How do you move foward after being in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship?

I had high self esteem, popular at college,,everyone liked me,, a promising career in modeling, got involved with a guy in some band.. Fell in love, he was nice at first then started calling me, ugly, stupid, sl*t, wh*re, Skank, he even said that my father who died who he never met probaly thinks Im a no good S**t, he also told me im a low lifeer from the gutter cause i grew up in a middle class area...he also told me all the time %26quot;nobody like you cause your damn b**ch so change your attitude%26quot;,, he also would walk 3 feet ahead of me while we walk, he would pick up girls #s while he was with me...etc..



I know i was stupid for staying with him but i only want to hear from girls who were in an abusive situation..



How do you ever recover back to who you were? Its been two years since i broke up and i gained about 50 pounds, and i feel like the person i used to be is just a dream, i look at photos and see another girl not me.. i have 0% self-esteem, how do you recover?How do you move foward after being in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship?Everything he said to you was a lie and hes probaly got a new girlfriend who hes saying the same thing too, i think you should be happy hes gone and its over.. Maybe cause he was in some band you thought he was great.. just take it as a bad mistake, if you ever see him ignore him, dont ever speak to him again,, tell him your married..

Do things you did before you met him, start modeling again, join a gym,, re-connect with lost friends that made you feel good..You can be yourself again, just look deep down, know he is a liar and an evil person.

It happens to alot of girls,, dont feel so bad.
How do you move foward after being in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship?
good question
How do you move foward after being in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship?
Read this book...It has been advised by many and i'm sure it will help. Good reviews

How to Break Your Addiction to a Person by Halpern, Howard M.



I know what you mean about thinking that you will never get back to the person you were but good luck hope you get there!
Try to move on. Don't let his words bring u down. go out with some of ur friends to a club or something. or u could always call dr. phil
You give yourself time to heal and to find yourself. It won't be easy, but we'll get through this, don't worry. U can lean on me...
well he wasnt worth your time if i were you id just forget about him and move on with your life everybody makes mistakes but it takes someone special to make them right
Wow.

I was in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship for eight years, but once I got out, my life changed for the better dramatically. I actually LOST 60 lbs, and went back to school...and now, two years later, I'm a completely different person and I've met someone who treats me like a princess.



I think, maybe, the difference is that you haven't yet learned ...deep down...that what a man like that says is nothing but lies. I still sometimes am haunted by the things my ex said to me, but I know, and keep telling myself, that they were nothing but lies to control me, and gradually they have faded almost away.
Honey, just keep moving on. I was in a very verbal abusive relationship for many years(married to him for 12, about 8 were no good, the last 2 were horrible.)

He called me every name in your list, told me I was a horrible mom and wife (even though I supported the family when he couldn't hold down a job), told me I should be thankful for him because no one else would want me.

After I finally kicked him out, I found out I wasn't so bad after all, with the help of some great friends and my family. Yeah, I gained weight too, but I am slowly losing it, and I finally found a great guy who treats me like a queen.

Don't give up, you are none of those things he said and you deserve better. Things will work out in the end. Now I'm happy and my ex is miserable. The best revenge is living well!
Well THANKFULLY you got OUT of the relationship. i got out of an emotionally...turned physically...abusive relationship. If the relatioooooooooooonship was already that abusive before you got married, just imagine how bad it probably would have gotten. I grew up watching my mom's best friend slowly die from all the abuse. i am so proud of you for getting away from that loser. I feel like i am smart and funny and pretty but he made me feel opposite. he made me feel like his kid...then eventually like dirt.



Surround yourself with your friends. True friends. Dont be mad at yourself for staying with him...hind sight 20/20. like i said, you were smart enough to get out before it got worse.



if possible get a dog or cat. i strongly feel that animals can spirtually heal. Maybe even resuce one from a shelter. You could relate to the abused animal. that will be the strongest bond you could ask for. and if you happen (hopefully not) to end up with someone else who is abusive the dog will know. he/she will protect you.



If you want to chat sometime feel free to email me. i am proud of you for seeing the situatioin for what it was. I always told myslef i would never be %26quot;that girl%26quot; and i was. It's like it happens without you even realize it. There are millions of other men who would treat you a BAJILLION times better. Dont lose hope. :)
Leaving your abusive husband is the best thing you did for yourself. I have seen a lot of women who underwent the same experience as you. With the help and support of their relatives, these poor women were able to get up again and stand on their own feet, regained their self-esteem by pursuing their careers and happier without their husbands. If you follow the examples set by these women, you definitely will be on your way to achieving your independence and self-esteem.