What should I do or think?

Well, I love my girlfriend of 3 and half years now but she recently decided she wanted a %26quot;break%26quot;. I love her and she loves me very much, we haven't cheated on each other and remain very honest to each other for the most part. We both have our own issues yes, I get jealous that she interacts with her guy friends from high school such as %26quot;i love ya%26quot; or %26quot;miss ya%26quot; or %26quot;hi bebe%26quot; when she wasn't like that during high school...we're both in college now(2nd yr). It's not that i don't want her to keep in touch, but i just don't like how she started very loving towards them...and there have been occasions that one of her friends told her he liked her... i don't like that guy anymore since then, but she still defends him, and not just him...all her friends....and same for another guy who was after her, she defended him all the time when we both knew he was after her...now we know he is a stalked b/c things were getting out of control...well, thats my issue, I get jealous..but when this relationship started I wasn't at all...Her issue is that she gets mad at everything and has an attitude that even her main family notice....they even tell her...%26quot;if you don't change your attitude your boyfriend will dump you and get another girlfriend%26quot;....I told her i wouldn't never break up because of the attitude....anywho, i tell her that i get jealous because partially is me, but it's also how she interarct with her friends and lets them inteact a certain way...%26quot;thats the way they are%26quot; she always says.



Well now she wants a %26quot;break%26quot; ....when we don't talk but we are still %26quot;together%26quot;..which after a week of being a break i called her and found out more about why she needed time...she said...that she pretty much wanted to enjoy her summer without having to worry about me getting upset about her friends...she says that bc i get upset, i am controlling her.When I never tell her to do or not to do anything....

She wants this break to last as long as summer lasts which is one month and a half...and then she wants to start over...

I don't mind that she needs time for herself, but when i found out she wanted to enjoy her summer without having to worry about me, thats just telling me....%26quot; I'm going to put you aside for the summer and start or pick up where we left off....in the mean while, I wait....I love her and she loves me...I know she does because she tells me that all the time....But if she loves me, why is she putting me aside for the summer?

Do i give her the space she wants by not communicating with her but remain together? Or should I break up with her and let her enjoy the summer?

Please help with any advise, I care about this girl so much.

Thank you for your timeWhat should I do or think?i went through the same thing with my boyfriend of 4 years.



you need to talk to her bc the way i hear it, she wants a %26quot;break%26quot; bc she wants to be %26quot;free%26quot; if you know what i mean. So you need to tell he that either she loves you and stays with you or you end it for good bc you shouldnt have to wait around for her to be finshed with her %26quot;freedom%26quot;.

However, she will prob be like, %26quot;you r being a jerk, you dont understand me, we r over.%26quot; and that is obviously not what you want.

so if she TRULY wants her freedom tell her you will take it to. enjoy your freedom. then when the summer is over, see where you both are.



i did the same thing ti my boyfriend, and he fought for me. he didnt want to let me go, but i left anyways. then a week later i realized how much i missed him and how much he loved me bc he didnt want to be without me. we are still together now.



I hope I helped a little. good luck.
What should I do or think?
Actually he just proposed:). And I said yes. I hope for the same future with you and your girlfriend.

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What should I do or think?
Any woman who has a wonderful relationship, will NEVER want to take a BREAK.

This is just some female crap.

I think she is up to something.

Read about the signs of cheating.

Does she do any of those things?

You will be injured by this break and you will feel different about her if and when you see her again.

Ask her if it's ok with her if you see other women while she is on her %26quot;break%26quot;.

If she says yes, then she is no longer your gf.

Go find somebody else, who wants you all the time.

That is normal and natural.
i dontknow maybe she's looking at different %26quot;options%26quot; if you get my hint. but if i were wait till this break thing ends and it will end in two ways. ethier her actually breking up with you or you two get back together and you have got to stop this whole jealousy thing because it most likly looks like your over controlling and maybe she feels that way.
don;t think about it
Love is difficult when you come to a cross road in your relationship. You have some difficult choices to make, but I think you know what you have to do. I am not telling you to break up with her, but maybe step back and see what it is that you really want. Have a serious conversation with her and make some honest decisions before you go any further. Don't put your life on hold, hoping that it will work it self out. Better to be safe then sorry later! I wish you the best
Oh no, no, no and hell no. Don't you see what she is doing? It seems as if she has pulled these dudes in for some back burner fun. If she is flirting with these dudes, talking to them the ways he is, getting their hopes up, with them hoping that one day there will be a chance...all the while, she's enjoying all of the attention. Have you ever thought about what she's telling those dudes about you? I mean, what do you think she tells them about ya'lls 'status'. I know dudes and while some of them might actually be friends, in the back of the mind, there are hopes of tapping it.



I would be curious to know the real story behind the stalker dude, the one that she took up for. I'm willing to bet that you do not know the entire story. I wouldn't doubt it if she encouraged the situation, how do you know that she wasn't leading him on? How do you know she didn't take up for him so you wouldn't go beat his ***, having the dude respond with all she told him. Of course, these are all just scenarios but I've seen situations that look like this. Who tells someone that they want to take a break for the summer, not for the %26quot;relationship%26quot; but so she doesn't have to %26quot;worry%26quot; about you. In other words, she can do whatever she wants to do without feeling guilty about it, knowing that you will be there when she is ready to have you. Are you going to lay down and take it? I wouldn't.



She is not considering your feelings at all. Hell, I would react and respond the same way you have if I had a girlfriend that was talking stupid with dudes in front of my face, the least she could do is do it behind your back. There's two roads you can take with this one, the long one or the short one. You can walk away with your pride and dignity, cut out, take the short road and not stand for this sort of treatment or you could take the long road, which will probably be you enduring bullsh*t like this over and over again until you've finally had enough of it. It will probably take her crapping on you several times before you start to realize that it's no fun, that's how it is for most of us.



Do not allow her to dictate the relationship. She is telling you how it is going to be and you are allowing it. She has drawn the line and told you not to cross it and you have remained in the same spot. Don't allow her to assume that you will always be there when 'she' is %26quot;ready%26quot; for you. Also, I've heard the whole %26quot;summer break%26quot; and sometimes the other one never comes back. Some just want an easy transition into the next phase of their life so I wouldn't sit around and wait for her or it will have been a summer wasted. I would move on with my life, go out and have fun and date around. She's expecting for you to wait by the phone. I'm sorry but if I loved someone...with a mature love, I would not do this to them. It's leaving you hanging, wondering and in limbo- that's no fun and it's disrespectful. She either needs to break up with you for good or be in a relationship with you. Yes, I understand people do need breaks but this sounds like she might want her cake and eat it too.

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