i am 18, a very mature 18. there are times when my mother will come to ME for advice on life. the problem is (and this is mostly my fault) since we come from a very strong and strict Jamaican background, ive been brought up to do what your parents say to do and let then talk to you however they feel but you dear not say anything in your defense. well, in not a little girl anymore and she still feels like she can say anything to me and i jusst sit back and agree wth her. lat night we got in and i said %26quot; if i have a point, i feel as if i am entitled to it and should be able to express it.%26quot; she repliessaying %26quot; and who are you to be arguing with me.%26quot; it was at that point that i realized that she has no respect for me. if i cant curse at her, why must she feel like its appropriate to curse at me? anyway, my question is, how can i help change her attitude? tired of her attitude and demeanor and it makes me want to not respect her, but i dont want to take that route.What can i do to change my mothers attitude?It's a bit of a cliche, but while you're living in her house and she's paying the bills etc. just nod, agree and be respectful. I'm sure if in 40 years time, she moves into *your* house, you'll be calling the shots. If you can't put up with it, move out. As you say, you're not a little girl anymore.What can i do to change my mothers attitude?your mother seem to be quite arrogant
you may not like this idea but if I were you I would type everything i wanted to say to her out very nicely not forgetting to make her understand my feelings and her attitudem print it
and give it to her.What can i do to change my mothers attitude?always be respectful to your mother if she takes care of you (puts a roof over your head, makes sacrifices so that you can have things) for the simple fact that mothers give so much of themselves to their children. (I'm not even a mother). I am 21 and when I look back to my teenage years, I wanted to argue with her and do things my way ... later on I realized how easier things would have been for me if I would just have taken her advice.
Talk to a friend if you are upset or respectfully come to your parent without an agressive overtone, and that may help.Sometimes the smallest changes are the most difficult to make. Understanding that basically all you want is for her to recognize you as an adult, that is still much to ask for.
Consider two things for a moment;
1.) You said you have a deep rooted Jamaican background. That background didn't start with you, your mother was raised that way, her mother, etc.... For your mom this is how she has been taught to act, for several decades now. %26quot;Getting with the times,%26quot; is something that she will struggle with for the rest of her life.
2.) She is your mom, and therefore, to her at least, you will ALWAYS be the child. Granted there will be times she asks you for advice but there will always be times where she will look at you and KNOW that you are doing %26quot;it%26quot; wrong. She may of may not be right in those instances but that is one of the many joys of the parent/child relationship.
Bare with her. She loves you she is just old fashioned. While the thing you want is a very small request it would require a huge change in her core mind set. It's not impossible to achieve this, but very difficult to do. Let her know how it feels when she belittles you, and expect a long process of making this change happen.
It may never come to pass, but regardless love your mother, she's the only one you get!I am going through the same thing you are mom's just dont get us some time if you want my email here it is kimberlyn_pool_2009@yahoo.com and i am not playing iam going through the same thing you are.
