i bet they were black guys not black women. Somewhat, but not as much as you are stereotyping, find another circle of black people to associate with-groups, organizations you will find that all black people are not all of the things you just mentioned not even 99%. I would have to say that it %26#039;s just that environment you work in. By the way other people should not get you in trouble unless you are making poor choices. Food for thought you are what you eat-well you are also what you associate with!Yes, you are. Your experiences with a group of people who happen to be the same race, doesn%26#039;t mean that everyone belonging to that race behaves the same way. You know this because you%26#039;ve met black people in Europe. Your problem is in making generalizations. There are good and bad people everywhere. Perhaps you only focus on how bad the black people are because you are white and they%26#039;re not. Try to change that. Don%26#039;t make excuses for white people who do wrong. Forget about their appearance and look at their character. Wrong is wrong, no matter what color you are.uh yea ur a very racist *** bum well umm i am black and i am just as hard working as the next girl...I get straight A%26#039;s in school i am in AP classes and it just depends on ur location where i live there are alot of ghetto racist white people..any race can be ghetto and mean
and ive been to europe u should just try and remeber in every race there are bad and good people...
yes you are being racist catorgarizing a whole race as lazy and worthless is racist
ummm and if u want to talk to me u can..i am always open..if u want 鈾?here is my email maybeboston@ymail.comYou don%26#039;t sound like you%26#039;re being racist to me. You%26#039;re just observing what%26#039;s around you and coming to conclusions. It%26#039;s true that not all black people are like that. There%26#039;s not much you can really do but deal with it. Every race and ethnicity has flaws (those flaws being different in each opinion).You%26#039;ve probably encountered the %26#039;bad%26#039; ones. There%26#039;s cool black people around. Just try and think of it as the nature of those individuals rather than race.
It could probably make you racist if you begin to think all the blacks here act that way. It would seem so. GO listen to Wake up call... good song.
Maybe the people you ran into suck, but you can%26#039;t make judgements on people like that.
My best friends of years and years are white and asian...they became really shady. But that doesn%26#039;t make me turn around and think of all bad people as being white or asian.
The worst thing to do is shield your eyes to people because you think someone is worse...that is a good way to get taken for a very bad ride.
And if those people are horrible find other black people. They rock. I rock. Whoo hooo. And I dont cheat scam or push fault on anyone. So meet new people and retain your open mindness otherwise...I don%26#039;t know your going to miss out on a lot of people. The truth must out sooner or later, I found the same thing happening in my life so I just keep away from them. But I have met some great great great black women who work hard bring up their families alone and try to teach their children right from wrong and worry about keeping them on the straight and narrow. without them I don%26#039;t know what would happen, I say to all the black women out there God love you all and God bless you.Yes, you do have racist tendencies. Unfortunately, it seems like a lot of people in America do. I don%26#039;t know if I should answer the %26#039;politically correct%26#039; way or the realistic and harsh way. Honestly, it%26#039;s probably more of an illusion when you see black people behaving badly. You notice more when black people are acting inconsiderate, moreso when white people act rude and inconsiderate. You are expecting all black people to act this way, so subconsciously you are trying to observe any sort of rudeness out of black people, just so you can continue to have the same thoughts about black people.
Now, maybe there are a lot of black people who act like this at your work. There are definately black people there who don%26#039;t act like that at all. Try to find people like that. I%26#039;ve seen plenty of white people who are friends with black people. They just share similar interests.
I hate to say this, but I almost know where you are coming from. It%26#039;s basically just people raised in different enviroments. Maybe the majority of black people were raised in a different type of enviroment you were raised in. What you think is right might not be what they consider right and vise-versa. I%26#039;d just ignore it and get over it. I doubt they are intentionally trying to be rude.I know what you mean.
I really dislike women. How can I change my attitude?
This isn't one of those troll questions like %26quot;why are men more intelligent%26quot; etc etc. It's just that my experience of women is absolutely awful. Women just seem to be really self absorbed,manipulative selfish, self righteous and aggressive. Men just seem to be easier to get on with, calm and logical, they don't focus on their emotions too much. It seems that if a women is on her period she has licence to act like a phyco killer. Most of my friends are male and I have a couple of female friends who I consider to be quite masculine. I don't like the games that women play, I don't like anything about them. Can you recommend anything to change my attitude? Because I know that it's not healthy. Or maybe you agree with me? I would like to know your thoughts.I really dislike women. How can I change my attitude?i agree to a extent, women can be right cows to be fair, hang around with mainly guys, tell you what whenever your around a group of people and theres a women talking just nod like your listening and smile, the important thing is to totally ignore what they say.I really dislike women. How can I change my attitude?Listen to what you are saying about our gender! It is tragic...and perhaps you have met some awful people, but to dismiss your sex in this way is terrible. Women can be smart as they can be stupid, they can be kind or cruel, they can be all things, but come on you have met all women?
And so you don't like women who go 'nuts' because of PMS? What excuses do men come up with when they go 'nuts?' What I recommend is open your eyes...and your mind...and I would argue that if you questioned your male friends honestly and frankly most of them will be being nice to you to get in your pants!
I really dislike women. How can I change my attitude?you have obviously been in contact with the wrong kind of woman, i don't really think you can discriminate between men and women there are good and bad on both sides i have a friend who has constantly been messed about by men playing stupid childish games with her and yes women play games as well i think most women are sensitive to other people's troubles as are some men its a very debatable subjectIt is nature. I think we cannot interfere with nature's way of functioning.
We should not jump into conclusions with our narrow human limitations. We should judge everything from universal standards of values and from righteous ideals of an equally universal norms of vision.Im a women and I hate most women to.
most of them talky talk talk about people, rude and stuck up.
edit- im 16 and im in highschool.interesting.
they cant all be like that. maybe you need to keep looking. i dont see how you cannot like anything about them, i think they are very cool and some are extremely funny, some a lot funnier than men.
maybe you should try making a few contacts on here, and not tell thm instantly, cause that would be, really self absorbed, manipulative, selfish, self righteous, and not to mention Aggressive.
Blessings, from your Yahoo christian brother.I'm like you. I suspect I am a bit older (36) and have learned how to deal with it now...I always thought I had problems because other women did not like me..never wanted to be friends etc....but as I grew older I realised that actually I was sending out pretty strong messages that I did not think like them nor respect them...the female friends I do have (aout 5) are very strong women...all proffesional or highly skilled..non emotional and non bitchy. I could never deal with the way girls would get all emotional if you forgot to call or didn't want to go out etc. I agree. A lot of women are bitchy towards other women. Men are nicer and less manipulativeI don't get on with women either. I think it was because I was bullied in school so I don't have a positive experience of women. I just find blokes so much easier to get along with, they are uncomplicated and laid back, they say what they mean and don't bother with all these all those mind games. They can take a joke! I hate that most women are over sensitive and such drama queens, I can't be doing with all that. Most of by best friends are guys, I have female friends but I can only handle them in small doses, aside from a few and those girls are right gems, one in a million, seriously. I have a blokes sense of humour, girls just aren't funny! Don't you find that they find the majority of jokes really offensive or they just don't understand the whole concept of wit. I don't know why guys fancy us, seriously it baffles me, I just find it embarrasing how all woman seem to be so bitchy and back stabbing and HORMONAL! It's like PLEASE. Periods aren't actual that much of a big deal! COPE! I hope the men don't think we're all like that! I'm glad to know there are more of you out there :P Lol XI would have to agree with you on that. In my experience, not all but many women are a bunch of self-absorbed, manipulative, backstabbing, self righteous bitches. They can come up with some of the most convoluted bullshit. Men are easier to get along with, they don't get all emotional and annoying. I know in my case I had a lousy boyfriend at one point and instead of being my true friends they walked around and told people I had sex with him in public and that I was a whore and a horrible person. I only have a few female friends that aren't catty and petty like some of those other ones. But not all women are conniving and bitchy. But yeah men are easier for me to get along with in general. Oh, so you're a misogynist. Well, I can understand where you're coming from. Women are often very bitchy and love to gossip. Even the bible blames women (Eve and the apple)I have the exact same problem.
But i think the only reason I dont get along with women is because i am not attracted to them like I am with men.
And i am often jealous of or mad at most women.
But i am sure some guys feel the same way about other guys.i totally agree with you, the problem is, we are both wrong, because us women should actually stand strong with other women because if you think about it we all should be supporting each other and not bringing each other down with our words, so i encourage you to try to accept your own sex, because a man doesn't know what its like to be a woman. He can be a good friend, but he doesn't really know the sensitivity females go through in certain times in their life. That calls for female attention. So, basically, dont knock it till you try it, trust me girl you just might like it.Sure know what you mean!
My wife hates women also. I love 'em though.
Although not as often as I used to. lol.....I feel the same way towards women as well. I feel that they are liars, manipulators, envious, and connivingg. They throw ***** fits whenever they don't get the man they want, a certain outfit, or their way. I am not perfect but I am not categorized or associated with females just as these. I do have female friends but I can count them!!! I have ton and tons of male friends... I still keep in touch with male friends from grade school. I also feel that males are better to have as friends because they are not over analytical, not as judgmental (unless they are the ultra feminine homosexuals - no offense), and yea... they don't base everything on their emotions. I guess we hate women so much because we have had are really bad experiences with them when trying to build friendships with them. For example, I used to have tons of females friends in grade school... by the time 8th grade graduation came I had about like 4 or 5 and only like 3 i seriously keep in contact with. I went to an all girl catholic high school... that was suicide for me... I had befriended like 5 or 6 serious female friends and the rest were acquaintances. Also, by the time i graduated, I only talk to like 2 or 3. Now that I'm in college, I have met a few females who share our same feelings towards females... so I'm cool with them. Yea, so like I said, we have those attitudes towards females becausr of bad experiences and let downs. If you want to change that... just don't trust and open up to every female you meet because at the end of the day you might just end up to be the talk of the town. So... just keep your eyes and ears open because not every females is dirty and 2 faced... there your decent ones. I hope this helped! i'm a woman and i agree with you...although i have some good female friends...most women are so bloody selfish and manipulative...
i hate what one particular woman has done to my life...she's really messed it up...but i won't name names...myspace cursors dynamic editing
And so you don't like women who go 'nuts' because of PMS? What excuses do men come up with when they go 'nuts?' What I recommend is open your eyes...and your mind...and I would argue that if you questioned your male friends honestly and frankly most of them will be being nice to you to get in your pants!
I really dislike women. How can I change my attitude?you have obviously been in contact with the wrong kind of woman, i don't really think you can discriminate between men and women there are good and bad on both sides i have a friend who has constantly been messed about by men playing stupid childish games with her and yes women play games as well i think most women are sensitive to other people's troubles as are some men its a very debatable subjectIt is nature. I think we cannot interfere with nature's way of functioning.
We should not jump into conclusions with our narrow human limitations. We should judge everything from universal standards of values and from righteous ideals of an equally universal norms of vision.Im a women and I hate most women to.
most of them talky talk talk about people, rude and stuck up.
edit- im 16 and im in highschool.interesting.
they cant all be like that. maybe you need to keep looking. i dont see how you cannot like anything about them, i think they are very cool and some are extremely funny, some a lot funnier than men.
maybe you should try making a few contacts on here, and not tell thm instantly, cause that would be, really self absorbed, manipulative, selfish, self righteous, and not to mention Aggressive.
Blessings, from your Yahoo christian brother.I'm like you. I suspect I am a bit older (36) and have learned how to deal with it now...I always thought I had problems because other women did not like me..never wanted to be friends etc....but as I grew older I realised that actually I was sending out pretty strong messages that I did not think like them nor respect them...the female friends I do have (aout 5) are very strong women...all proffesional or highly skilled..non emotional and non bitchy. I could never deal with the way girls would get all emotional if you forgot to call or didn't want to go out etc. I agree. A lot of women are bitchy towards other women. Men are nicer and less manipulativeI don't get on with women either. I think it was because I was bullied in school so I don't have a positive experience of women. I just find blokes so much easier to get along with, they are uncomplicated and laid back, they say what they mean and don't bother with all these all those mind games. They can take a joke! I hate that most women are over sensitive and such drama queens, I can't be doing with all that. Most of by best friends are guys, I have female friends but I can only handle them in small doses, aside from a few and those girls are right gems, one in a million, seriously. I have a blokes sense of humour, girls just aren't funny! Don't you find that they find the majority of jokes really offensive or they just don't understand the whole concept of wit. I don't know why guys fancy us, seriously it baffles me, I just find it embarrasing how all woman seem to be so bitchy and back stabbing and HORMONAL! It's like PLEASE. Periods aren't actual that much of a big deal! COPE! I hope the men don't think we're all like that! I'm glad to know there are more of you out there :P Lol XI would have to agree with you on that. In my experience, not all but many women are a bunch of self-absorbed, manipulative, backstabbing, self righteous bitches. They can come up with some of the most convoluted bullshit. Men are easier to get along with, they don't get all emotional and annoying. I know in my case I had a lousy boyfriend at one point and instead of being my true friends they walked around and told people I had sex with him in public and that I was a whore and a horrible person. I only have a few female friends that aren't catty and petty like some of those other ones. But not all women are conniving and bitchy. But yeah men are easier for me to get along with in general. Oh, so you're a misogynist. Well, I can understand where you're coming from. Women are often very bitchy and love to gossip. Even the bible blames women (Eve and the apple)I have the exact same problem.
But i think the only reason I dont get along with women is because i am not attracted to them like I am with men.
And i am often jealous of or mad at most women.
But i am sure some guys feel the same way about other guys.i totally agree with you, the problem is, we are both wrong, because us women should actually stand strong with other women because if you think about it we all should be supporting each other and not bringing each other down with our words, so i encourage you to try to accept your own sex, because a man doesn't know what its like to be a woman. He can be a good friend, but he doesn't really know the sensitivity females go through in certain times in their life. That calls for female attention. So, basically, dont knock it till you try it, trust me girl you just might like it.Sure know what you mean!
My wife hates women also. I love 'em though.
Although not as often as I used to. lol.....I feel the same way towards women as well. I feel that they are liars, manipulators, envious, and connivingg. They throw ***** fits whenever they don't get the man they want, a certain outfit, or their way. I am not perfect but I am not categorized or associated with females just as these. I do have female friends but I can count them!!! I have ton and tons of male friends... I still keep in touch with male friends from grade school. I also feel that males are better to have as friends because they are not over analytical, not as judgmental (unless they are the ultra feminine homosexuals - no offense), and yea... they don't base everything on their emotions. I guess we hate women so much because we have had are really bad experiences with them when trying to build friendships with them. For example, I used to have tons of females friends in grade school... by the time 8th grade graduation came I had about like 4 or 5 and only like 3 i seriously keep in contact with. I went to an all girl catholic high school... that was suicide for me... I had befriended like 5 or 6 serious female friends and the rest were acquaintances. Also, by the time i graduated, I only talk to like 2 or 3. Now that I'm in college, I have met a few females who share our same feelings towards females... so I'm cool with them. Yea, so like I said, we have those attitudes towards females becausr of bad experiences and let downs. If you want to change that... just don't trust and open up to every female you meet because at the end of the day you might just end up to be the talk of the town. So... just keep your eyes and ears open because not every females is dirty and 2 faced... there your decent ones. I hope this helped! i'm a woman and i agree with you...although i have some good female friends...most women are so bloody selfish and manipulative...
i hate what one particular woman has done to my life...she's really messed it up...but i won't name names...
What approach should i take to change my mothers attitude?
i am 18, a very mature 18. there are times when my mother will come to ME for advice on life. the problem is (and this is mostly my fault) since we come from a very strong and strict Jamaican background, ive been brought up to do what your parents say to do and let then talk to you however they feel but i dear not say anything in your defense. well, in not a little girl anymore and she still feels like she can say anything to me and i should just sit back and agree wth her. last night we got into it and i said %26quot; if i have a point, i feel as if i am entitled to it and should be able to express it.%26quot; she replies saying %26quot; and who are you to be arguing with me?%26quot; it was at that point that i realized that she has no respect for me. if i cant curse at her, why must she feel like its appropriate to curse at me? anyway, my question is, how can i help change her attitude? im tired of her attitude and demeanor and it makes me want to not respect her, but i dont want to take that route.What approach should i take to change my mothers attitude?Actually the culture is the problem and your mother thrive in that ,and she will not budge away from her heritage. You won't get her to see or respect your opinions or thoughts until you don't have to be accountable for them outside the home. I gather you live at home on her turf, and she is playing the upper hand of under my roof do what I say. I am not sure where (country) you live, and whether you can move out on your own. I am afraid she won't budge on her stubbornness and disrespect for you until you live at different addresses. Face it, she's wrong, and you won't accomplish anything but more tension and cursing. Don't have those chats with her, and do what you feel you should. She will do what she wants to do anyway. Someday you will move out and have more to stand on as you won't have to face her unless you choose to visit. She will learn the way of hard knocks by not having you over as much. (who wants to be treated like a child?)What approach should i take to change my mothers attitude?It sounds like you are. You need to earn respect and by showing your mother that you are hardworking, honest, respectful and have self control, she will slowly change her ways. If you talk to her, it may work, If you let her know that it hurts you when she says those things she may listen. You need to do that when you are not heated. You have a valid point. It may just be a few years before it can make it to your mother.What approach should i take to change my mothers attitude?First of all, nobody should be cursing at anyone. Besides showing a lack of respect, it's not productive.
Wait until your mother is in a calm mood. Sit down with her and explain that you'd like to lay some groundwork for dealing with conflict. Then try to get her to agree to a structure. For instance, the person who is upset could say, without interruption, what is upsetting them. Then the other person could voice again what they said, to be sure it was clear; then answer. You could agree that noone curses and noone raises their voice. You could also agree that if the discussion is not going according to these rules, it will end for 20 minutes, and then you'll try again. Whatever structure you think will help. Each person should ALWAYS have to voice back what they've heard, to make sure each truly listens to the other.
Even if your Mom is game to try this, it will take several tries before it starts to take shape. When people are upset, it's hard to stop and follow the rules. But, if you can get in the habit of controlling how you deal with each other, you could come up with some more appropriate solutions.
Good luck.My mother does the same crap to me and I'm 27. I've learned that I could be 50 and she will still think of me as a little girl and nothing I say really matters because she is always right. And that seems odd because she's asking you for advice but if shes like my mom then she just wants to hear herself b****. I've learned that I can't really do anything to change her but I did finally tell her I wasn't her psychologist and since she wasn't going to take any of my advice she needed to stop dumping on me. Of course she didn't listen to that either but now when she starts doing it i either change the subject completely or make an excuse to hang up the phone or leave the room. I really feel for you, good luck.
Wait until your mother is in a calm mood. Sit down with her and explain that you'd like to lay some groundwork for dealing with conflict. Then try to get her to agree to a structure. For instance, the person who is upset could say, without interruption, what is upsetting them. Then the other person could voice again what they said, to be sure it was clear; then answer. You could agree that noone curses and noone raises their voice. You could also agree that if the discussion is not going according to these rules, it will end for 20 minutes, and then you'll try again. Whatever structure you think will help. Each person should ALWAYS have to voice back what they've heard, to make sure each truly listens to the other.
Even if your Mom is game to try this, it will take several tries before it starts to take shape. When people are upset, it's hard to stop and follow the rules. But, if you can get in the habit of controlling how you deal with each other, you could come up with some more appropriate solutions.
Good luck.My mother does the same crap to me and I'm 27. I've learned that I could be 50 and she will still think of me as a little girl and nothing I say really matters because she is always right. And that seems odd because she's asking you for advice but if shes like my mom then she just wants to hear herself b****. I've learned that I can't really do anything to change her but I did finally tell her I wasn't her psychologist and since she wasn't going to take any of my advice she needed to stop dumping on me. Of course she didn't listen to that either but now when she starts doing it i either change the subject completely or make an excuse to hang up the phone or leave the room. I really feel for you, good luck.
How Can i change my attitude?
i will admit it, i can be such a d*** to people. Especially to my parents and i feel really bad later on so i want to change my attitude. Like my tone when my parents sometimes ask me something, the way i reply back sometimes. For example ''do you like that jumper'' and i might reply (in the tone of ''what do you want now!?!?'' Or ''Just leave me alone''.) in that tone saying ''What''. if that makes sense.
And guys don't say that i am spoiled because i don't think i am. stick to the question please.
Thanks Everyone i really appreciate your help in advance.How Can i change my attitude?1. Many times I have come across some event and certain people that can cause me to feel a change of my attitude. The emotions start to churn in my head and stomach not knowing where they come from. Then I realize, Hey they/it is making me feel this way.
Stop and realize who is in charge here. By them/it causing you to change the way you feel they are controlling your life. Okay, who is in charge of your life, it is you, and they/it are affecting it. Tell yourself to take charge of your emotions and not let them/it change your attitude.
2. Realize that this event/person is overriding your attitude, causing you to get mad, upset, anxious, frustrated and all those other weird feelings that you do not like.
Stop, take a few deep breaths, analyze the situation and tell yourself , all things are temporary and things will pass. Tell yourself that you will not let exterior circumstances or other people control your attitude.
3. Remember YOU are in charge of your attitude, not others. Are you a puppet to their manipulation, can you look beyond the present into the future. Do you have underlying circumstances that cause this....if so fix them. Are you feeling guilty of something...if so go get rid of that guilty feeling. Right a wrong. Are you jealous, shake that off and become yourself.
You are yourself, be yourself. Do not let the environment control your attitude. Take charge, stand up TO yourself. Become free.How Can i change my attitude?Smack the piss out of people who dont like your guts
And guys don't say that i am spoiled because i don't think i am. stick to the question please.
Thanks Everyone i really appreciate your help in advance.How Can i change my attitude?1. Many times I have come across some event and certain people that can cause me to feel a change of my attitude. The emotions start to churn in my head and stomach not knowing where they come from. Then I realize, Hey they/it is making me feel this way.
Stop and realize who is in charge here. By them/it causing you to change the way you feel they are controlling your life. Okay, who is in charge of your life, it is you, and they/it are affecting it. Tell yourself to take charge of your emotions and not let them/it change your attitude.
2. Realize that this event/person is overriding your attitude, causing you to get mad, upset, anxious, frustrated and all those other weird feelings that you do not like.
Stop, take a few deep breaths, analyze the situation and tell yourself , all things are temporary and things will pass. Tell yourself that you will not let exterior circumstances or other people control your attitude.
3. Remember YOU are in charge of your attitude, not others. Are you a puppet to their manipulation, can you look beyond the present into the future. Do you have underlying circumstances that cause this....if so fix them. Are you feeling guilty of something...if so go get rid of that guilty feeling. Right a wrong. Are you jealous, shake that off and become yourself.
You are yourself, be yourself. Do not let the environment control your attitude. Take charge, stand up TO yourself. Become free.How Can i change my attitude?Smack the piss out of people who dont like your guts
What can i do to change my mothers attitude?
i am 18, a very mature 18. there are times when my mother will come to ME for advice on life. the problem is (and this is mostly my fault) since we come from a very strong and strict Jamaican background, ive been brought up to do what your parents say to do and let then talk to you however they feel but you dear not say anything in your defense. well, in not a little girl anymore and she still feels like she can say anything to me and i jusst sit back and agree wth her. lat night we got in and i said %26quot; if i have a point, i feel as if i am entitled to it and should be able to express it.%26quot; she repliessaying %26quot; and who are you to be arguing with me.%26quot; it was at that point that i realized that she has no respect for me. if i cant curse at her, why must she feel like its appropriate to curse at me? anyway, my question is, how can i help change her attitude? tired of her attitude and demeanor and it makes me want to not respect her, but i dont want to take that route.What can i do to change my mothers attitude?It's a bit of a cliche, but while you're living in her house and she's paying the bills etc. just nod, agree and be respectful. I'm sure if in 40 years time, she moves into *your* house, you'll be calling the shots. If you can't put up with it, move out. As you say, you're not a little girl anymore.What can i do to change my mothers attitude?your mother seem to be quite arrogant
you may not like this idea but if I were you I would type everything i wanted to say to her out very nicely not forgetting to make her understand my feelings and her attitudem print it
and give it to her.What can i do to change my mothers attitude?always be respectful to your mother if she takes care of you (puts a roof over your head, makes sacrifices so that you can have things) for the simple fact that mothers give so much of themselves to their children. (I'm not even a mother). I am 21 and when I look back to my teenage years, I wanted to argue with her and do things my way ... later on I realized how easier things would have been for me if I would just have taken her advice.
Talk to a friend if you are upset or respectfully come to your parent without an agressive overtone, and that may help.Sometimes the smallest changes are the most difficult to make. Understanding that basically all you want is for her to recognize you as an adult, that is still much to ask for.
Consider two things for a moment;
1.) You said you have a deep rooted Jamaican background. That background didn't start with you, your mother was raised that way, her mother, etc.... For your mom this is how she has been taught to act, for several decades now. %26quot;Getting with the times,%26quot; is something that she will struggle with for the rest of her life.
2.) She is your mom, and therefore, to her at least, you will ALWAYS be the child. Granted there will be times she asks you for advice but there will always be times where she will look at you and KNOW that you are doing %26quot;it%26quot; wrong. She may of may not be right in those instances but that is one of the many joys of the parent/child relationship.
Bare with her. She loves you she is just old fashioned. While the thing you want is a very small request it would require a huge change in her core mind set. It's not impossible to achieve this, but very difficult to do. Let her know how it feels when she belittles you, and expect a long process of making this change happen.
It may never come to pass, but regardless love your mother, she's the only one you get!I am going through the same thing you are mom's just dont get us some time if you want my email here it is kimberlyn_pool_2009@yahoo.com and i am not playing iam going through the same thing you are.
you may not like this idea but if I were you I would type everything i wanted to say to her out very nicely not forgetting to make her understand my feelings and her attitudem print it
and give it to her.What can i do to change my mothers attitude?always be respectful to your mother if she takes care of you (puts a roof over your head, makes sacrifices so that you can have things) for the simple fact that mothers give so much of themselves to their children. (I'm not even a mother). I am 21 and when I look back to my teenage years, I wanted to argue with her and do things my way ... later on I realized how easier things would have been for me if I would just have taken her advice.
Talk to a friend if you are upset or respectfully come to your parent without an agressive overtone, and that may help.Sometimes the smallest changes are the most difficult to make. Understanding that basically all you want is for her to recognize you as an adult, that is still much to ask for.
Consider two things for a moment;
1.) You said you have a deep rooted Jamaican background. That background didn't start with you, your mother was raised that way, her mother, etc.... For your mom this is how she has been taught to act, for several decades now. %26quot;Getting with the times,%26quot; is something that she will struggle with for the rest of her life.
2.) She is your mom, and therefore, to her at least, you will ALWAYS be the child. Granted there will be times she asks you for advice but there will always be times where she will look at you and KNOW that you are doing %26quot;it%26quot; wrong. She may of may not be right in those instances but that is one of the many joys of the parent/child relationship.
Bare with her. She loves you she is just old fashioned. While the thing you want is a very small request it would require a huge change in her core mind set. It's not impossible to achieve this, but very difficult to do. Let her know how it feels when she belittles you, and expect a long process of making this change happen.
It may never come to pass, but regardless love your mother, she's the only one you get!I am going through the same thing you are mom's just dont get us some time if you want my email here it is kimberlyn_pool_2009@yahoo.com and i am not playing iam going through the same thing you are.
Please help me to change my attitude?
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I was a horny boy from my childhood.I even raped a classmate at my second standard
But at at 30 th yr of living my mind becomes a kind of no whenever a gal is trying to have seduce me for sex
I don't know yaar what is the reason for that attitude
I respect girls but I becomes you know I become totally blank as somebody is telling me %26quot;No No%26quot;
so that they will be in angry with me
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I was a horny boy from my childhood.I even raped a classmate at my second standard
But at at 30 th yr of living my mind becomes a kind of no whenever a gal is trying to have seduce me for sex
I don't know yaar what is the reason for that attitude
I respect girls but I becomes you know I become totally blank as somebody is telling me %26quot;No No%26quot;
so that they will be in angry with me
Did I need any treatment ?
I have no problem with the health
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How can I change my attitude and style?
I just moved to a different state, and apparently people in a small town in South Carolina as they do in Manhattan, or act the same. Here it's cool to be a prep and all, but in a privet school in NY it seemed everyone was all strict and harsh, I think it might be the change from privet to public school. Most girls were tons of eyeliner and mascara, and have there hair dyed, I don't want to go to that extent, like dying my hair and wearing tons of make-up, but I really need help. Also with cloths.Here are some things that might help with your answers:
Light brown hair with natural blonde highlights
Blueish grey, greenish eyes(sometimes they look different colors, mostly blueish grey).
I have light/tan skin- French, Welsh, Gypsy decent
I'm 13
I have big eyes, but average set.
I have a high forehead
I have a Roman Nose
I'm 5 ft. 3inches
I am very thin(80 pounds)
I have long fingers, legs and hands
I tent to be slightly pessimistic and down in the dumps
Please reply quick with ideas for hair and make-up along with how I can change my attitude to be more like my peers.How can I change my attitude and style?go rocker :).
oh, and seriously do the heavy make up thingg k [:How can I change my attitude and style?%26quot;How I can change my attitude to be more like my peers%26quot;?? don't change who you are just so others will like you. How can I change my attitude and style?Your best response would to get involved in various clubs or activities in your community maybe even a religious group. These sort of organizations are a great way to meet new friends and feel great especially if you get into something you like.
Light brown hair with natural blonde highlights
Blueish grey, greenish eyes(sometimes they look different colors, mostly blueish grey).
I have light/tan skin- French, Welsh, Gypsy decent
I'm 13
I have big eyes, but average set.
I have a high forehead
I have a Roman Nose
I'm 5 ft. 3inches
I am very thin(80 pounds)
I have long fingers, legs and hands
I tent to be slightly pessimistic and down in the dumps
Please reply quick with ideas for hair and make-up along with how I can change my attitude to be more like my peers.How can I change my attitude and style?go rocker :).
oh, and seriously do the heavy make up thingg k [:How can I change my attitude and style?%26quot;How I can change my attitude to be more like my peers%26quot;?? don't change who you are just so others will like you. How can I change my attitude and style?Your best response would to get involved in various clubs or activities in your community maybe even a religious group. These sort of organizations are a great way to meet new friends and feel great especially if you get into something you like.
What were conditions like during the first world war?
what were conditions like during the war? describe the dangers of trench war. use evidence to support your answer. did this change peoples attitude towards the war? how did they find out about conditions in the battle field?
this is an english essay and i have already done 4 pages and i have no clue about anything in the first world war, so pleassee help :)
thankyouu xWhat were conditions like during the first world war?conditions were bad in World War I.
this is an english essay and i have already done 4 pages and i have no clue about anything in the first world war, so pleassee help :)
thankyouu xWhat were conditions like during the first world war?conditions were bad in World War I.
I want to change my attitude and my auntie always has to have a go at me what do i do i need help!!!!!!!!!?
hi my i want to change my attitude but no one ever gets me like i always argue with my sister and then i get told of my auntie always has to have a go at me for doing this and doing that i really want to say to her can you please stop telling me what to do your not my mother. i am very dumb i got 12 marks in my Chinese test outta 100 and in my maths test i get very low marks then she goes there is no point crying it want help your just too lazy no one gets how iM feeling and i have joined a new school recently and they swear alot there i learnt to swear i just want to change what do i PLZ HELP MEI want to change my attitude and my auntie always has to have a go at me what do i do i need help!!!!!!!!!?I think what you need to do is totally forget about what people are saying, doing etc etc. Just believe that you are a unique individual who is there in this world for a reason. Dont run your life based on what others expect from you. If you are not good in studies, no problem ...you could do a lot of other things....I want to change my attitude and my auntie always has to have a go at me what do i do i need help!!!!!!!!!?:-oI want to change my attitude and my auntie always has to have a go at me what do i do i need help!!!!!!!!!?just try to forget your problem. when u think better then u do better..........the main thing is try to understand every body.
for more you can chat me at MSN at shrikantsingh@live.in .......if you want i dont insist.Try to understand your auntie n she will automatically understand you....Your overall solution is swearing
for more you can chat me at MSN at shrikantsingh@live.in .......if you want i dont insist.Try to understand your auntie n she will automatically understand you....Your overall solution is swearing
How do you prove you have changed to a girl?
A girl thinks you are manipulative, over analytical, and you have a self pity attitude. She won't talk in person, only through text messages. She doesn't trust you anymore because of your attitude. But yet she still talks to you, she could just not respond if she didn't want to. She says she might forgive you if you can tell her specifically how you are going to prove to her you have changed. It's hard because she doesn't want to see you. What would you do?How do you prove you have changed to a girl?You can't! Find someone else who likes you for who you are!How do you prove you have changed to a girl?Tell the girl to go fly a kite. You don't have to jump thru hoops to prove yourself to anyone. You either click with someone or you don't. Believe me - I have an immense amount of experience and the truth is: It is really that simple. Hello she is the one manipulating you!How do you prove you have changed to a girl?Dude try to keep things simple.Understand this , U need not explain or prove urself to anyone cos people who love u dont need it and people who hate u ,wont belive it anyway. so take things as simple as possible.
Stay coolJust walk away and never talk to her again.its over give her up you might still like her but she has made up her mindyea... its too late... maybe she'll decide one day to give you a second chance... sorry guyWell i think it all depends on you. being manipulative to a person you care about is not the way to go.. a relationship must be caring and considerate... if you love this girl, and are finding it difficult to not be manipulative, its all up to you whether you can change this behaviour.
but of course there s somethings that are just part of you and of who you are as a person, in this case you must find a person who loves you for you:-) but theres no doubt we can better ourselves for the one we love:-)
i always try to better myself for the one i love and as long as you do that it will be fine... only do your best...and if she still isnt happy call it quits for both you and her: just tell her the truth and tell her you will do your best:-) but dont let her manipulate you..
Stay coolJust walk away and never talk to her again.its over give her up you might still like her but she has made up her mindyea... its too late... maybe she'll decide one day to give you a second chance... sorry guyWell i think it all depends on you. being manipulative to a person you care about is not the way to go.. a relationship must be caring and considerate... if you love this girl, and are finding it difficult to not be manipulative, its all up to you whether you can change this behaviour.
but of course there s somethings that are just part of you and of who you are as a person, in this case you must find a person who loves you for you:-) but theres no doubt we can better ourselves for the one we love:-)
i always try to better myself for the one i love and as long as you do that it will be fine... only do your best...and if she still isnt happy call it quits for both you and her: just tell her the truth and tell her you will do your best:-) but dont let her manipulate you..
How can I change my attitude? (details and example inside)?
Ok generally I'm not a rude person and I respect everyone fairly as long as I;m treated in the same aspects. However, I do honestly believe that I have a really bad attitude or something because most of the time when people ask me harmless questions, i get p.o.'d and usually have thoughts and actions of extreme sarcasm. Example:
The other night I was in a chicken shack, this was at about 1:30am. This particular chicken shack sells pizza amongst other things. It just so happens that I got the last slice before closing (they close at 2am). So I'm in there eating my slice and a dude comes in asking for pizza. The gu behind the counter said %26quot;I'm sorry we don't have anymore pizza for the night%26quot;. The customer was like %26quot;Aww man I really wanted some pizza%26quot; and went into this whole ordeal about how he was craving pizza and blah blah blah.
So I'm folding my pizza and take a bite, when he turns to me and says %26quot;You got the last slice of pizza?%26quot;....(duh)
My natural instinct to something like that is almost always negative, whereas my response was %26quot;NO this is a magical cheeseburger disguised as a slice of pizza%26quot;. I coulda just smiled and said %26quot;Yeah%26quot; or something simple. But It wasn't my natural reaction.
I wanna change my attitude because I dont want people to think I'm mean and stuff like that. On the other hand its like I just cant change because it feels so natural to be that way. It's like, if I deem your questions or statements stupid, then I'm gonna make you feel really stupid.
Is there hope? My mother suggested %26quot;Anger Management%26quot;....I dont know how I feel about that.How can I change my attitude? (details and example inside)?Well you are in control of what you do. Even if it's hard to control the sarcasm it is possible. I know that for me in my personal experience I have a temper and sometimes would snap at people when they are being stupid but I just kept thinking %26quot; I can control my actions.%26quot; Because it was almost like a reaction and not something I could control. But I could. I suggest that you just keep trying. Every time you answer sarcastically just think...%26quot;Next time I won't say anything until I think before speaking.%26quot; And pretty soon when occasions arrise where you want to speak sarcastically, you will be able to pause and say something less offensive.How can I change my attitude? (details and example inside)?i'm exactly like that.
except i try to hold back the sarcastic comment most of the time.
unless im in a bad mood %26amp; don't give a shitt what anyone thinks.How can I change my attitude? (details and example inside)?dang boy you seriously need them classesthink before you speak...
or hold yourself at a higher esteem than everyone else and not give a **** what they think...
life is happier w/ the latter...msdn advice on meeting people
The other night I was in a chicken shack, this was at about 1:30am. This particular chicken shack sells pizza amongst other things. It just so happens that I got the last slice before closing (they close at 2am). So I'm in there eating my slice and a dude comes in asking for pizza. The gu behind the counter said %26quot;I'm sorry we don't have anymore pizza for the night%26quot;. The customer was like %26quot;Aww man I really wanted some pizza%26quot; and went into this whole ordeal about how he was craving pizza and blah blah blah.
So I'm folding my pizza and take a bite, when he turns to me and says %26quot;You got the last slice of pizza?%26quot;....(duh)
My natural instinct to something like that is almost always negative, whereas my response was %26quot;NO this is a magical cheeseburger disguised as a slice of pizza%26quot;. I coulda just smiled and said %26quot;Yeah%26quot; or something simple. But It wasn't my natural reaction.
I wanna change my attitude because I dont want people to think I'm mean and stuff like that. On the other hand its like I just cant change because it feels so natural to be that way. It's like, if I deem your questions or statements stupid, then I'm gonna make you feel really stupid.
Is there hope? My mother suggested %26quot;Anger Management%26quot;....I dont know how I feel about that.How can I change my attitude? (details and example inside)?Well you are in control of what you do. Even if it's hard to control the sarcasm it is possible. I know that for me in my personal experience I have a temper and sometimes would snap at people when they are being stupid but I just kept thinking %26quot; I can control my actions.%26quot; Because it was almost like a reaction and not something I could control. But I could. I suggest that you just keep trying. Every time you answer sarcastically just think...%26quot;Next time I won't say anything until I think before speaking.%26quot; And pretty soon when occasions arrise where you want to speak sarcastically, you will be able to pause and say something less offensive.How can I change my attitude? (details and example inside)?i'm exactly like that.
except i try to hold back the sarcastic comment most of the time.
unless im in a bad mood %26amp; don't give a shitt what anyone thinks.How can I change my attitude? (details and example inside)?dang boy you seriously need them classesthink before you speak...
or hold yourself at a higher esteem than everyone else and not give a **** what they think...
life is happier w/ the latter...
I need to know when our attitude change in life isn't it possible our life can change as well in a major way?
why dont some ppl see this as of yet? Or how come some ppl dont even give it at try.
I remember growing up in a hostile enviorment my family was very chaotic and full of drugs with negative attitudes seem like it was no help at all. I had a chip on my shoulders at school cause my home life. they required I see a therapist, the therapist knew and felt it was my home life when we talked I seem normal and just needed attention. I stop going dont know if I was helped or not.
Now that Im grown and been around different ppl read on personality, behaviors, why do we do what we do...and so forth I learn to love myself, postive music helped and just a whole outlook on life I dont have to be my enviorment or have to be what my family try to instill in me.
I do at times wonder how my family just let the negativity and drugs get to them, It's like they try to keep me down but I saw pass it all.. They are still down but seem like they dont want to get out WHY?? is it a reason for keeping someone down but dont even want to elevate your ownself??
I found this online: Interestingly, if we can identify a bad attitude and make the effort to change it, life will suddenly cooperate with our inner efforts, bringing luck into our lives. Consider this true-life incident:
this is the site being informed about data similar to this has helped a great deal. I just wish my family would wake up and stop living so foul or maybe they just comfortable. It seem like they hate me for changing and going against the family crucial ways once again I ask why??
oh btw this is the sitehttp://www.gurusoftware.com/GuruNet/Personal/Topics/Attitudes.htmI need to know when our attitude change in life isn't it possible our life can change as well in a major way?Not everyone is as strong, some people let things get to them easily. It is just a matter of individuality
I remember growing up in a hostile enviorment my family was very chaotic and full of drugs with negative attitudes seem like it was no help at all. I had a chip on my shoulders at school cause my home life. they required I see a therapist, the therapist knew and felt it was my home life when we talked I seem normal and just needed attention. I stop going dont know if I was helped or not.
Now that Im grown and been around different ppl read on personality, behaviors, why do we do what we do...and so forth I learn to love myself, postive music helped and just a whole outlook on life I dont have to be my enviorment or have to be what my family try to instill in me.
I do at times wonder how my family just let the negativity and drugs get to them, It's like they try to keep me down but I saw pass it all.. They are still down but seem like they dont want to get out WHY?? is it a reason for keeping someone down but dont even want to elevate your ownself??
I found this online: Interestingly, if we can identify a bad attitude and make the effort to change it, life will suddenly cooperate with our inner efforts, bringing luck into our lives. Consider this true-life incident:
this is the site being informed about data similar to this has helped a great deal. I just wish my family would wake up and stop living so foul or maybe they just comfortable. It seem like they hate me for changing and going against the family crucial ways once again I ask why??
oh btw this is the sitehttp://www.gurusoftware.com/GuruNet/Personal/Topics/Attitudes.htmI need to know when our attitude change in life isn't it possible our life can change as well in a major way?Not everyone is as strong, some people let things get to them easily. It is just a matter of individuality
Upon having relationship with different types of people?
How will I know if this particular person truly cares about my attitude,not a user and is truthful friend?Example :if someone will say that you are ok,but try to change your negative actions of weirdness,does he or she cares about me? Another Example:If someone will say who cares,as long as do whatever you want.. Who will I trully believe??I don't want to be blinded my wrong decisions on whom to follow...Upon having relationship with different types of people?You will know when the time is right and you find the right person to be in a relationship with.
How do you know when it time to move on in your job? Or do I need to adjust my attitude?
I do love my job, but I feel like I am being wasted because they like what I am doing in my present situation. I do feel however that I have so much more to give and they are not giving me a chance to grow and see that I can do much more then they are allowing me to. I am a receptionist and have been for 6 years with the same company and we have had many recent changes and I used to do more for them, and now I am not challenged and bored out of my mind!How do you know when it time to move on in your job? Or do I need to adjust my attitude?Don't settle for a job that gets stagnant. I worked for 12 years as a service rep for a huge telephone company, had opportunities to advance to a supervisors position, (didn't want the headaches) but the politics were overwhelming. I resigned over a year ago. I feel much better physically and mentally! I have a small business to fall back on, which is doing pretty well, to suppliment my husbands income.
If you stay with a job that gets to you like that, eventually, you will start having physical problems. Mine got so bad that I ended up going into Congestive Heart Failure 2 years ago. To make a long story short, since I left, I've gotten a clean bill of health (which is most important!), and I have a lot more patience with people in general.How do you know when it time to move on in your job? Or do I need to adjust my attitude?When you start hating your job! When you wake up in the morning and wish you had another job. But..you can still love your job and %26quot;feel%26quot; you must move on, in that case you should start job hunting. Or, you might want to talk to your supervisor and express your concern over mind boredom. No company would want to lose an employee that is dedicated (6 yrs, you say?) and reliable (recent changes?).
If you stay with a job that gets to you like that, eventually, you will start having physical problems. Mine got so bad that I ended up going into Congestive Heart Failure 2 years ago. To make a long story short, since I left, I've gotten a clean bill of health (which is most important!), and I have a lot more patience with people in general.How do you know when it time to move on in your job? Or do I need to adjust my attitude?When you start hating your job! When you wake up in the morning and wish you had another job. But..you can still love your job and %26quot;feel%26quot; you must move on, in that case you should start job hunting. Or, you might want to talk to your supervisor and express your concern over mind boredom. No company would want to lose an employee that is dedicated (6 yrs, you say?) and reliable (recent changes?).
How does fictional stories affect your lifestyle?
Fictional stories like Fairy tales or novels.
Asianovelas
series..( kyle XY, Boston legal and the like)
things related to such stories...:
- culture (clothing, hairstyle)
- Love life
- happy or sad endings
- suspense
- idealistic
- changed attitudes
So, how does fictional stories affect your lifestyle?
^^How does fictional stories affect your lifestyle?It helps me pay attention in school so I know a singular noun gets a singular verb; a plural noun gets a plural verb.
How do fictional stories affect your lifestyle?
You actually wrote it incorrectly twice, exposing the fact that you don't know the difference.How does fictional stories affect your lifestyle?while and after reading a fictional book i become all dazed and i hardly pay attention in class.then when i'm done ibegin to wish real life wasn't so boring and then i have to read another book again. when books have sad endings i get depressed for quite a while a week or two. maybe more. suspense kills me and i have to read through the part fast so i know what happens.How does fictional stories affect your lifestyle?well, i tend to be deeply influenced by what i read. and books like those of Dan Brown's have helped me change my outlook a lot.Charles Bukowski stories make me want to drink.So You have seen the Free Planet X, Beta Clone, Killroy 2.0 shirts and Han Shot First hoody, I bought because geeklabel.com sponsored some of my favorite podcasts.
If your friend is worried about 1337 leading to Duck Speech, you tell him you can always trust the government because 2+2=5 . I love BB.
I have many internet friends because of fiction. I have more podcasters and authors as facebook friends than family.
I think much of my sense of right and wrong is due to parables and fables.
I don't think I would have a cell phone now if some had not seen a communicator on Star Trek and thought what a good idea, I can make that.
Asianovelas
series..( kyle XY, Boston legal and the like)
things related to such stories...:
- culture (clothing, hairstyle)
- Love life
- happy or sad endings
- suspense
- idealistic
- changed attitudes
So, how does fictional stories affect your lifestyle?
^^How does fictional stories affect your lifestyle?It helps me pay attention in school so I know a singular noun gets a singular verb; a plural noun gets a plural verb.
How do fictional stories affect your lifestyle?
You actually wrote it incorrectly twice, exposing the fact that you don't know the difference.How does fictional stories affect your lifestyle?while and after reading a fictional book i become all dazed and i hardly pay attention in class.then when i'm done ibegin to wish real life wasn't so boring and then i have to read another book again. when books have sad endings i get depressed for quite a while a week or two. maybe more. suspense kills me and i have to read through the part fast so i know what happens.How does fictional stories affect your lifestyle?well, i tend to be deeply influenced by what i read. and books like those of Dan Brown's have helped me change my outlook a lot.Charles Bukowski stories make me want to drink.So You have seen the Free Planet X, Beta Clone, Killroy 2.0 shirts and Han Shot First hoody, I bought because geeklabel.com sponsored some of my favorite podcasts.
If your friend is worried about 1337 leading to Duck Speech, you tell him you can always trust the government because 2+2=5 . I love BB.
I have many internet friends because of fiction. I have more podcasters and authors as facebook friends than family.
I think much of my sense of right and wrong is due to parables and fables.
I don't think I would have a cell phone now if some had not seen a communicator on Star Trek and thought what a good idea, I can make that.
Which quote is the best to submit for my senior quote?
Thanks.
You must be the change you wish to see in the world.
Mahatma Ghandi
H. Jackson Brown: Accomplishment Quotes
In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins, not through strength but through perseverance.
Zig Ziglar: Accomplishment Quotes
It is not your aptitude, but your attitude, that determines your altitude.
%26quot;If you don't get out of the box you've been raised in, you won't understand how much bigger the world is.%26quot;
-Angelina JolieWhich quote is the best to submit for my senior quote?The popular choice thus far of Ghandi is extremely mature and philosophical. However, my favorite is the Angelina Jolie quote; I think it relates better to a high school graduation as one leaves home and heads into the real world.Which quote is the best to submit for my senior quote?You must be the change you wish to see in the world.Which quote is the best to submit for my senior quote?i like the Mahatma Ghandi
oneGhandiI like the Ghandhi one, perfectly expresses your going out into the world and making something of yourself after highschool.%26quot;You shouldn't seek respect through words, only through actions%26quot;. My favorite. From your list I would choose Ghandi.The Ghandi one is great--and inspiring, but perserverence is really a necessary quality for success in life. attitude is also important, but I don't like that particular quote....[ZigZiglar]Your trial is never greater than God's confidance in you. [Gregoriousity]the ghandi one.can you still tan with sunburn thin hair
You must be the change you wish to see in the world.
Mahatma Ghandi
H. Jackson Brown: Accomplishment Quotes
In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins, not through strength but through perseverance.
Zig Ziglar: Accomplishment Quotes
It is not your aptitude, but your attitude, that determines your altitude.
%26quot;If you don't get out of the box you've been raised in, you won't understand how much bigger the world is.%26quot;
-Angelina JolieWhich quote is the best to submit for my senior quote?The popular choice thus far of Ghandi is extremely mature and philosophical. However, my favorite is the Angelina Jolie quote; I think it relates better to a high school graduation as one leaves home and heads into the real world.Which quote is the best to submit for my senior quote?You must be the change you wish to see in the world.Which quote is the best to submit for my senior quote?i like the Mahatma Ghandi
oneGhandiI like the Ghandhi one, perfectly expresses your going out into the world and making something of yourself after highschool.%26quot;You shouldn't seek respect through words, only through actions%26quot;. My favorite. From your list I would choose Ghandi.The Ghandi one is great--and inspiring, but perserverence is really a necessary quality for success in life. attitude is also important, but I don't like that particular quote....[ZigZiglar]Your trial is never greater than God's confidance in you. [Gregoriousity]the ghandi one.
What would be your argument against the U.S. going to war in iraq?
If you were to write a persuasive letter to your U.S. congressman stating your argument against the united states going to iraq, what would u say?.. what would be your reasons for this? how would u convince the readers to take some action? change an attitude or position? or support your position? how would u say all this in an exact to the point but still having a courteous tone?What would be your argument against the U.S. going to war in iraq?Assuming you mean, %26quot;what would be an argument before we went in%26quot; then my answer is as follows.
Honorable Congressman/woman/gayperson/lesbian person:
I urge you to consider the consequences of your actions should you vote to go to war. War is not worth our precious military lives, no matter what. We can withstand many attacks like 9/11 and still not equal the costs of what a war will be. If it's freedom you want to protect, please, we don't care. We would rather be alive and worship Allah than see our brave military being sent home in body bags and have to hear the news tell us everynight how bad things are going.
We have it pretty good right without stirring up hatred among the Islamic fundamentalists. It would be many years anyway before they are able to seriously threaten us, so why should we risk our peaceful existence just to make sure people in the future are safe?
We should negotiate and pretend we are at peace. War is not an option and should not be considered. Concede anything you must to keep us out of a war. The countries of the world want this and so do the American people. Give me peace, but don't give me death. And tread on me if it brings peace. Peace be to you, Peace be to Allah. Death to America, Death to Israel. Long live Islam, my Arab brother.
Respectully,
The American citizentry as led by Liberals.What would be your argument against the U.S. going to war in iraq?NEWSFLASH!
US troops have been in iraq for YEARS now!What would be your argument against the U.S. going to war in iraq?WTF?
dude, little history. been there done that.the enemy of our enemy is our friend but the friends of their friends is our enemy.Bit late, I think all the Congressmen and women knowThe US military shouldn't have to invade other countries (like Iraq %26amp; Iran) to preserve Israeli security.
Israel has a great military that should solve Israeli problems not the US military!I'd say the whole thing was a fraud fueled by hidden agendas.You mean way back when they could still have stopped it?
The crime of a war of aggression is listed in Article 5.1 of the Rome Statute of the International Criminal Court (RSICC) as one of the four most serious crimes of concern to the international community, and that it falls within the jurisdiction of the International Criminal Court (ICC). It was addressed earlier by the International Military Tribunal at Nuremberg following World War II, which called the waging of aggressive war %26quot;essentially an evil thing...to initiate a war of aggression...is not only an international crime; it is the supreme international crime differing only from other war crimes in that it contains within itself the accumulated evil of the whole.%26quot;
The invasion of Iraq is considered a war of aggression, and therefore a war crime, because there was no provocation for it. No connection with the Al Qaeda attack, no weapons of mass destruction.Like our conservative idiot government would listen to a letter to our congressmen. They are all blood-thirsty hypocriteshow can we explain that since Saddam was a CIA man we put him there we gave him the helicopters to spray the Kurds and we put him to fight the Iranians because the kick our man the shah out and we made him the bad dog in the area so we can sale trillions of $$$ to Saudis..of war equipment thru gh the Israelis contractors and now we want to take him out because he choose another company to buy his power plant and to sale his oil???My argument goes back to the founders of our constitution and to the basic premise we lived under for 200 years. We are the greatest nation because of our tolerance, because of our freedoms and because of our faith in the human condition. We are not supposed to be occupiers. Yes, Saddam Hussein was a bad man, but in many parts of the world George Bush is viewed equally so. What government has the right to tell another how to govern and to occupy them if they don't like they way they run their country. There were no terrorists in Iraq when we went to war. They are there now. We have created such a mess that it will take a generation to straighten it out. We're not safer today. We're less safe. We're no longer the US riding in on a white stead to save the day, we're the enemy. We're not for human rights, the US stands for US dollar and everybody knows it. We can't even take care of our domestic problems. I don't want to be nice to my congressman. I am embarrassed to be a US citizen and ashamed of our actions. I am afraid for our young people fighting for something elusive and intangible. Have we killed Osama Bin Laden? No, the real bad guy is still stirring up trouble in Afghanistan and now we are so weak as a country we can't even do anything about it. What are we worried about. We're worried about whether or not Alberto Gonzales is going to resign. They all need to go to prison for treason.I sent a letter to my elected representatives, including President Bush, on September 12, 2001. In this letter, I pointed out that U.S. foreign policy, as evidenced by Operation Ajax, U.S. involvement in the Iran/Iraq war including fomenting it over oil and supporting Iraq with weapons and military intelligence, radicalization of Afghan schoolchildren with U.S.-supplied textbooks urging religious-based opposition to foreign military forces, CIA training camps that trained insurgents to instill patriotic separatism to fight the Russians under the direction of Osama bin Laden while in the employ of the CIA, and the unconditional support of Israel and her aggression were the causes of the 9/11 and other attacks against the United States.
In response I received several %26quot;thank you for your interest%26quot; letters and a glossy 8 x 10 of President and Mrs. Bush.
That was when I left the Republican Party.
Honorable Congressman/woman/gayperson/lesbian person:
I urge you to consider the consequences of your actions should you vote to go to war. War is not worth our precious military lives, no matter what. We can withstand many attacks like 9/11 and still not equal the costs of what a war will be. If it's freedom you want to protect, please, we don't care. We would rather be alive and worship Allah than see our brave military being sent home in body bags and have to hear the news tell us everynight how bad things are going.
We have it pretty good right without stirring up hatred among the Islamic fundamentalists. It would be many years anyway before they are able to seriously threaten us, so why should we risk our peaceful existence just to make sure people in the future are safe?
We should negotiate and pretend we are at peace. War is not an option and should not be considered. Concede anything you must to keep us out of a war. The countries of the world want this and so do the American people. Give me peace, but don't give me death. And tread on me if it brings peace. Peace be to you, Peace be to Allah. Death to America, Death to Israel. Long live Islam, my Arab brother.
Respectully,
The American citizentry as led by Liberals.What would be your argument against the U.S. going to war in iraq?NEWSFLASH!
US troops have been in iraq for YEARS now!What would be your argument against the U.S. going to war in iraq?WTF?
dude, little history. been there done that.the enemy of our enemy is our friend but the friends of their friends is our enemy.Bit late, I think all the Congressmen and women knowThe US military shouldn't have to invade other countries (like Iraq %26amp; Iran) to preserve Israeli security.
Israel has a great military that should solve Israeli problems not the US military!I'd say the whole thing was a fraud fueled by hidden agendas.You mean way back when they could still have stopped it?
The crime of a war of aggression is listed in Article 5.1 of the Rome Statute of the International Criminal Court (RSICC) as one of the four most serious crimes of concern to the international community, and that it falls within the jurisdiction of the International Criminal Court (ICC). It was addressed earlier by the International Military Tribunal at Nuremberg following World War II, which called the waging of aggressive war %26quot;essentially an evil thing...to initiate a war of aggression...is not only an international crime; it is the supreme international crime differing only from other war crimes in that it contains within itself the accumulated evil of the whole.%26quot;
The invasion of Iraq is considered a war of aggression, and therefore a war crime, because there was no provocation for it. No connection with the Al Qaeda attack, no weapons of mass destruction.Like our conservative idiot government would listen to a letter to our congressmen. They are all blood-thirsty hypocriteshow can we explain that since Saddam was a CIA man we put him there we gave him the helicopters to spray the Kurds and we put him to fight the Iranians because the kick our man the shah out and we made him the bad dog in the area so we can sale trillions of $$$ to Saudis..of war equipment thru gh the Israelis contractors and now we want to take him out because he choose another company to buy his power plant and to sale his oil???My argument goes back to the founders of our constitution and to the basic premise we lived under for 200 years. We are the greatest nation because of our tolerance, because of our freedoms and because of our faith in the human condition. We are not supposed to be occupiers. Yes, Saddam Hussein was a bad man, but in many parts of the world George Bush is viewed equally so. What government has the right to tell another how to govern and to occupy them if they don't like they way they run their country. There were no terrorists in Iraq when we went to war. They are there now. We have created such a mess that it will take a generation to straighten it out. We're not safer today. We're less safe. We're no longer the US riding in on a white stead to save the day, we're the enemy. We're not for human rights, the US stands for US dollar and everybody knows it. We can't even take care of our domestic problems. I don't want to be nice to my congressman. I am embarrassed to be a US citizen and ashamed of our actions. I am afraid for our young people fighting for something elusive and intangible. Have we killed Osama Bin Laden? No, the real bad guy is still stirring up trouble in Afghanistan and now we are so weak as a country we can't even do anything about it. What are we worried about. We're worried about whether or not Alberto Gonzales is going to resign. They all need to go to prison for treason.I sent a letter to my elected representatives, including President Bush, on September 12, 2001. In this letter, I pointed out that U.S. foreign policy, as evidenced by Operation Ajax, U.S. involvement in the Iran/Iraq war including fomenting it over oil and supporting Iraq with weapons and military intelligence, radicalization of Afghan schoolchildren with U.S.-supplied textbooks urging religious-based opposition to foreign military forces, CIA training camps that trained insurgents to instill patriotic separatism to fight the Russians under the direction of Osama bin Laden while in the employ of the CIA, and the unconditional support of Israel and her aggression were the causes of the 9/11 and other attacks against the United States.
In response I received several %26quot;thank you for your interest%26quot; letters and a glossy 8 x 10 of President and Mrs. Bush.
That was when I left the Republican Party.
Hey friends help me with your answers.?
Guys i am doing an attitude survey of people of different categories. Mainly
1.Uneducated and unemployed.
2.Educated and unemployed
3.Educated and under employed
4.Educated and employed
5.Educated and doing extremely well in their jobs.
This was my questionnaire. I feel it is not apt.
1.To be successful in life what are the top three things according to you are is very important?
2.Describe in one word what kind of attitude describes the following personalities?
3.Quick! We say “success.” You think
4.Do you have an idea about what success means to you?
5.When I have a setback or rejection?
6.What is your attitude towards taking risks?
8.So why do people look up to you?
9.Disaster strikes! You’re the one:
10.Good things come to those who
11.Are you fully prepared for the things you do?
12.Does change brings new opportunities to you?
13.How will you define your goal for 'Success'?
14.What milestones do you think is important to achieve it?
15.What do you do actively in that direction?
16.Are the actions and behaviors you need to take are appropriate in reaching your goals?
17.Are you capable of taking appropriate action, following the different steps you set up to succeed?
18.Are you convinced that it is possible to achieve your goal with these appropriate steps?
19.Is the goal in harmony with who you are?
20.How do you apply it to your professional life?
Could you tell me some good options for the questions so that it helps me to survey all the categories.You can also give me some good suggestions so that i can alter the questionnaire.
Please guys and gals help me out with this.
Hey friends help me with your answers.?your categories are incomplete.
people can also be uneducated and employed
-educated or uneducated but unable to work due to disability or illness
============
no offense, but your questions seem to be all over the map.
it will be hard to analyze the resultsHey friends help me with your answers.?wtfffffffffffffffffffffffHey friends help me with your answers.?its longer than my exam papers.its a good questionnaire.
One very important question that you can add is:
Have you defined your goals?Very long.Its so long dude,make it short.luk...u can't blame me 4 not wanting 2 go thru this...2 days left 2 answer..................................…
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1.Uneducated and unemployed.
2.Educated and unemployed
3.Educated and under employed
4.Educated and employed
5.Educated and doing extremely well in their jobs.
This was my questionnaire. I feel it is not apt.
1.To be successful in life what are the top three things according to you are is very important?
2.Describe in one word what kind of attitude describes the following personalities?
3.Quick! We say “success.” You think
4.Do you have an idea about what success means to you?
5.When I have a setback or rejection?
6.What is your attitude towards taking risks?
8.So why do people look up to you?
9.Disaster strikes! You’re the one:
10.Good things come to those who
11.Are you fully prepared for the things you do?
12.Does change brings new opportunities to you?
13.How will you define your goal for 'Success'?
14.What milestones do you think is important to achieve it?
15.What do you do actively in that direction?
16.Are the actions and behaviors you need to take are appropriate in reaching your goals?
17.Are you capable of taking appropriate action, following the different steps you set up to succeed?
18.Are you convinced that it is possible to achieve your goal with these appropriate steps?
19.Is the goal in harmony with who you are?
20.How do you apply it to your professional life?
Could you tell me some good options for the questions so that it helps me to survey all the categories.You can also give me some good suggestions so that i can alter the questionnaire.
Please guys and gals help me out with this.
Hey friends help me with your answers.?your categories are incomplete.
people can also be uneducated and employed
-educated or uneducated but unable to work due to disability or illness
============
no offense, but your questions seem to be all over the map.
it will be hard to analyze the resultsHey friends help me with your answers.?wtfffffffffffffffffffffffHey friends help me with your answers.?its longer than my exam papers.its a good questionnaire.
One very important question that you can add is:
Have you defined your goals?Very long.Its so long dude,make it short.luk...u can't blame me 4 not wanting 2 go thru this...2 days left 2 answer..................................…
n
22 days left 2 read
What is your perspective to attitude by Charles Swindoll?
ATTITUDE
by Charles Swindoll
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.
Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home.
The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude...
I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.What is your perspective to attitude by Charles Swindoll?He has a good take on it but I do find it ironic since he has such a funny attitude himself. If you didn't know him you would think he was arrogant and a bully, but I guess that's just his Texas charm.
by Charles Swindoll
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.
Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home.
The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude...
I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.What is your perspective to attitude by Charles Swindoll?He has a good take on it but I do find it ironic since he has such a funny attitude himself. If you didn't know him you would think he was arrogant and a bully, but I guess that's just his Texas charm.
Help on a religion project?
I need names and ages and answer a few of these....any response would be a tremendous help. Thanks for those who cooperate
1. How did you meet?
2. What was your dating experience like? (How long did you date for?Was it an off and on type of thing? What were the big issues in your relationship at that time?)
3. How did you come to decide that this person was the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with?
4. How did the proposal go?
5. Was the wedding day like you thought it would be?
6. Did you have good role models of marriage growing up? Do you think having had role models or not has affected your attitude or beliefs about marriage?
7. Wives: what advice would you give young girls today regarding relationships with the opposite sex?
Husbands: what advice would you give young men today regarding relationships with the opposite sex.
8. Is marriage different than what you expected? If so, how?
9. What are some of the biggest challenges you have faced in an effort to maintain a healthy, happy marriage?
10. What are the best things about being married?
11. What are some of the “non-negotiables” you had in mind before you got married regarding what your future spouse would have to be like?
12. How are you and your spouse similar and different?
13. Why do you think there is a 50% divorce rate today?
14. How has your marriage changed over the years?
15. Name one (or a few) things about your spouse that really make you smile.Help on a religion project?1. I met my husband in church.
2. Before I knew he existed, my future husband told his family that I was %26quot;the marrying kind.%26quot; He told them that if we ever went out on a date, we%26#039;d end up getting married. He was right. Our courtship was magical, and we were married eight months after our first date. During our courtship, we tried to set a good example for the students attending our church%26#039;s college, so we chose to abide by the same %26quot;chaperone%26quot; rules that they have to. My future husband and I were in our late 30s at the time. We both knew in our hearts that God intended us to be married to each other.
3. We were both emotionally mature and financially independent. We each brought %26quot;a whole person%26quot; to the relationship which made it a healthy one. We attended the same church, so our values and spiritual beliefs were in sync. We each felt a strong assurance from God that we were right for each other.
4. He knew we%26#039;d be married before I did. As a matter of fact, it was so obvious to everyone, that it was kind of assumed. My husband had promised our pastoral staff that he would meet my parents first--they lived 1,600 away. When he and his teenage son were willing to get on a plane and go meet my parents, I knew what he had in mind. He took me ring shopping, but didn%26#039;t officially propose until the ring was ready--ten days before our wedding date!
5. My wedding day was terrific. It was an outdoor wedding and my husband ran around the church grounds making sure everything was as perfect as it could be while I watched from a window. We spent more on a hearty meal for our guests than we did on anything. That was a great move that we%26#039;ll never regret. Years later, our guests are still talking about our wedding and reception!
6. Yes, my parents had a great marriage, but what we learned about marital relationships from the Bible has guided our own marriage. That%26#039;s why it%26#039;s been such a wonderful experience for us both. We%26#039;re trying to do it the way God intended, and He has blessed us in a tremendous way.
7. Girls, don%26#039;t be in such a rush to have a guy on your arm. Take the time to find out who you are and what all you can do. Establish your own independence first, get an education and a career so you can bring a whole, well-developed, emotionally balanced person to the relationship. Too many girls are insecure and fear being alone, so they attach themselves to someone that isn%26#039;t right for them and they convince themselves that they%26#039;re ready. It%26#039;s imperative that you marry the right person at the right time and for the right reasons. Before you consider marrying a guy, seek the advice of those who are older and wiser and have known you a long, long time!
8. Yes, it%26#039;s different--better than I expected because I never knew a man like my husband existed. I thought I%26#039;d have to settle and change myself in major ways in order to attract and keep a man interested. Not so. We complement each other, yet are so in sync. That%26#039;s what we get when we allow God to choose our mates. (I learned that the hard way!)
9. We ran a business and sacrificed a lot to make it successful. When it began to strain our marriage, we walked away from it--completely penniless, but we intentionally forced the experience to drive us closer together, not farther apart. Also, dealing with a wayward stepson has taught me a lot about when to %26quot;pick my battles%26quot; with the boy and with my husband.
10. The best thing for me so far is our shared goals and the work we put in to make them happen. We work toward them together and that serves to tighten the bond between us.
11. He had to be a practicing Christian, employed, educated, financially responsible, not into vices (drugs, alcohol, etc.) and close to my age.
12. Our tastes in music, decor, movies, food preferences, entertainment are very much alike. We%26#039;re different in that he thinks like a man (more analytical) and I think like a woman (more psychological). Also, he tends to make quick judgments while I prefer to let things simmer before drawing a conclusion. Why people behave as they do interest me. My husband cares less about their motivation and more about the end results.
13. People get married too young--without knowing themselves as well as they should or what to expect marriage to be like. They have some fantasy view of marriage and unrealistic expectations. It%26#039;s work that requires effort, patience, communication, respect, thoughtfulness and compromise. You can%26#039;t be selfish and have a happy marriage. They also fail to realize that love grows and develops in phases. They don%26#039;t recognize thee phases and want to throw in the towel when the relationship doesn%26#039;t feel the same as it did when they first met. By the way, the divorce rate among fundamentalists (of various religions) is considerably less than the national average.
14. We%26#039;ve learned to communicate--listen to the other person and express love in ways that mean the most to the person receiving that love. We recognize each other%26#039;s personality habits, accept them (if not harmful) and use them to benefit the relationship as a whole. In short, we know better each others%26#039; strengths and weaknesses, and don%26#039;t allow our pride to dictate who should take the lead in a particular situation.
15. He really does seem to miss me when I%26#039;m away; his routine is totally disrupted when I%26#039;m out of town. He emails and calls me from work at least once a day, and we exchange clever banter. He loves our pets as much as I do and has a tender heart toward strays. We have conversations that are solely based on movies or songs we%26#039;ve enjoyed together; we challenge each other to name that title. He%26#039;s not afraid to look %26quot;goofy%26quot; once in a while, just to entertain me. He treats me like a lady and takes an active interest in my job. He loves me like no other man could!Help on a religion project?I%26#039;ll answer a few...
1. In a Burger King where I was working and she was a customer.
7. Wait until at least age 28 or so.
8. It%26#039;s a lot longer and less affectionate than expected.
10. Kids, sharing duties.
12. Both Roman Catholic, about the same age; different educational levels, interests, work ethic.
13. Every divorce case is different.
14. I%26#039;m not sure it has. There are plenty of ups and downs that can last years.
Help on a religion project?My husband was my boss. We both worked in a detox center.
We had to be sneaky and keep it a secret at work. It was actually an exciting factor. We dated for a long time (18 months) and he was simply emotionally unavailable so I broke up. Since I don%26#039;t do pain I married the first guy who asked which was only in a few months time.
He was not capable of having sex but I didn%26#039;t want another divorce on my record so I stayed for a year and then did get the divorce. Mean while my current husband and I continued working together, both in silent misery. He gave up and re-married his second wife. Six weeks later we were both filing for divorce and in a few weeks were back with each other. I accepted him with any way he wished. Marriage or no marriage. We lived together for two years and once we quit our jobs we got married.
I decided I wanted him in my life more than wanting the relationship my way. And I knew he was finally %26quot;the one%26quot;. When I relaxed my hold, he relaxed his fear and we married.
%26quot;Hey lets get married%26quot; was about as good as it got. LOL
Back then I gave in a lot so the wedding being early in the morning was his idea but everything else was really nice. I did refuse to go to Reno. I wanted a ceremony to include and be led by God. We had a new age minister, and partially American Indian ceremony because we were experiencing that religion then.
My parents divorced and I had an emotionally and physically abusive childhood and yes it left some scars. Both of us come to each other as recovering alcoholic/addicts. Long years of use effected both of us seperately.
I feel differently about marriage than I did growing up and as a young adult. It is a commitment not to be entered into, when a person is emotionally sick and immature.
I would say to the young women: Live to be a self actuating woman. Know your self and then know your choice for marriage. As a Muslima, I like the idea of parents arranging the marriage and having tight dating guidelines but only for Muslims practicing their faith. That works for the very faithful.
The only difference in my marriage than my expectation is the endurance we both gave to the marriage. My other marriages were based on sex, drugs and rock n%26#039; roll, fear and escape. None of which are marriage material.
The biggest challenge to me was loving my husband after the honeymoon phase. I was used to a marriage with fighting, drinking and making up and breaking up in a cycle. Staying around brought us to a deeper level of love than I had known.
Having a best friend you can count on. Some one to share life with are the best things but there is a sacrifice you don%26#039;t think of when you are young. All the years of love end in death and if you love deep you grieve as deep.
My non-negotiables: No cheating period. No alcohol or drugs ever.
No name-calling in arguments. Stick with the issue at hand and look for solution rather than winning.
Our similarities are: We are both counselors, Muslims (now) have similar goals and values. We are both married for the duration of life and we work on ourselves rather than the relationship.
He is calm, methodical and logical. I am a bit ADHD I think. I am hyper about some things. He helps me slow down Lol. I am a trail blazer. He stays with tried and true. Our sense of humor are same. Neither of us have jealousy nor do we challenge the other with games to prove %26quot;He/She loves me.
Divorce rate will always be high in a country that supports fast life styles, climbing to the top and falling to the bottom. When our youth only have direction from the commercial money mongers that only care that they sell sex, immodesty and cars our young adults cling to each other in desperation. There is little to base love and trust on.Faith based marriage that isn%26#039;t fanatical and is practical is the best for success.
Over the years sex took a back seat to love. In the elder years if a marriage doesn%26#039;t contain respect, trust, dignity, spiritual guidance, and friendship you can end up living with a stranger.
I love my husband%26#039;s voice, his compassion and his sense of fairness.My name%26#039;s Robert, the wife%26#039;s name is Annette. I%26#039;m 50, she%26#039;s 48.
1. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She needed a date for a function a group she belonged to was holding.
2. We dated exclusively for 2 years. We just %26quot;clicked%26quot;.
3. Spending 2 years together almost inseparable. We matured our relationship, learned to love each other, Learned to trust and respect each other.
4.My proposal was literally spur of the moment. We were hanging out with a friend who had just proposed to his girlfriend, I cornered her against a hall and just said %26quot;Well would you marry me?%26quot;. She was shocked, and all she could say was %26quot;I guess so.....%26quot;
5. Our wedding was great, although it was a very hot day. It was pretty low bu get, but still wonderful.
6.Both our parents were faithful in their marriages, as were all of my siblings. I think it made a great difference.
7..Treat a woman with respect, and don%26#039;t bother with one night stands and temporary relationships. If you do engage in pointless hookups and cheap sex, Take responsibility for contraception. Use your own condoms, and flush it down the toilet when you%26#039;re done. Don%26#039;t leave anything to chance. You don%26#039;t need to bring children into the world who won%26#039;t have both parents around to raise them.
8. Marriage has been wonderful, with a couple of speckles of terrible thrown in. Perfect would have been boreing, but as it has been, It%26#039;s been a great life together.
9. Loss of our love child to a birth defect, and a miscarriage. Adoption of a challenging boy. Refining and keeping our sex life fresh and healthy.
10. Companionship, love, intimacy, emotional security.
11. Fidelity, acceptance of my shortcomings, beauty, openness.
12.Politically, she%26#039;s more conservative than I am, We share a couple of hobbies, If you actually gave us each a test, I%26#039;d probably show a higher academic IQ, But she%26#039;s no dummy. She has a lot of common knowledge and plain old wisdom that takes her far.
13. Because couples fail to do several things. They fail to put in the time and work necessary to really make sure they%26#039;re compatable over the long haul, they go into a marriage with hidden agendas, They fail to put in the work necessary to maintain and advance their marriages, or one or the other, or both, cheat. People need to put their marriages in the forefront of their lives. They need to make it the bedrock they build the rest of their lifes upon. When they don%26#039;t they fail.
14. Actually the sex has gotten better. Maybe not in frequency, but definately the quality. Also, after 31 years we%26#039;ve certainly grown a life around us. Kids, and grand kids abound. I don%26#039;t think our basic relationship has changed much, I still see in her the same loving person i fell in love with way back when.
15. Her dedication to us. After 31 years she%26#039;s still so beautiful to me. Her capability to love and fogive humbles me. Her capability to care for me, the kids, the grandkids, her friends, pretty much any animal, stray or otherwise, she encounters staggers me.
1. How did you meet?
2. What was your dating experience like? (How long did you date for?Was it an off and on type of thing? What were the big issues in your relationship at that time?)
3. How did you come to decide that this person was the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with?
4. How did the proposal go?
5. Was the wedding day like you thought it would be?
6. Did you have good role models of marriage growing up? Do you think having had role models or not has affected your attitude or beliefs about marriage?
7. Wives: what advice would you give young girls today regarding relationships with the opposite sex?
Husbands: what advice would you give young men today regarding relationships with the opposite sex.
8. Is marriage different than what you expected? If so, how?
9. What are some of the biggest challenges you have faced in an effort to maintain a healthy, happy marriage?
10. What are the best things about being married?
11. What are some of the “non-negotiables” you had in mind before you got married regarding what your future spouse would have to be like?
12. How are you and your spouse similar and different?
13. Why do you think there is a 50% divorce rate today?
14. How has your marriage changed over the years?
15. Name one (or a few) things about your spouse that really make you smile.Help on a religion project?1. I met my husband in church.
2. Before I knew he existed, my future husband told his family that I was %26quot;the marrying kind.%26quot; He told them that if we ever went out on a date, we%26#039;d end up getting married. He was right. Our courtship was magical, and we were married eight months after our first date. During our courtship, we tried to set a good example for the students attending our church%26#039;s college, so we chose to abide by the same %26quot;chaperone%26quot; rules that they have to. My future husband and I were in our late 30s at the time. We both knew in our hearts that God intended us to be married to each other.
3. We were both emotionally mature and financially independent. We each brought %26quot;a whole person%26quot; to the relationship which made it a healthy one. We attended the same church, so our values and spiritual beliefs were in sync. We each felt a strong assurance from God that we were right for each other.
4. He knew we%26#039;d be married before I did. As a matter of fact, it was so obvious to everyone, that it was kind of assumed. My husband had promised our pastoral staff that he would meet my parents first--they lived 1,600 away. When he and his teenage son were willing to get on a plane and go meet my parents, I knew what he had in mind. He took me ring shopping, but didn%26#039;t officially propose until the ring was ready--ten days before our wedding date!
5. My wedding day was terrific. It was an outdoor wedding and my husband ran around the church grounds making sure everything was as perfect as it could be while I watched from a window. We spent more on a hearty meal for our guests than we did on anything. That was a great move that we%26#039;ll never regret. Years later, our guests are still talking about our wedding and reception!
6. Yes, my parents had a great marriage, but what we learned about marital relationships from the Bible has guided our own marriage. That%26#039;s why it%26#039;s been such a wonderful experience for us both. We%26#039;re trying to do it the way God intended, and He has blessed us in a tremendous way.
7. Girls, don%26#039;t be in such a rush to have a guy on your arm. Take the time to find out who you are and what all you can do. Establish your own independence first, get an education and a career so you can bring a whole, well-developed, emotionally balanced person to the relationship. Too many girls are insecure and fear being alone, so they attach themselves to someone that isn%26#039;t right for them and they convince themselves that they%26#039;re ready. It%26#039;s imperative that you marry the right person at the right time and for the right reasons. Before you consider marrying a guy, seek the advice of those who are older and wiser and have known you a long, long time!
8. Yes, it%26#039;s different--better than I expected because I never knew a man like my husband existed. I thought I%26#039;d have to settle and change myself in major ways in order to attract and keep a man interested. Not so. We complement each other, yet are so in sync. That%26#039;s what we get when we allow God to choose our mates. (I learned that the hard way!)
9. We ran a business and sacrificed a lot to make it successful. When it began to strain our marriage, we walked away from it--completely penniless, but we intentionally forced the experience to drive us closer together, not farther apart. Also, dealing with a wayward stepson has taught me a lot about when to %26quot;pick my battles%26quot; with the boy and with my husband.
10. The best thing for me so far is our shared goals and the work we put in to make them happen. We work toward them together and that serves to tighten the bond between us.
11. He had to be a practicing Christian, employed, educated, financially responsible, not into vices (drugs, alcohol, etc.) and close to my age.
12. Our tastes in music, decor, movies, food preferences, entertainment are very much alike. We%26#039;re different in that he thinks like a man (more analytical) and I think like a woman (more psychological). Also, he tends to make quick judgments while I prefer to let things simmer before drawing a conclusion. Why people behave as they do interest me. My husband cares less about their motivation and more about the end results.
13. People get married too young--without knowing themselves as well as they should or what to expect marriage to be like. They have some fantasy view of marriage and unrealistic expectations. It%26#039;s work that requires effort, patience, communication, respect, thoughtfulness and compromise. You can%26#039;t be selfish and have a happy marriage. They also fail to realize that love grows and develops in phases. They don%26#039;t recognize thee phases and want to throw in the towel when the relationship doesn%26#039;t feel the same as it did when they first met. By the way, the divorce rate among fundamentalists (of various religions) is considerably less than the national average.
14. We%26#039;ve learned to communicate--listen to the other person and express love in ways that mean the most to the person receiving that love. We recognize each other%26#039;s personality habits, accept them (if not harmful) and use them to benefit the relationship as a whole. In short, we know better each others%26#039; strengths and weaknesses, and don%26#039;t allow our pride to dictate who should take the lead in a particular situation.
15. He really does seem to miss me when I%26#039;m away; his routine is totally disrupted when I%26#039;m out of town. He emails and calls me from work at least once a day, and we exchange clever banter. He loves our pets as much as I do and has a tender heart toward strays. We have conversations that are solely based on movies or songs we%26#039;ve enjoyed together; we challenge each other to name that title. He%26#039;s not afraid to look %26quot;goofy%26quot; once in a while, just to entertain me. He treats me like a lady and takes an active interest in my job. He loves me like no other man could!Help on a religion project?I%26#039;ll answer a few...
1. In a Burger King where I was working and she was a customer.
7. Wait until at least age 28 or so.
8. It%26#039;s a lot longer and less affectionate than expected.
10. Kids, sharing duties.
12. Both Roman Catholic, about the same age; different educational levels, interests, work ethic.
13. Every divorce case is different.
14. I%26#039;m not sure it has. There are plenty of ups and downs that can last years.
Help on a religion project?My husband was my boss. We both worked in a detox center.
We had to be sneaky and keep it a secret at work. It was actually an exciting factor. We dated for a long time (18 months) and he was simply emotionally unavailable so I broke up. Since I don%26#039;t do pain I married the first guy who asked which was only in a few months time.
He was not capable of having sex but I didn%26#039;t want another divorce on my record so I stayed for a year and then did get the divorce. Mean while my current husband and I continued working together, both in silent misery. He gave up and re-married his second wife. Six weeks later we were both filing for divorce and in a few weeks were back with each other. I accepted him with any way he wished. Marriage or no marriage. We lived together for two years and once we quit our jobs we got married.
I decided I wanted him in my life more than wanting the relationship my way. And I knew he was finally %26quot;the one%26quot;. When I relaxed my hold, he relaxed his fear and we married.
%26quot;Hey lets get married%26quot; was about as good as it got. LOL
Back then I gave in a lot so the wedding being early in the morning was his idea but everything else was really nice. I did refuse to go to Reno. I wanted a ceremony to include and be led by God. We had a new age minister, and partially American Indian ceremony because we were experiencing that religion then.
My parents divorced and I had an emotionally and physically abusive childhood and yes it left some scars. Both of us come to each other as recovering alcoholic/addicts. Long years of use effected both of us seperately.
I feel differently about marriage than I did growing up and as a young adult. It is a commitment not to be entered into, when a person is emotionally sick and immature.
I would say to the young women: Live to be a self actuating woman. Know your self and then know your choice for marriage. As a Muslima, I like the idea of parents arranging the marriage and having tight dating guidelines but only for Muslims practicing their faith. That works for the very faithful.
The only difference in my marriage than my expectation is the endurance we both gave to the marriage. My other marriages were based on sex, drugs and rock n%26#039; roll, fear and escape. None of which are marriage material.
The biggest challenge to me was loving my husband after the honeymoon phase. I was used to a marriage with fighting, drinking and making up and breaking up in a cycle. Staying around brought us to a deeper level of love than I had known.
Having a best friend you can count on. Some one to share life with are the best things but there is a sacrifice you don%26#039;t think of when you are young. All the years of love end in death and if you love deep you grieve as deep.
My non-negotiables: No cheating period. No alcohol or drugs ever.
No name-calling in arguments. Stick with the issue at hand and look for solution rather than winning.
Our similarities are: We are both counselors, Muslims (now) have similar goals and values. We are both married for the duration of life and we work on ourselves rather than the relationship.
He is calm, methodical and logical. I am a bit ADHD I think. I am hyper about some things. He helps me slow down Lol. I am a trail blazer. He stays with tried and true. Our sense of humor are same. Neither of us have jealousy nor do we challenge the other with games to prove %26quot;He/She loves me.
Divorce rate will always be high in a country that supports fast life styles, climbing to the top and falling to the bottom. When our youth only have direction from the commercial money mongers that only care that they sell sex, immodesty and cars our young adults cling to each other in desperation. There is little to base love and trust on.Faith based marriage that isn%26#039;t fanatical and is practical is the best for success.
Over the years sex took a back seat to love. In the elder years if a marriage doesn%26#039;t contain respect, trust, dignity, spiritual guidance, and friendship you can end up living with a stranger.
I love my husband%26#039;s voice, his compassion and his sense of fairness.My name%26#039;s Robert, the wife%26#039;s name is Annette. I%26#039;m 50, she%26#039;s 48.
1. We were introduced by a mutual friend. She needed a date for a function a group she belonged to was holding.
2. We dated exclusively for 2 years. We just %26quot;clicked%26quot;.
3. Spending 2 years together almost inseparable. We matured our relationship, learned to love each other, Learned to trust and respect each other.
4.My proposal was literally spur of the moment. We were hanging out with a friend who had just proposed to his girlfriend, I cornered her against a hall and just said %26quot;Well would you marry me?%26quot;. She was shocked, and all she could say was %26quot;I guess so.....%26quot;
5. Our wedding was great, although it was a very hot day. It was pretty low bu get, but still wonderful.
6.Both our parents were faithful in their marriages, as were all of my siblings. I think it made a great difference.
7..Treat a woman with respect, and don%26#039;t bother with one night stands and temporary relationships. If you do engage in pointless hookups and cheap sex, Take responsibility for contraception. Use your own condoms, and flush it down the toilet when you%26#039;re done. Don%26#039;t leave anything to chance. You don%26#039;t need to bring children into the world who won%26#039;t have both parents around to raise them.
8. Marriage has been wonderful, with a couple of speckles of terrible thrown in. Perfect would have been boreing, but as it has been, It%26#039;s been a great life together.
9. Loss of our love child to a birth defect, and a miscarriage. Adoption of a challenging boy. Refining and keeping our sex life fresh and healthy.
10. Companionship, love, intimacy, emotional security.
11. Fidelity, acceptance of my shortcomings, beauty, openness.
12.Politically, she%26#039;s more conservative than I am, We share a couple of hobbies, If you actually gave us each a test, I%26#039;d probably show a higher academic IQ, But she%26#039;s no dummy. She has a lot of common knowledge and plain old wisdom that takes her far.
13. Because couples fail to do several things. They fail to put in the time and work necessary to really make sure they%26#039;re compatable over the long haul, they go into a marriage with hidden agendas, They fail to put in the work necessary to maintain and advance their marriages, or one or the other, or both, cheat. People need to put their marriages in the forefront of their lives. They need to make it the bedrock they build the rest of their lifes upon. When they don%26#039;t they fail.
14. Actually the sex has gotten better. Maybe not in frequency, but definately the quality. Also, after 31 years we%26#039;ve certainly grown a life around us. Kids, and grand kids abound. I don%26#039;t think our basic relationship has changed much, I still see in her the same loving person i fell in love with way back when.
15. Her dedication to us. After 31 years she%26#039;s still so beautiful to me. Her capability to love and fogive humbles me. Her capability to care for me, the kids, the grandkids, her friends, pretty much any animal, stray or otherwise, she encounters staggers me.
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