Tell me EVERYTHING you would have to do to change your behavior if you were a member of a different gender (man or woman) NOT a member of a different sex- in our U.S. Culture.
Basically if you were biologically a woman and wanted to be perceived as a man... what changes would need to be made? Same with for men, if you wanted to be perceived by others as a woman, what changes would need to be made?
Keep in mind APPEARANCE, ATTITUDE, or BEHAVIOR (feel free to add other categories) those are just some to get you thinking.
One example: a man that wants to be perceived as a woman would try to lose weight to fit the %26quot;thin%26quot; idea of being a woman.
A woman that wants to be perceived as a man would act tough (no emotion, strong willed and such).
**Think of how you would help an alien (who has no gender identity) appear to be a man or woman in the United States.
Back up your tips with reasoning as to why you included them
:o) Thank you so much, i'm completing a project!!!Sociology Project: Please answer, I need a certain amount of people's answers :o)?As a women I see us being nurturing and gentle so to become a man I would have to retrain myself to be selfish (not selfish but put myself first) and to think directly and definitely. Women can often get side tracked with 'what if...' or things that 'could be' where as I see men only deal with substance that they can see. I would have to let go of inconsecurities, romance, and putting others concerns first. Men tend to be self sured, self reliant, self concerned, self trained and self maintained. Socially I would have to loosen up and be able to joke like a man, put downs, bathroom hummor and all. The hardest would to be to clear my mind and think of nothing like when a man is asked 'what are you thinking?' they truthfully answer 'nothing'.
In college I tried to look like a man for a short while. I don't think I was fooling anyone but I would have to change my hair, baseball caps, maybe hide behind masculine glasses, mens baggy clothes in layers and slouch, strut and be aloft. It would be funny to try to be a metrosexual male, that might be more convincing.
hope this helps and good luck (see female response!)Sociology Project: Please answer, I need a certain amount of people's answers :o)?i would be a girl, that was hot. healthy. took care of herself. but i wouldnt be a *****.Sociology Project: Please answer, I need a certain amount of people's answers :o)?i don't know what to tell yalol i had to do this last semester too so i think i can contribute
wow i so coulda made my class 100 times easier if i thought of using Y!A
I would need to tone up meaning I'd probably have an extra payment for gym membership because realistically girls always try to achieve the perfect body portrayed by the media. I'd need to be more opinionated and express my feelings more because girls are sassy and like to talk about things and you would need your own strong opinions on stuff. I'd probably be more needy and asking my parents for a lot more without being so considerate because girls always get what they want or try the best they can to. I'd have to get used to spending money without knowing how to save living check by check for clothes, make-up, accessories, and whatever else that makes a girl feel better about themselves. I'd need to learn how to cry more often in difficult situations and to get myself out of a jam (getting a ticket, getting in trouble by the parents, etc).
That about does it for me. GL on your hw.I would advise an alien to take on the persona of a female.
Because they wouldn't know anything.
A male is expected to know something about everything, at least enough that someone doesn't call, 'b@ll$hyt'.
A female is expected or can easily defer any questions by giggling and saying,'I don't know'. And if they are pressured they can just ask a male to explain it to them. Nothing out of line there...Well, if I wanted to be perceived as a man I guess I would have to start by the obvious of changing my appearance, ie. cutting my hair short, trying to grow facial hair, donning on menswear, etc. I would probably start eating a lot of protein to bulk and have heavy muscle definition as men are suppose to be bulky and strong. But I think the most essential key to becoming a man would be to change my behaviour. I think one would have to be more confident, straightforward, and take more risk. I think I wouldn't have any more inhibitions about sex because the social stimulus that is connected with women and sexuality would be gone as it is socially acceptable for a man to sleep with as many women as they like.
Wednesday, 26 October 2011
I need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?
Tell me EVERYTHING you would have to do to change your behavior if you were a member of a different gender (man or woman) NOT a member of a different sex- in our U.S. Culture.
Basically if you were biologically a woman and wanted to be perceived as a man... what changes would need to be made? Same with for men, if you wanted to be perceived by others as a woman, what changes would need to be made?
Keep in mind APPEARANCE, ATTITUDE, or BEHAVIOR (feel free to add other categories) those are just some to get you thinking.
One example: a man that wants to be perceived as a woman would try to lose weight to fit the %26quot;thin%26quot; idea of being a woman.
A woman that wants to be perceived as a man would act tough (no emotion, strong willed and such).
**Think of how you would help an alien (who has no gender identity) appear to be a man or woman in the United States.
Back up your tips with reasoning as to why you included them
:o) Thank you so much, i'm completing a project!!!I need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?well 1st i would become more into my strongness and not care bout much cause guys r just way laid backI need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?First i would make sure that i ended my life.
Second I wouldI need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?Generally, women tend to be more sensitive than men, and they are also quick to over react a lot more often.
So, I think that the biggest change that a female would have to make when changing her perception is personality traits.
She'd need to become more laid back and care-free.om yah in my eyes thats against god changing gender but please go answer mine
Basically if you were biologically a woman and wanted to be perceived as a man... what changes would need to be made? Same with for men, if you wanted to be perceived by others as a woman, what changes would need to be made?
Keep in mind APPEARANCE, ATTITUDE, or BEHAVIOR (feel free to add other categories) those are just some to get you thinking.
One example: a man that wants to be perceived as a woman would try to lose weight to fit the %26quot;thin%26quot; idea of being a woman.
A woman that wants to be perceived as a man would act tough (no emotion, strong willed and such).
**Think of how you would help an alien (who has no gender identity) appear to be a man or woman in the United States.
Back up your tips with reasoning as to why you included them
:o) Thank you so much, i'm completing a project!!!I need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?well 1st i would become more into my strongness and not care bout much cause guys r just way laid backI need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?First i would make sure that i ended my life.
Second I wouldI need at least 10 peoples answers PLEASE!!!! The more the better though!?Generally, women tend to be more sensitive than men, and they are also quick to over react a lot more often.
So, I think that the biggest change that a female would have to make when changing her perception is personality traits.
She'd need to become more laid back and care-free.om yah in my eyes thats against god changing gender but please go answer mine
Please answer logically, its for a sociology project people!?
Tell me EVERYTHING you would have to do to change your behavior if you were a member of a different gender (man or woman) NOT a member of a different sex- in our U.S. Culture.
Basically if you were biologically a woman and wanted to be perceived as a man... what changes would need to be made? Same with for men, if you wanted to be perceived by others as a woman, what changes would need to be made?
Keep in mind APPEARANCE, ATTITUDE, or BEHAVIOR (feel free to add other categories) those are just some to get you thinking.
One example: a man that wants to be perceived as a woman would try to lose weight to fit the %26quot;thin%26quot; idea of being a woman.
A woman that wants to be perceived as a man would act tough (no emotion, strong willed and such).
**Think of how you would help an alien (who has no gender identity) appear to be a man or woman in the United States.
Back up your tips with reasoning as to why you included them
:o) Thank you so much, i'm completing a project!!!Please answer logically, its for a sociology project people!?i am a male and this is what i would do to try and be a women
APPEARANCE:
1.because i have short hair i would grow it out to a girlish length because women typically have long hair.
2.i would be women's clothes because if your going to be a women you definately need to look the part.
3.cosmetically i would get everything waxed or at least shaven to preven me from looking like a hairy old transexual prostitute.
4.wear makeup to give me that girlish %26quot;tent%26quot; i guess
5.never wear shorts so that my manly legs will be covered up
ATTITUDE/BEHAVIOR
1.i would probably start to be more helpful and kind (not that im not now) and in a sense kind of motherly in a way to put of like feminie like feel i guess you could say
2.i would try not to do manly things like sitting with my legs spread apart or lean on a wall or desk or possibly even burt or fart
3.to be more girly i guess i would have to be a little bit more %26quot;flaky%26quot; (not to be sexest) but less to the point and more comforting in deliverence of information or other like things
4.always a positive attitutude because only fat ugly obeses women have bad attitudes.
5.some how make my voice more girly i guess through use of testosterone.
good luck with your projectget rid of beauty marks Where I can find nice modern comforters
Basically if you were biologically a woman and wanted to be perceived as a man... what changes would need to be made? Same with for men, if you wanted to be perceived by others as a woman, what changes would need to be made?
Keep in mind APPEARANCE, ATTITUDE, or BEHAVIOR (feel free to add other categories) those are just some to get you thinking.
One example: a man that wants to be perceived as a woman would try to lose weight to fit the %26quot;thin%26quot; idea of being a woman.
A woman that wants to be perceived as a man would act tough (no emotion, strong willed and such).
**Think of how you would help an alien (who has no gender identity) appear to be a man or woman in the United States.
Back up your tips with reasoning as to why you included them
:o) Thank you so much, i'm completing a project!!!Please answer logically, its for a sociology project people!?i am a male and this is what i would do to try and be a women
APPEARANCE:
1.because i have short hair i would grow it out to a girlish length because women typically have long hair.
2.i would be women's clothes because if your going to be a women you definately need to look the part.
3.cosmetically i would get everything waxed or at least shaven to preven me from looking like a hairy old transexual prostitute.
4.wear makeup to give me that girlish %26quot;tent%26quot; i guess
5.never wear shorts so that my manly legs will be covered up
ATTITUDE/BEHAVIOR
1.i would probably start to be more helpful and kind (not that im not now) and in a sense kind of motherly in a way to put of like feminie like feel i guess you could say
2.i would try not to do manly things like sitting with my legs spread apart or lean on a wall or desk or possibly even burt or fart
3.to be more girly i guess i would have to be a little bit more %26quot;flaky%26quot; (not to be sexest) but less to the point and more comforting in deliverence of information or other like things
4.always a positive attitutude because only fat ugly obeses women have bad attitudes.
5.some how make my voice more girly i guess through use of testosterone.
good luck with your project
How do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?
i have problems with my self - esteem and i always listen to others. I also have problems with changing my attitude. im very negative %26amp; i don't like that about me so help me try to change please.How do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?If you remember this one important rule in life, it will go a long way to helping you.
%26quot; People will only like of love you as much as you like or love yourself%26quot;
To expand on this, you will not grow as a person until you can be yourself.
Good luck. Life is hard but it is also beautiful. Take careHow do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?Change happens when you listen to enough people and realize that they are just as clueless and uncertain as you are about the real nature of things.
The difference is that you are open to admitting it, whereas they tend to think that they will believe their own garbage if they yell it a little louder, or tell more people.
Try telling yourself that your views are just as valid, if not more than other people's viewpoints. Realize that being yourself, you have a unique perspective on the situation that no other advice giver has. They are not you, you are not them. They will not take responsibility for you if you fall, and that's really the biggest reason to be your own person.
As for negativity, it's not that different either. If you observe closely enough, you will notice that your negativity is not 100% consistent. There are times when hope seeps through, when happiness gets in. Find out why this happens, and what you can do to expand its influence. Also realize that negative things might have happened to you at some stage that cause you to follow a downward spiral of self-damaging thoughts. Draw a good balance between optimism and realism. A lot of people take %26quot;think positive%26quot; to the limit, and end up more depressed than ever, because now from being negative, they are now trying to control reality. This can only lead to more frustration and lack of faith. You can either attempt to completely control your environment, or adapt yourself to its challenges. Doing the latter will make you much more sure of yourself. There won't be any room for negativity then.
Upon realizing and accepting your right to exist, and the right of your brain to have powerful and intelligent opinions, you will stop listening to people and start listening more to yourself. All of this will be dust off your shoulder when you get there.How do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?What's wrong with listening to others?
The best thing is that you can judge what is accurate or helpful.
Ie, not like people tell you to disobey your parents cuz its a low thing to do.. and you disobey them.. this is bad.
So, you need to also put a judgment in your head when you listen to their views.
Noone can help you change. You have to make your own decision yourself. Learn the positive patterns or make good and useful friends etc.Low self esteem means that you give too much attention to what others think of you. You're just going to have to learn to not do this - to believe in yourself, instead.
How?
By taking the first step, and by responding differently, more confidently, the very next time this happens.
Good luckjust accept your self for who you are now. if you can do that, in time, the change will come on its own
%26quot; People will only like of love you as much as you like or love yourself%26quot;
To expand on this, you will not grow as a person until you can be yourself.
Good luck. Life is hard but it is also beautiful. Take careHow do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?Change happens when you listen to enough people and realize that they are just as clueless and uncertain as you are about the real nature of things.
The difference is that you are open to admitting it, whereas they tend to think that they will believe their own garbage if they yell it a little louder, or tell more people.
Try telling yourself that your views are just as valid, if not more than other people's viewpoints. Realize that being yourself, you have a unique perspective on the situation that no other advice giver has. They are not you, you are not them. They will not take responsibility for you if you fall, and that's really the biggest reason to be your own person.
As for negativity, it's not that different either. If you observe closely enough, you will notice that your negativity is not 100% consistent. There are times when hope seeps through, when happiness gets in. Find out why this happens, and what you can do to expand its influence. Also realize that negative things might have happened to you at some stage that cause you to follow a downward spiral of self-damaging thoughts. Draw a good balance between optimism and realism. A lot of people take %26quot;think positive%26quot; to the limit, and end up more depressed than ever, because now from being negative, they are now trying to control reality. This can only lead to more frustration and lack of faith. You can either attempt to completely control your environment, or adapt yourself to its challenges. Doing the latter will make you much more sure of yourself. There won't be any room for negativity then.
Upon realizing and accepting your right to exist, and the right of your brain to have powerful and intelligent opinions, you will stop listening to people and start listening more to yourself. All of this will be dust off your shoulder when you get there.How do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?What's wrong with listening to others?
The best thing is that you can judge what is accurate or helpful.
Ie, not like people tell you to disobey your parents cuz its a low thing to do.. and you disobey them.. this is bad.
So, you need to also put a judgment in your head when you listen to their views.
Noone can help you change. You have to make your own decision yourself. Learn the positive patterns or make good and useful friends etc.Low self esteem means that you give too much attention to what others think of you. You're just going to have to learn to not do this - to believe in yourself, instead.
How?
By taking the first step, and by responding differently, more confidently, the very next time this happens.
Good luckjust accept your self for who you are now. if you can do that, in time, the change will come on its own
My grandma is CRAZY!! Don't you think she crossed the line JUST A BIT?!
so about a week ago, me and my grandma got in a HUUUGE fight. it's a REALLY long story...feel free not to answer this if you dont wanna read it, lol. but its kinda interesting.
she's moving into a new house, so i came over to help her. i needed to call home for a minute to see when i had to be home, and when i was on the phone i was STILL helping put things away. my grandma was in the house...keep that in mind.
for some reason it was taking forever to get an answer out of my mom, so i was on the phone longer than expected. i walked a little bit away from the car (we were getting stuff from there and putting them inside), and my grandma comes back out. she went up to me and yelled %26quot;jess, you need to get off the damn phone and help us, all you're doing is walking around!!%26quot; and i had 2 people talking to me on the phone by now (don't ask me how, lol) and her yelling at me...i might have raised my voice a LITTLE bit (no i'm not being sarcastic) when i said %26quot;grandma, i was just putting stuff away.%26quot; and she said %26quot;no you weren't! you were walking around on the phone, just letting everyone else do the work!%26quot; i kept telling her that no offense, but she wouldn't know this because she was in the house..so that got her mad and she told me not to get an %26quot;attitude%26quot; with her. i just said sorry but i'm not. then she told me to get my stuff, i'm going home. so i went and got all my crap and went back downstairs. i called my mom back to tell her i was coming home because apparently i did something wrong..now i didn't know she could hear me say that. so she comes in and she said %26quot;oh you didn't do anything wrong?! BULLSHIT!!%26quot; and my mom could hear her..so i just said this is going nowhere and i know i didn't do anything. haha THEN....this is definitely where she crossed the line. she said %26quot;you need an attitude change, you AND your mother%26quot;. OHH BOYY. that is when i flipped out on her. NO ONE talks about my mom, cause she's been through a lot with my dad and everything (this is my dad's mom i'm arguing with btw), but she doesn't know the whole story so she thinks my mom is the spawn of the devil or something. anyway, i told her she wouldn't dare say ONE more word against my mom, and reminded her of when she called her cold-hearted..and then she said it's true. so i got REALLY mad and started yelling at her because she had NO RIGHT to say that to me. she kept saying things like %26quot;when you're 21, i'm telling you the truth about this mess with your parents%26quot; and i said i already knew the truth and GUESS WHAT. she kept telling me the same thing over again. so we got in the car...unfortunately for me, EVERYONE was in the car. my cousins and my little brother, too. we were basically screaming at each other now because she kept provoking me %26amp; trying to make me feel guilty. she just wouldn't SHUT THE HELL UP. at least i eventually became the bigger, more mature person and shut my mouth. but she kept on going and eventually i just told her to shut up because it's still going nowhere and she keeps going and going and going.
okay sorry that was so long...but i really need to know if you blame me. she's always stomping all over me..well mentally, anyway. i have to tiptoe around her so she doesn't blow up like that. i had been holding that in for years and i had to let it out..i don't regret it one bit because she had it coming, talking about my mom like that. she's known to be completely over dramatic and throw little temper tantrums like a 3 year old...this isn't because of old age because she's still in her late 50s. she was just born that way. i shouldn't have to deal with that crap.
so first of all, i want to know if you wouldve done the same thing.
and second, how do i just ignore comments she makes? i can't get away from her because my dad lives at her house temporarily.
ugh she drives me crazy 24/7, what am i supposed to do?!My grandma is CRAZY!! Don't you think she crossed the line JUST A BIT?!First off I think you probably was on the phone longer then you thought.
However why was it your responsiblity to help your grandma move??? My child is 17 years old and the only way I would expect him to help some one else move even a family member (other then us of course) is if you wanted to or he was getting paid. If you through the entire families responsiblities on our kids they would never get a free moment for any fun...
Furthermore you need to stay the hell away from your grandma. I am not saying you was right in the way the arguement started maybe you wasn't maybe you was, I really don't know. However you grandmother should have NEVER brought your parents problems into your arguement. That was way out of line...
It sounds to me like she is angry with your mother and taking it out on you. that is a sick thing to do..My grandma is CRAZY!! Don't you think she crossed the line JUST A BIT?!I guarantee you were on the phone longer than you thought.You could have left a voice mail message or waited til you got a break to make those calls hon.To stop helping when there is work to do to make phone calls aggravates all others who are working their tails off.I see this where I work ALL the time.My grandma is CRAZY!! Don't you think she crossed the line JUST A BIT?!You can choose your friends but not your family! Talk things over with your grandma, she did cross the line a bit...blimey! wot a problem!
ur gandma was out of order and she made it luk like u had lied. If she doesnt understamnd, i would talk to ur dad and explain and just say until she talks to you with respect, that you will not be goin round her house to visit her or your dad. That will encourage ur dad to speak to her aswell. She should apologise. You were also doing her a favour by helpin her move and if shes not grateful... i would wait 4 an apologyYour Grandma did cross the line. She should not have said those things that is for sure. However, I do think that perhaps you should have a waited for a break in the action to make your phone call. She probably felt that it was unfair that you were on the phone while she was working and being on the phone can be a distracting thing and it is possible that you were on it longer than what you thought.
she's moving into a new house, so i came over to help her. i needed to call home for a minute to see when i had to be home, and when i was on the phone i was STILL helping put things away. my grandma was in the house...keep that in mind.
for some reason it was taking forever to get an answer out of my mom, so i was on the phone longer than expected. i walked a little bit away from the car (we were getting stuff from there and putting them inside), and my grandma comes back out. she went up to me and yelled %26quot;jess, you need to get off the damn phone and help us, all you're doing is walking around!!%26quot; and i had 2 people talking to me on the phone by now (don't ask me how, lol) and her yelling at me...i might have raised my voice a LITTLE bit (no i'm not being sarcastic) when i said %26quot;grandma, i was just putting stuff away.%26quot; and she said %26quot;no you weren't! you were walking around on the phone, just letting everyone else do the work!%26quot; i kept telling her that no offense, but she wouldn't know this because she was in the house..so that got her mad and she told me not to get an %26quot;attitude%26quot; with her. i just said sorry but i'm not. then she told me to get my stuff, i'm going home. so i went and got all my crap and went back downstairs. i called my mom back to tell her i was coming home because apparently i did something wrong..now i didn't know she could hear me say that. so she comes in and she said %26quot;oh you didn't do anything wrong?! BULLSHIT!!%26quot; and my mom could hear her..so i just said this is going nowhere and i know i didn't do anything. haha THEN....this is definitely where she crossed the line. she said %26quot;you need an attitude change, you AND your mother%26quot;. OHH BOYY. that is when i flipped out on her. NO ONE talks about my mom, cause she's been through a lot with my dad and everything (this is my dad's mom i'm arguing with btw), but she doesn't know the whole story so she thinks my mom is the spawn of the devil or something. anyway, i told her she wouldn't dare say ONE more word against my mom, and reminded her of when she called her cold-hearted..and then she said it's true. so i got REALLY mad and started yelling at her because she had NO RIGHT to say that to me. she kept saying things like %26quot;when you're 21, i'm telling you the truth about this mess with your parents%26quot; and i said i already knew the truth and GUESS WHAT. she kept telling me the same thing over again. so we got in the car...unfortunately for me, EVERYONE was in the car. my cousins and my little brother, too. we were basically screaming at each other now because she kept provoking me %26amp; trying to make me feel guilty. she just wouldn't SHUT THE HELL UP. at least i eventually became the bigger, more mature person and shut my mouth. but she kept on going and eventually i just told her to shut up because it's still going nowhere and she keeps going and going and going.
okay sorry that was so long...but i really need to know if you blame me. she's always stomping all over me..well mentally, anyway. i have to tiptoe around her so she doesn't blow up like that. i had been holding that in for years and i had to let it out..i don't regret it one bit because she had it coming, talking about my mom like that. she's known to be completely over dramatic and throw little temper tantrums like a 3 year old...this isn't because of old age because she's still in her late 50s. she was just born that way. i shouldn't have to deal with that crap.
so first of all, i want to know if you wouldve done the same thing.
and second, how do i just ignore comments she makes? i can't get away from her because my dad lives at her house temporarily.
ugh she drives me crazy 24/7, what am i supposed to do?!My grandma is CRAZY!! Don't you think she crossed the line JUST A BIT?!First off I think you probably was on the phone longer then you thought.
However why was it your responsiblity to help your grandma move??? My child is 17 years old and the only way I would expect him to help some one else move even a family member (other then us of course) is if you wanted to or he was getting paid. If you through the entire families responsiblities on our kids they would never get a free moment for any fun...
Furthermore you need to stay the hell away from your grandma. I am not saying you was right in the way the arguement started maybe you wasn't maybe you was, I really don't know. However you grandmother should have NEVER brought your parents problems into your arguement. That was way out of line...
It sounds to me like she is angry with your mother and taking it out on you. that is a sick thing to do..My grandma is CRAZY!! Don't you think she crossed the line JUST A BIT?!I guarantee you were on the phone longer than you thought.You could have left a voice mail message or waited til you got a break to make those calls hon.To stop helping when there is work to do to make phone calls aggravates all others who are working their tails off.I see this where I work ALL the time.My grandma is CRAZY!! Don't you think she crossed the line JUST A BIT?!You can choose your friends but not your family! Talk things over with your grandma, she did cross the line a bit...blimey! wot a problem!
ur gandma was out of order and she made it luk like u had lied. If she doesnt understamnd, i would talk to ur dad and explain and just say until she talks to you with respect, that you will not be goin round her house to visit her or your dad. That will encourage ur dad to speak to her aswell. She should apologise. You were also doing her a favour by helpin her move and if shes not grateful... i would wait 4 an apologyYour Grandma did cross the line. She should not have said those things that is for sure. However, I do think that perhaps you should have a waited for a break in the action to make your phone call. She probably felt that it was unfair that you were on the phone while she was working and being on the phone can be a distracting thing and it is possible that you were on it longer than what you thought.
HELP ME?? how do i act?? what should i do?? how do i change?
alright this was a yahoo answer which explains everything about me!
EVERYTHING
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1- your attitude seems like its ready to burst. i've got a feeling (because i was like you till i started getting popular a year ago, i'm now 16) that when you do go to a party, you wouldn't know how to act, you'll probably just sit in a corner looking at other people, sweating on how to react to other people OR you might go to the party and act like a fool and then no one will still invite you to any more parties.
Only you know the answer to this one, as only you know how you will act. you must feel confident that you will neither be too quiet, or too excited.
(THAT IS ALL TRUEEE! HELP)
2- The reason you might not be invited:
- looks - but i doubt thats the problem, ive got a friend who doesn't have the best looks in the world, but she gets invited.
(IM NOT PRETTY)
- attitude- perhaps your attitude seems ignorant, arrogant, scary, annoying, meany, too happy, too excited etc. Work this out yourself.
(TRUE AS WELL)
- Something Happened- Perhaps you was with a friend and then you made a fool out of yourself and hurt the one person that would cause all this
(I CALLED A POPULAR GIRL, %26quot;NOT HOT%26quot; BECAUSE FOR 3 YEARS SHE USE TO SAY STUFF ABOUT ME, ANYWAY SHE FOUND ON AN SHE WENT ON FACEBOOK AN EMBARRASSED ME IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE SCHOOL, HELP)
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all of that is true.. the caps stuff is me.. how do i get rid of all of this??HELP ME?? how do i act?? what should i do?? how do i change?Have you ever notice why almost of the comedian have no pretty face? Because they are not good for it Comedian have no pretty face but they are popular. Why because they are good.Very good. They make people laugh.Pretty woman has also many insecurities in life. Almost all of us has Ifs in us. Why have you do of what you can. Surely you have and strong asset with you. Everyone has. Discover your potential and come into an open. Accept yourself. It is you. Even if you were go into a plastic surgery it is you. You must be happy of who you are.HELP ME?? how do i act?? what should i do?? how do i change?this is really confusing?HELP ME?? how do i act?? what should i do?? how do i change?please wait...... ill have some energy booster to read ur question later i will reply..................you know what girl be real and let your true feeings come out and just act how you feel is right, don't do stuff to be popular and don't do stuff because you know thats how people want you to be. make sure you have a think before you do and say things,
BE TRUE TO YOURSELF AND MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY xxWhat i would tell you is be yourself find friends who like you because you are you. Kids in school can be really mean but things really change once you get out of school. In the real world bullies and preppy people find we can do without them. Your time will come just hang in there.just act like nothing bothers you talk to some ppl at the party but don't hang on their every word and most importantly if all else fails try to witty or any type of funny except at others expense the you'll just be know as the b**** who makes fun of ppl hope this works best of luckthat's really weird, do you know the person who wrote that Yahoo answer?? if so, report them, and if it's just a coincidence, then that's just a really weird coincidence!!
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1- your attitude seems like its ready to burst. i've got a feeling (because i was like you till i started getting popular a year ago, i'm now 16) that when you do go to a party, you wouldn't know how to act, you'll probably just sit in a corner looking at other people, sweating on how to react to other people OR you might go to the party and act like a fool and then no one will still invite you to any more parties.
Only you know the answer to this one, as only you know how you will act. you must feel confident that you will neither be too quiet, or too excited.
(THAT IS ALL TRUEEE! HELP)
2- The reason you might not be invited:
- looks - but i doubt thats the problem, ive got a friend who doesn't have the best looks in the world, but she gets invited.
(IM NOT PRETTY)
- attitude- perhaps your attitude seems ignorant, arrogant, scary, annoying, meany, too happy, too excited etc. Work this out yourself.
(TRUE AS WELL)
- Something Happened- Perhaps you was with a friend and then you made a fool out of yourself and hurt the one person that would cause all this
(I CALLED A POPULAR GIRL, %26quot;NOT HOT%26quot; BECAUSE FOR 3 YEARS SHE USE TO SAY STUFF ABOUT ME, ANYWAY SHE FOUND ON AN SHE WENT ON FACEBOOK AN EMBARRASSED ME IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE SCHOOL, HELP)
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all of that is true.. the caps stuff is me.. how do i get rid of all of this??HELP ME?? how do i act?? what should i do?? how do i change?Have you ever notice why almost of the comedian have no pretty face? Because they are not good for it Comedian have no pretty face but they are popular. Why because they are good.Very good. They make people laugh.Pretty woman has also many insecurities in life. Almost all of us has Ifs in us. Why have you do of what you can. Surely you have and strong asset with you. Everyone has. Discover your potential and come into an open. Accept yourself. It is you. Even if you were go into a plastic surgery it is you. You must be happy of who you are.HELP ME?? how do i act?? what should i do?? how do i change?this is really confusing?HELP ME?? how do i act?? what should i do?? how do i change?please wait...... ill have some energy booster to read ur question later i will reply..................you know what girl be real and let your true feeings come out and just act how you feel is right, don't do stuff to be popular and don't do stuff because you know thats how people want you to be. make sure you have a think before you do and say things,
BE TRUE TO YOURSELF AND MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY xxWhat i would tell you is be yourself find friends who like you because you are you. Kids in school can be really mean but things really change once you get out of school. In the real world bullies and preppy people find we can do without them. Your time will come just hang in there.just act like nothing bothers you talk to some ppl at the party but don't hang on their every word and most importantly if all else fails try to witty or any type of funny except at others expense the you'll just be know as the b**** who makes fun of ppl hope this works best of luckthat's really weird, do you know the person who wrote that Yahoo answer?? if so, report them, and if it's just a coincidence, then that's just a really weird coincidence!!
Am I racist and if I am how do I change my attitude?
I want to give you a bit of personal history. I moved from Europe to US about 3 years ago, and as you might know, Europe is less biased by racism than US is. As a matter of fact, having a black friend back in Europe was pretty cool.
So, I came to the states with a positive and open attitude. But living here made me change my vision. 99% of the black people I work with or know are literally worthless. They cheat and steal and avoid to do work at all cost. They are loud and inconsiderate towards other people%26#039;s feelings. If they borrow money from you, don%26#039;t expect to ever get your money back. They would do anything to dig themselves out of trouble at work and I can%26#039;t tell you how many times I got in trouble because of them. And I work in a hospital, and you%26#039;d expect people there would be more educated. They cut corners and are dishonest so many times that it%26#039;s not even funny. I have tried to keep a positive attitude, because Caucasians do the wrong stuff too, but not as much. But lately, I feel like I am becoming increasingly bitter towards them and I know that%26#039;s not fair but I can%26#039;t help associating trouble with the race.
So, what is there to do?
Am I becoming racist???
Am I racist and if I am how do I change my attitude?So, what is there to do?
nothing.Better leave it unsaid.
Am I becoming racist???
yes,but most of whites and asians think the same thing.
Am I racist and if I am how do I change my attitude?Well you%26#039;re right. Some things are better left unsaid, especially if you have no intention of changing your dirty ways. See some blacks answered you very nicely and you chose not to listen to them, but you point out the ones who rightfully attack you.
and i agree they are loud and im in the eighth grade and all they do is act all crazy in class and distract me, i dont know how to do freakin slope in math class because of them... ahhh y=mx+b ah
good luck
-----jakeYou seem to understand that the sloth of your fellow employees has nothing to do with their race since your black friend in Europe was not lazy.You don%26#039;t like the people you work with. It has nothing to do with their race. Perhaps you should seek employment elsewhere.Kudos to you for examining these feelings honestly.
You have become disillusioned with some recent experiences... just realise it is probably more a cultural and class system than a race issue. POOR Americans, UNDEREDUCATED or UNDEREMPLOYED Americans, with generations of various issues behind them, come off looking bad, many of them deservedly so.
Just cause many of those people are also BLACK Americans does not make it automatically so that their colour or origins, itself, is to blame. I think you know that.jake why is it black peoples fault you are to stupid to do a simple slope equation?I understand what you mean.
Most African Americans are this way and unfortunately its something we can%26#039;t change
This is coming from an Ethiopian, So I%26#039;m no racist
But I promise you there are some educated brothas and sistas that have self respect and are well-mannered
You can find them
Its a beautiful thing if you do
Good Luck! Hello,
Unfortunately Europe has some very bad racist attitudes which eclipse the ones in the US at times. Everyone from Turks, Gypsies, Albanians, Sicilians etc have a rough time of it. At a party last year I had some Romanians and a Hungarian describe the Gypsies exactly as you have described the blacks in America. What about ethnic cleansing in former Yugoslavia?
I guess no one has a monopoly on racism and it looks contagious don%26#039;t you think? Anyway try mixing with positive people, date some of the girls and try having a better time with them. Treat them as you like to be treated and go from there.
Cheers,
Michael KellyYou are already racist. Do you want me to tell you what a white man did to me last night? It%26#039;s ok, I won%26#039;t bother. You don%26#039;t know many black people. And how do you know that Caucasians aren%26#039;t just as bad as the black people you know? Do you know all Caucasians? I am a racialist so let me tell you what I think is the difference between black people and white people. When most black people choose to do wrong, they are more honest about it so that in the future you know better than to let such people cross you. White people on the other hand, pretend that they are perfect and pretend that they don%26#039;t think and do evil deeds, especially towards people of other races. They are ruthlessly hypocritical back-stabbers who are quick to smile at you when they can%26#039;t even stand the fact that you are alive. I find that black people are more honest and in your face with their bad attitude and rude behaviour but with white people you never know what you are going to get and most of the time it%26#039;s a very shocking surprise. No one is perfect but you need to realize that although black people are seen to have certain vices, people of other races see white people as having other vices which, in my opinion, being on the receiving end, is worse than anything you%26#039;ve described. And just so you know most of the black people that I%26#039;ve met in America have been really nice. By the way, what makes you think that Europe is less biased by racism than the US? Where in Europe are you from?
What you need to do is realize that you are imperfect. Do not lend the same person your money twice if they didn%26#039;t return it the first time. Realize that all the white people that my sister works with (some of whom are European) cheat and steal and refuse to work as they know they ought while my sister and another black co-worker do their job properly. Realize that my Mom%26#039;s white co-worker repeatedly steals money from her company. Realize that you are a hypocrite. Realize that many white people cut corners and are dishonest. Why do you think the G8 has so much money and power? Check yourself.
Miss Ethiopian Rebecca don%26#039;t pretend as if you don%26#039;t know that many Ethiopians (and probably yourself) don%26#039;t even consider themselves to be black. A lot of Ethiopians are prejudiced and racist against blacks!!! Moreover, most Africans (including Ethiopians) that I%26#039;ve met have a very strange perception of what it means to be black, which is why when they get to America they can%26#039;t get along with other black people. By the way, I%26#039;m neither American nor African but I am black.yes you are, im a black women and i have a bother who act nothing like that a lot of blacks act like it and i hate it it makes other blacks seem bad and i know what you mean i have two bothers one borrow some money from i never got it back my other bother borrow some money from me i got it back i guss people are not the same but yea i bet they were black guys not black women. Somewhat, but not as much as you are stereotyping, find another circle of black people to associate with-groups, organizations you will find that all black people are not all of the things you just mentioned not even 99%. I would have to say that it %26#039;s just that environment you work in. By the way other people should not get you in trouble unless you are making poor choices. Food for thought you are what you eat-well you are also what you associate with!Yes, you are. Your experiences with a group of people who happen to be the same race, doesn%26#039;t mean that everyone belonging to that race behaves the same way. You know this because you%26#039;ve met black people in Europe. Your problem is in making generalizations. There are good and bad people everywhere. Perhaps you only focus on how bad the black people are because you are white and they%26#039;re not. Try to change that. Don%26#039;t make excuses for white people who do wrong. Forget about their appearance and look at their character. Wrong is wrong, no matter what color you are.uh yea ur a very racist *** bum well umm i am black and i am just as hard working as the next girl...I get straight A%26#039;s in school i am in AP classes and it just depends on ur location where i live there are alot of ghetto racist white people..any race can be ghetto and mean
and ive been to europe u should just try and remeber in every race there are bad and good people...
yes you are being racist catorgarizing a whole race as lazy and worthless is racist
ummm and if u want to talk to me u can..i am always open..if u want 鈾?here is my email maybeboston@ymail.comYou don%26#039;t sound like you%26#039;re being racist to me. You%26#039;re just observing what%26#039;s around you and coming to conclusions. It%26#039;s true that not all black people are like that. There%26#039;s not much you can really do but deal with it. Every race and ethnicity has flaws (those flaws being different in each opinion).You%26#039;ve probably encountered the %26#039;bad%26#039; ones. There%26#039;s cool black people around. Just try and think of it as the nature of those individuals rather than race.
It could probably make you racist if you begin to think all the blacks here act that way. It would seem so. GO listen to Wake up call... good song.
Maybe the people you ran into suck, but you can%26#039;t make judgements on people like that.
My best friends of years and years are white and asian...they became really shady. But that doesn%26#039;t make me turn around and think of all bad people as being white or asian.
The worst thing to do is shield your eyes to people because you think someone is worse...that is a good way to get taken for a very bad ride.
And if those people are horrible find other black people. They rock. I rock. Whoo hooo. And I dont cheat scam or push fault on anyone. So meet new people and retain your open mindness otherwise...I don%26#039;t know your going to miss out on a lot of people. The truth must out sooner or later, I found the same thing happening in my life so I just keep away from them. But I have met some great great great black women who work hard bring up their families alone and try to teach their children right from wrong and worry about keeping them on the straight and narrow. without them I don%26#039;t know what would happen, I say to all the black women out there God love you all and God bless you.Yes, you do have racist tendencies. Unfortunately, it seems like a lot of people in America do. I don%26#039;t know if I should answer the %26#039;politically correct%26#039; way or the realistic and harsh way. Honestly, it%26#039;s probably more of an illusion when you see black people behaving badly. You notice more when black people are acting inconsiderate, moreso when white people act rude and inconsiderate. You are expecting all black people to act this way, so subconsciously you are trying to observe any sort of rudeness out of black people, just so you can continue to have the same thoughts about black people.
Now, maybe there are a lot of black people who act like this at your work. There are definately black people there who don%26#039;t act like that at all. Try to find people like that. I%26#039;ve seen plenty of white people who are friends with black people. They just share similar interests.
I hate to say this, but I almost know where you are coming from. It%26#039;s basically just people raised in different enviroments. Maybe the majority of black people were raised in a different type of enviroment you were raised in. What you think is right might not be what they consider right and vise-versa. I%26#039;d just ignore it and get over it. I doubt they are intentionally trying to be rude.I know what you mean.
So, I came to the states with a positive and open attitude. But living here made me change my vision. 99% of the black people I work with or know are literally worthless. They cheat and steal and avoid to do work at all cost. They are loud and inconsiderate towards other people%26#039;s feelings. If they borrow money from you, don%26#039;t expect to ever get your money back. They would do anything to dig themselves out of trouble at work and I can%26#039;t tell you how many times I got in trouble because of them. And I work in a hospital, and you%26#039;d expect people there would be more educated. They cut corners and are dishonest so many times that it%26#039;s not even funny. I have tried to keep a positive attitude, because Caucasians do the wrong stuff too, but not as much. But lately, I feel like I am becoming increasingly bitter towards them and I know that%26#039;s not fair but I can%26#039;t help associating trouble with the race.
So, what is there to do?
Am I becoming racist???
Am I racist and if I am how do I change my attitude?So, what is there to do?
nothing.Better leave it unsaid.
Am I becoming racist???
yes,but most of whites and asians think the same thing.
Am I racist and if I am how do I change my attitude?Well you%26#039;re right. Some things are better left unsaid, especially if you have no intention of changing your dirty ways. See some blacks answered you very nicely and you chose not to listen to them, but you point out the ones who rightfully attack you.
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Am I racist and if I am how do I change my attitude?You must%26#039;ve known that you would be attacked, and this is how you respond? That just goes to show where your mind truly is. But guess what? Blacks already think that most whites, including Europeans are racists, so you really didn%26#039;t need to say it. Idiot.Report Abuse
I think u areI think you%26#039;ve been jaded by the people that you%26#039;ve hung around with. Notice that before you came here, you didn%26#039;t have these feelings. It%26#039;s very possible that you have a prejudice against blacks that live in the U.S. i feel the same way just try to ignore them at most and dont let them get to ya.and i agree they are loud and im in the eighth grade and all they do is act all crazy in class and distract me, i dont know how to do freakin slope in math class because of them... ahhh y=mx+b ah
good luck
-----jakeYou seem to understand that the sloth of your fellow employees has nothing to do with their race since your black friend in Europe was not lazy.You don%26#039;t like the people you work with. It has nothing to do with their race. Perhaps you should seek employment elsewhere.Kudos to you for examining these feelings honestly.
You have become disillusioned with some recent experiences... just realise it is probably more a cultural and class system than a race issue. POOR Americans, UNDEREDUCATED or UNDEREMPLOYED Americans, with generations of various issues behind them, come off looking bad, many of them deservedly so.
Just cause many of those people are also BLACK Americans does not make it automatically so that their colour or origins, itself, is to blame. I think you know that.jake why is it black peoples fault you are to stupid to do a simple slope equation?I understand what you mean.
Most African Americans are this way and unfortunately its something we can%26#039;t change
This is coming from an Ethiopian, So I%26#039;m no racist
But I promise you there are some educated brothas and sistas that have self respect and are well-mannered
You can find them
Its a beautiful thing if you do
Good Luck! Hello,
Unfortunately Europe has some very bad racist attitudes which eclipse the ones in the US at times. Everyone from Turks, Gypsies, Albanians, Sicilians etc have a rough time of it. At a party last year I had some Romanians and a Hungarian describe the Gypsies exactly as you have described the blacks in America. What about ethnic cleansing in former Yugoslavia?
I guess no one has a monopoly on racism and it looks contagious don%26#039;t you think? Anyway try mixing with positive people, date some of the girls and try having a better time with them. Treat them as you like to be treated and go from there.
Cheers,
Michael KellyYou are already racist. Do you want me to tell you what a white man did to me last night? It%26#039;s ok, I won%26#039;t bother. You don%26#039;t know many black people. And how do you know that Caucasians aren%26#039;t just as bad as the black people you know? Do you know all Caucasians? I am a racialist so let me tell you what I think is the difference between black people and white people. When most black people choose to do wrong, they are more honest about it so that in the future you know better than to let such people cross you. White people on the other hand, pretend that they are perfect and pretend that they don%26#039;t think and do evil deeds, especially towards people of other races. They are ruthlessly hypocritical back-stabbers who are quick to smile at you when they can%26#039;t even stand the fact that you are alive. I find that black people are more honest and in your face with their bad attitude and rude behaviour but with white people you never know what you are going to get and most of the time it%26#039;s a very shocking surprise. No one is perfect but you need to realize that although black people are seen to have certain vices, people of other races see white people as having other vices which, in my opinion, being on the receiving end, is worse than anything you%26#039;ve described. And just so you know most of the black people that I%26#039;ve met in America have been really nice. By the way, what makes you think that Europe is less biased by racism than the US? Where in Europe are you from?
What you need to do is realize that you are imperfect. Do not lend the same person your money twice if they didn%26#039;t return it the first time. Realize that all the white people that my sister works with (some of whom are European) cheat and steal and refuse to work as they know they ought while my sister and another black co-worker do their job properly. Realize that my Mom%26#039;s white co-worker repeatedly steals money from her company. Realize that you are a hypocrite. Realize that many white people cut corners and are dishonest. Why do you think the G8 has so much money and power? Check yourself.
Miss Ethiopian Rebecca don%26#039;t pretend as if you don%26#039;t know that many Ethiopians (and probably yourself) don%26#039;t even consider themselves to be black. A lot of Ethiopians are prejudiced and racist against blacks!!! Moreover, most Africans (including Ethiopians) that I%26#039;ve met have a very strange perception of what it means to be black, which is why when they get to America they can%26#039;t get along with other black people. By the way, I%26#039;m neither American nor African but I am black.yes you are, im a black women and i have a bother who act nothing like that a lot of blacks act like it and i hate it it makes other blacks seem bad and i know what you mean i have two bothers one borrow some money from i never got it back my other bother borrow some money from me i got it back i guss people are not the same but yea i bet they were black guys not black women. Somewhat, but not as much as you are stereotyping, find another circle of black people to associate with-groups, organizations you will find that all black people are not all of the things you just mentioned not even 99%. I would have to say that it %26#039;s just that environment you work in. By the way other people should not get you in trouble unless you are making poor choices. Food for thought you are what you eat-well you are also what you associate with!Yes, you are. Your experiences with a group of people who happen to be the same race, doesn%26#039;t mean that everyone belonging to that race behaves the same way. You know this because you%26#039;ve met black people in Europe. Your problem is in making generalizations. There are good and bad people everywhere. Perhaps you only focus on how bad the black people are because you are white and they%26#039;re not. Try to change that. Don%26#039;t make excuses for white people who do wrong. Forget about their appearance and look at their character. Wrong is wrong, no matter what color you are.uh yea ur a very racist *** bum well umm i am black and i am just as hard working as the next girl...I get straight A%26#039;s in school i am in AP classes and it just depends on ur location where i live there are alot of ghetto racist white people..any race can be ghetto and mean
and ive been to europe u should just try and remeber in every race there are bad and good people...
yes you are being racist catorgarizing a whole race as lazy and worthless is racist
ummm and if u want to talk to me u can..i am always open..if u want 鈾?here is my email maybeboston@ymail.comYou don%26#039;t sound like you%26#039;re being racist to me. You%26#039;re just observing what%26#039;s around you and coming to conclusions. It%26#039;s true that not all black people are like that. There%26#039;s not much you can really do but deal with it. Every race and ethnicity has flaws (those flaws being different in each opinion).You%26#039;ve probably encountered the %26#039;bad%26#039; ones. There%26#039;s cool black people around. Just try and think of it as the nature of those individuals rather than race.
It could probably make you racist if you begin to think all the blacks here act that way. It would seem so. GO listen to Wake up call... good song.
Maybe the people you ran into suck, but you can%26#039;t make judgements on people like that.
My best friends of years and years are white and asian...they became really shady. But that doesn%26#039;t make me turn around and think of all bad people as being white or asian.
The worst thing to do is shield your eyes to people because you think someone is worse...that is a good way to get taken for a very bad ride.
And if those people are horrible find other black people. They rock. I rock. Whoo hooo. And I dont cheat scam or push fault on anyone. So meet new people and retain your open mindness otherwise...I don%26#039;t know your going to miss out on a lot of people. The truth must out sooner or later, I found the same thing happening in my life so I just keep away from them. But I have met some great great great black women who work hard bring up their families alone and try to teach their children right from wrong and worry about keeping them on the straight and narrow. without them I don%26#039;t know what would happen, I say to all the black women out there God love you all and God bless you.Yes, you do have racist tendencies. Unfortunately, it seems like a lot of people in America do. I don%26#039;t know if I should answer the %26#039;politically correct%26#039; way or the realistic and harsh way. Honestly, it%26#039;s probably more of an illusion when you see black people behaving badly. You notice more when black people are acting inconsiderate, moreso when white people act rude and inconsiderate. You are expecting all black people to act this way, so subconsciously you are trying to observe any sort of rudeness out of black people, just so you can continue to have the same thoughts about black people.
Now, maybe there are a lot of black people who act like this at your work. There are definately black people there who don%26#039;t act like that at all. Try to find people like that. I%26#039;ve seen plenty of white people who are friends with black people. They just share similar interests.
I hate to say this, but I almost know where you are coming from. It%26#039;s basically just people raised in different enviroments. Maybe the majority of black people were raised in a different type of enviroment you were raised in. What you think is right might not be what they consider right and vise-versa. I%26#039;d just ignore it and get over it. I doubt they are intentionally trying to be rude.I know what you mean.
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