and how to let go of past resentments and angers?
is this what is wrong most of the time with people who are angry?
they are thinking people are wanting to take advantage of them or compete with them and vice versa?
why so many think this way and how to change this to what?
which attitude is better and how makes person different after?
please explain and describe
thanks for your answwers!|||and how to let go of past resentments and angers? I have learned that when people hurt your feelings it is only important unless you insist on remembering it. Forgive (not forget) Let it go, it is not easy to not remember what people have done to you but keep in mind people make mistakes all of the time. We do stupid things and most of the time at the worst moments that you can imagine.
is this what is wrong most of the time with people who are angry? They are misunderstood/believe they are and are not being heard/understood.
they are thinking people are wanting to take advantage of them or compete with them and vice versa? Sounds more like paranoia to me than anything. But that is low self-esteem issues. As far as competing. You could very well be a competitive person by nature. I know I am.
why so many think this way and how to change this to what? Because that is all they know/ been taught by family, friends, etc not necessarily verbally but by watching how they respond to situations and have not been retrained in their ways of thinking. You can change this by taking it one person at a time and one situation at a time. Force yourself to think the exact opposite way of how you normally would.
which attitude is better and how makes person different after? Being positive is great.. Not always able to pull it off, but if you look at a situation think of oh say a woman walks by a guy who smiles at her. Think of why is he smiling. Did he have something good happen to him? Is he up to something? Is he flirting? Is he just being nice? Which is most positive? You do not know exactly because you are not a mindreader. Which one would you choose and why? He may very well have just decided to be nice to someone while he is trying to make himself a better person. Maybe he had been told he needs to smile more.|||a positive attitude releases feel good chemicals in the brain.. such as seratonin and dopamine, therefore allowing a happier less stressed approach to mental requirements and demands.. which, in turn, afford the power of more productive applications from the mind/brain.
