I grew up with negative parents that had a negative outlook on life, which means I tend to be a negative person. Furthermore, I was teased in school growing up, have a hard time believing that anyone is fundamentally nice rather than fundamentally mean. Does anyone have any actual suggestions to keeping a positive outlook and how to repair that damaged psyche? I hear %26#039;keep your chin up%26quot; and, yada yada. But does anyone have a real answer as to what specifically has helped to change your thinking/attitude towards something?|||Because your self-talk is mainly negative doesn%26#039;t mean you%26#039;re doomed to an unhappy or unhealthy life. I think you can learn to turn negative thinking into positive thinking. Here are some ways that helped me to become more positive:
* Check yourself. Periodically during the day, stop and evaluate what you%26#039;re thinking. If you find that your thoughts are mainly negative, try to find a way to put a positive spin on them.
* Be open to humor. Give yourself permission to smile or laugh, especially during difficult times. Seek humor in everyday happenings. When you can laugh at life, you feel less stressed.
* Surround yourself with positive people. Make sure those in your life are positive, supportive people you can depend on to give helpful advice and feedback. Negative people, those who believe they have no power over their lives, may increase your stress level and may make you doubt your ability to manage stress in healthy ways.
* Practice positive self-talk. Start by following one simple rule: Don%26#039;t say anything to yourself that you wouldn%26#039;t say to anyone else. Be gentle and encouraging with yourself. If a negative thought enters your mind, evaluate it rationally and respond with affirmations of what is good about yourself.|||I think you%26#039;ve got to take the whole %26#039;life is what you make it approach%26#039; because life is short. It%26#039;s like when a you think that a horse is going to kick you and you project it onto the horse, so it kicks you. If you automatically expect the worst from people that%26#039;s what your going to get. Maybe you should think about your friends and how amazing the people close to you can be. I could go through a thousand cheesy sayings (%26#039;a stranger%26#039;s just a friend you haven%26#039;t met%26#039;) about this but I%26#039;ll try not to.
I improved my outlook by focusing on the positives and not over-analysing things. Sometimes just taking people at face value can work.
I tend to think of all the amazing people who keep a positive outlook in much worse situations me- if they can do it I can. It%26#039;s better to misjudge someone as nice than as mean. People%26#039;s true colours show eventually.|||When you sign your name, underline it and put an exclamation mark. Seriously, spend days practicing your new signature with it underlined and an exclamation. Change your writing change your mind, don%26#039;t believe it then go look at your hand writing when you where sad, depressed or mad and compare it to when you where happy, excited or in love. I rest my case now go practice your new mind set.|||Changing you %26quot;mindset%26quot; is not always as easy as changing your underwear! Once we embrace something, good or bad, it takes quite a life changing experience to even want to make a switch!
You didn%26#039;t come out of the womb with this conditioning, it took a period of time become who you are now (It%26#039;s all bought and paid for).
Lets cut to the chase, you%26#039;ll eventually need to do this anyway, get some counseling or therapy. You%26#039;re not even sure what exactly is broke/damaged! Change doesn%26#039;t just magically happen, it%26#039;s a lifelong process!
So, where do you start? First lesson, now that you%26#039;re aware of your current frame of mindset, take/accept responsibility for fixing or changing it!|||Try Moodgym ANU
It has all these things and is like a total psych workout / remedy.
It worked for me!
Best Wishes.
Mars Mission.
14th Year Psychology / Counselling Student.
4th Year Hypnotism Student.
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