Wednesday 26 October 2011

How do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?

i have problems with my self - esteem and i always listen to others. I also have problems with changing my attitude. im very negative %26amp; i don't like that about me so help me try to change please.How do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?If you remember this one important rule in life, it will go a long way to helping you.



%26quot; People will only like of love you as much as you like or love yourself%26quot;



To expand on this, you will not grow as a person until you can be yourself.



Good luck. Life is hard but it is also beautiful. Take care
How do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?
Change happens when you listen to enough people and realize that they are just as clueless and uncertain as you are about the real nature of things.

The difference is that you are open to admitting it, whereas they tend to think that they will believe their own garbage if they yell it a little louder, or tell more people.

Try telling yourself that your views are just as valid, if not more than other people's viewpoints. Realize that being yourself, you have a unique perspective on the situation that no other advice giver has. They are not you, you are not them. They will not take responsibility for you if you fall, and that's really the biggest reason to be your own person.



As for negativity, it's not that different either. If you observe closely enough, you will notice that your negativity is not 100% consistent. There are times when hope seeps through, when happiness gets in. Find out why this happens, and what you can do to expand its influence. Also realize that negative things might have happened to you at some stage that cause you to follow a downward spiral of self-damaging thoughts. Draw a good balance between optimism and realism. A lot of people take %26quot;think positive%26quot; to the limit, and end up more depressed than ever, because now from being negative, they are now trying to control reality. This can only lead to more frustration and lack of faith. You can either attempt to completely control your environment, or adapt yourself to its challenges. Doing the latter will make you much more sure of yourself. There won't be any room for negativity then.

Upon realizing and accepting your right to exist, and the right of your brain to have powerful and intelligent opinions, you will stop listening to people and start listening more to yourself. All of this will be dust off your shoulder when you get there.
How do you build up your self - esteem and stop listening to what others say about you? ?
What's wrong with listening to others?



The best thing is that you can judge what is accurate or helpful.



Ie, not like people tell you to disobey your parents cuz its a low thing to do.. and you disobey them.. this is bad.



So, you need to also put a judgment in your head when you listen to their views.



Noone can help you change. You have to make your own decision yourself. Learn the positive patterns or make good and useful friends etc.
Low self esteem means that you give too much attention to what others think of you. You're just going to have to learn to not do this - to believe in yourself, instead.



How?



By taking the first step, and by responding differently, more confidently, the very next time this happens.



Good luck
just accept your self for who you are now. if you can do that, in time, the change will come on its own