People are always telling me: %26quot;You just need to change your attitude and look at the good things in life.%26quot;
A 5 year old girl I know was raped, disemboweled and hanged will still alive. This was done by her own horribly abusive parents. She died totally alone never knowing love or anything good. At her enormous school and classroom, only the attendance board knew her name. When she died it was in the local news for a few days. People pretended to grieve but a few days later it was though it never happened. People forgot all about it a few days later.
The people of that community are enjoying their happy attitudes right now. It%26#039;s just another beautiful day for them, there was never a little girl named Emily.
I%26#039;m the only one who still visits her grave and I am a complete stranger.
Why in ****%26#039;s name should I choose to be happy and satisfied when injustice lives so abundantly?|||because darling .... life does go on
while I think it is very honourable and lovely of you to keep this little girls memory alive....
there are wonderful things in life
and keeping a hold of that anger wont do anything but add to the anger of the world
use it !!
join a charity for abused children
get productive
make a difference
(((((HUGS))))))
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people dont only do good just to feel good about themself
people do good because they are passionate about things as you are .... but they turn this into something resourceful and helpful|||Get a purpose...
Find him, and destroy him.
Very slowly.|||Because it will eat you alive. The way you feel today will be who you are tomorrow. I%26#039;m sure Emily would rather have a positive person remember her rather than an angry malcontent. It%26#039;s good that you want to remember her, but don%26#039;t let it destroy you. If you do, her parents will have killed you too.|||Believe me, I know how you feel. But you cannot take the blame for the world. It will only lead to your own ruin.|||I%26#039;m sorry, that%26#039;s horrible.
Work to actively change things for other little girls-- there are lots of things that can be done to improve the world that are only possible if everyone makes an effort. I%26#039;m sure it could be a cathartic experience for you, as well as genuinely bettering someone else%26#039;s life.
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I don%26#039;t think everyone but you who does good things, only does them for selfish reasons. I realize you%26#039;re angry, but stop being so self-righteous.
If you are working to actively change things, you%26#039;re doing the best you can do. I%26#039;ve also seen and worked with children who had their arms macheted off by government sponsered terrorist groups in the Sudan, after watching their parents raped, maimed and mounted on pikes.
I%26#039;ve peer-counselled a girl who worked in a sweatshop wearing a diaper half her life and then was sold by her father as a sex slave-- she lived in one room for 4 years and escaped on her own, and is now, like I did after I was raped, peer-counselling girls who have no one else to turn to.
It%26#039;s easy for people to have escapist attitudes and praise the lord for every goddamn thing when they have no idea, and don%26#039;t care to know, what%26#039;s going on in the rest of the world.
The rest of us are angry, hurting, frustrated and just trying to make it through the day like you are. I%26#039;m sorry you%26#039;re so resentful that I%26#039;ve maintained my ability to be happy at times and laugh while never giving up on the causes that are so dear to me. But, I%26#039;ve worked hard to be able to get through the day, and even enjoy it. I%26#039;m proud to be where I am now, because were I incapacitated by my pain, I would not only be hurt, but I would be USELESS.
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God is %26quot;better%26quot; than this world? He%26#039;s an omnipotent creator and he was somehow powerless to intervene on Emily%26#039;s behalf? You think so highly of a being you know is imaginary, yet think yourself to be the only decent person in this world. Yeah, that makes sense.
Somehow you%26#039;ve managed to surround yourself with reality, but ignore it. I have no sympathy for your bullshit attitude, stop trying to escape.|||There is no cosmic justice putting right all the wrongs. Humanity invented god to pretend there was, but you%26#039;ll notice all the wrongs get righted in the (non-existent) afterlife.
No, there%26#039;s just us
But I don%26#039;t see that as reason to be miserable. For every evil SOB like ones you mention there are some good, good people. The world isn%26#039;t all bleak and people are - in my experience - mostly worth spending time with.
You have one life and you can spend it contemplating the terrible injustices, or you can do something about it. Your call.|||bad stuff happens all the time. Horrible things that make you question all the things you believe. Sometimes they happen very close to home and sometimes you only hear about it on the news. Life isn%26#039;t fair and there is no such thing as real justice. But it%26#039;s no reason not to live YOUR life the best you can.|||Your anger will destroy you...that is why you must look on the bright side...my life has personally been a bit of a horror but I refuse to dwell on it...YOU are dwelling on the horror...and it is making you ill...it is not your responsibility to suffer for the sins of the world...unless of course you secretly enjoy doing just that...so..just as I thought..you do enjoy it...so have fun...|||Because nothing is forever and her pain is over. All thats left is to punish those who did it to her. Everyone needs to move on, honey.|||The world is an evil place.
You have no need to change your outlook. It is what it is--simply the effect of the things you have observed around you.
A person can only be so happy when pain and suffering is constantly among them...and I know how that feels.
You just have to hope that some day you can come to terms with the awful things that happen in this world. You%26#039;re not a superhero, and you can%26#039;t protect everyone.
However, the fact that you go to her grave and she was a complete stranger to you shows that you have an immense amount of compassion. In fact, I have great respect for you for that.
Life is a difficult concept to grasp at times. All we have is our world around us...and you just have to make the best of it.
I hope you find peace in your life very soon. I%26#039;ll be thinking of you. :)|||you have a beautiful heart|||~Beautifully and well said Pangel~|||Be sure they will be punished in the dayafter.
[3.196] Let it not deceive you that those who disbelieve go to and fro in the cities fearlessly.
[3.197] A brief enjoyment! then their abode is hell, and evil is the resting-place.|||You poor person! There is only one God. You should change your attitude! Be happy! God saved us from death. Here is a way to look at it. God puts us on the earth for only a short time..... so we should make the most of it! When our friends and family die it is always sad for us...... we just have to remember that she is with God and we will see her again if we follow God%26#039;s orders and remember: you should not be mad at God for what happened to Emily. I%26#039;ll pray for you. You know not what you are doing.|||Because your attitude will eventually destroy you. What you describe is terrible but our duty to the dead is to keep living and do all we can to make our part of the world better. This can only be done with love. Sorry for your pain but you must go on. Peace and God bless you.|||That%26#039;s horrible! I remember being that age. I can%26#039;t even begin to imagine being raised that way. Sweetie, you can%26#039;t give people a conscience. Most of them have one, and they haven%26#039;t forgotten her. This disturbs people so badly, they don%26#039;t want to think about it. It terrifies you for your own children. Everyone is so full of fear. We need to know our neighbors better. Maybe such as this can be avoided if we just knew our neighbors. I know it%26#039;s inconvenient and we don%26#039;t have much time for ourselves any more. That%26#039;s how these things happen. Some we can avoid and some we can%26#039;t. Getting angry at the others won%26#039;t help. Maybe you can direct your energies into starting some kind of program to make sure children don%26#039;t fall through the wide slots in the floor boards. Do something positive with your anger. Don%26#039;t judge the others so harshly. You don%26#039;t know where they are and how they are. Just like the little neighbor girl who was so hideously murdered.|||There are many who do good not to feel better about themselves but because it is the right thing. Because there are people like Emily whose very lives depend upon them doing good. AND THEIR JUSTICE DEPENDS UPON YOU AND ME.
I am going to dare to suggest that you change your attitude, not necessarily to see the good in life (at least not all the time). I am going to suggest that since you were touched so much by Emily and her trials, pain, and cruel untimely death that you ask yourself what would Emily want me to do? There are thousands and thousands of Emily%26#039;s in the world. While it may be to late for this precious one YOU can work to the best of your ability to make sure that not all end up with her fate (think if someone had been used their outrage over another child in this manner, Emily might not have met the end she did). Let her name be remembered through your actions, that her life and death changed something. Simply put the path your on helps no one, least of all Emily and those like her out there. Peter Maurin ( a monk and co founder of the Catholic worker) said We are God%26#039;s hands in the world and if YOU must be the change you wish to see in the world. Emily because she touched you is a part of you now. Will you let her die and be forgotten again inside of you?
EDIT: %26quot;then my wrath is the only part of me that there should be.%26quot;- - - -that was probably the mantra of Emily%26#039;s parents if you think about it. If you don%26#039;t do something different you run the risk of becoming something akin to them, not the same but something like that. What a slap in the face that would be to Emily.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QDm03Foq2鈥?/a>|||Actually, GOD does care. We, however, lose faith.
Mark 4:38 聽And he was in the hinder part of the ship, asleep on a pillow: and they awake him, and say unto him, Master, carest thou not that we perish?
It would help to read the whole story, otherwise, this verse alone will fill you with more hate.
I will pray for you because you are the only person who cared for her.
GOD bless|||The story is sad, however it happens every day in many countires throught out this world. Injustice happens not because of God%26#039;s failure, it happens because of humans who lack the courage to stand up and speak out.|||God was right there suffering with her when that was happening to her. She is peacefully asleep right now, free of pain, and when Christ returns, he will lovingly resurrect her into a new, physical, eternal body, in which death or pain will have no power. He will wipe all the tears from her eyes, and the things she suffered on this Earth will become a faded, distant memory. The joys of Heaven will be so great, she will not be able to remember what happened before. It will seem trivial by comparison.
My God is a God of justice and mercy. Tnose who did this barbaric act, unless they repent of their sins, will be punished and destroyed permanently.
Jesus told us, that, because of the stain of sin in this world, %26quot;We will have trouble%26quot;. That is why children suffer and injustice is rampant. It%26#039;s because of the sin condition in this world. But God has a plan. Two thousand years ago, He paid the ultimate sacrifice on our behalf so that we can get to Heaven. Satan hates this, because he knows his time is short, so he is doing his very best to corrupt humanity, and take as many humans with him as possible. He corrupted the girl%26#039;s parents and guided them in their actions. They had Free Will and chose to follow Satan instead of Christ. But very soon, Christ will return and destroy Satan and all traces of sin. I am looking forward to that day, because there will no longer be suffering, and all the junk that%26#039;s going on in the world today will come to an end. Until that time, we can expect to see more and more sin and conflict - God described it as labor pains just before a baby comes. The pain gets worse and worse, and then, when it%26#039;s at it%26#039;s worst, a beautiful baby comes, and the mother is overjoyed, and forgets about all the pain. That%26#039;s what it will be like when Christ returns.|||I am so incredibly sorry. I know what it%26#039;s like to be that disgusted and that angry over something like this. I%26#039;ve been there. The little girl who was raped and buried alive by her neighbor a few years ago in Florida was a friend of my family. I was wrecked afterward, and I was told often to change my attitude and try to see the positive. Every time I see her daddy, Mark, on television trying to get laws passed in her name, or that beast of a man, John Couey, who did it, I get physically ill remembering what that time was like. I have no advice to offer you about this. I can tell you that if you ever would just like to rant and vent, feel free to email or IM me anytime. I%26#039;m a good listener, and nothing you say will shock me. As I said, I%26#039;ve been there.|||I would never ask you to be happy or satisfied, but you my friend suffer from sensitivity. It is an affliction, the opposite of psychopathy. You feel rage toward the world because you are powerless over your inability to prevent the innocent from suffering.
May I suggest you take up a cause which you feel is worthwhile? Fight for child protection, or animal rights, or adult literacy; whatever. Something that lets you feel like even though the world is fkd, you are helping someone somewhere and making the tiniest difference.
That is what has worked for me. I am still sensitive, and want to rip the throat out of every hag I see wearing a fur coat; but I am instead putting my energy into helping the animals I care about.
And it doesn%26#039;t matter what you care about, but hold on to that thing which is important to you. If you don%26#039;t find something worthwhile in your life, it will only be a source of misery for you.|||Pangel answered wisely.
I am so sorry.|||This story is terrible and makes me feel so sad, i think the only real justice for people like this is the death sentence, life for a life.|||I makes me depressed|||You are empathic. Look this up on Google, you will find what you need if you study this. The story of Job elicits rage from the depths of my being, it is nothing but a ruse to make people feel guilty for feeling what they feel. Your feelings are valid, they are your reality. You just need to learn how to work with them so they don%26#039;t tear you apart. I wish for you that you find peace. Take care.|||You and anyone else you can get to help you should write a book of Emily%26#039;s story. Apparently there%26#039;s a lot to say about it, and I for one would like to hear it. Stories of child abuse can often cause a parent to calm themselves and realize how fragile a child is.
Also, truly sadistic, just plain evil parents like that need to be dealt with severely. Actually, keeping them locked up (separately, of course) for the rest of their lives may indeed be a harder punishment than executing them. It might also give them time to talk to reporters and social workers and become a part of the campaign to end this sort of horror. That%26#039;s a lot of the value of these sorts of stories: study them and learn how to prevent them.|||Thank you for keeping Emily%26#039;s memory alive and in telling us of the injustice given to her by some very sick and sadistic parents, you help raise awareness that there is a lot to still be done in terms of stopping child abuse from happening.
If your post helps another child, then you have accomplished something very important here. Thank you for this. It reminds me to love my children all the more so they grow up safe and confident. Thank you for this.
But when you ask about God, I once heard something very profound. Emily never knew what it was to be loved. She was born into a world of cruelty. In my faith, we believe that an innocent, one who is this young, is taken to heaven when they die. And if you look at it from this perspective, God actually took her away from the hurt, pain, and abuse; and in so doing, he protected her from further harm. These parents were punished. If she had not died or had not been tortured to this level, could this abuse have gone on for years and years?
You cannot help that Emily. But you can help other children like her. You have a purpose in life, and that is to protect children. But, I want you not to go through life angry at everyone else. In my faith, anger is a sin, when it eats at you to the point where it takes everything from you. Instead, Anger needs to be turned into something positive. Action. Not violence, but raising awareness, educating others. You have a gift to help people see inside of you - that%26#039;s a wonderful talent. You have the ability to write to stir people%26#039;s souls. Not an easy achievement. Instead of being bitter, use this anger as something productive to raise awareness. In so doing, you may help to prevent another situation like Emily%26#039;s.|||read about job he maintained a good attitude despite the trials and afflictions that he faced
